Many of the comments are disapproving, mine will be the same, but I will motivate him in another way. It's very good for you now, for him too. You are younger than his wife, I guess more beautiful, your vagina is narrower (she gave birth after all), etc. These are your pluses in his eyes. You also didn't make serious demands on him - you don't want to break up with your wife, you just want to have fun. Accordingly, you are wonderful for him, because you do not burden him with requirements and problems. On the other hand, most of you are itching not to learn your relatives and not to be heard in the small town. Everything described tells me a few things: 1. You do not love him, but you are very attracted. 2. He may think he loves you, but if you want something more serious, you will fall into his wife's situation. Have you not wondered why this infidelity happened? I can give you an answer without thinking much. First, this woman requires from her husband - time, attention, money, child care. Today's men are largely reluctant to take responsibility for their families. I have a girlfriend who, after much torment, married one. A few years later, when they had a child, he left her for another colleague with silicone in his lips and breasts. 3. There is a real prospect of getting the so-called "bad name" in a small town. Then no one will want you. Yes, once you get a reputation as a family breaker, not only will men shy away from you, but you can lose a lot of friends. In the big city no one cares, but in the small one such things are discussed, beautified and spread for years, because people just have no other job. 4. There may be consequences for you and the relatives, e.g. to fire you. What as your employer is your aunt, the workplace is not designed to push. 5. What would you do if his wife knocked on your door and asked you for an account? What will you tell her? Or it didn't cross your mind at all. The injured woman is capable of anything, you can expect various forms of revenge - from flat tires on the car to inspections by the National Revenue Agency and social isolation. EVERYTHING. Because this woman will fight for her family. Also, this woman has relatives, as does your lover. Haven't you ever thought that in your small town all their relatives might come to accuse you of ruining their family? There may be threats, expectations, harassment. Now think about the moral qualities of this colleague of yours. What we know about him: - He is new to the company and immediately turns to a young colleague, with whom he begins to make love. "He neglects his wife and child so he can have secret meetings with his mistress." Yes, that's the word, you're like that. - He abuses the trust of an employer who gave him a chance, hired him. - He doesn't promise you anything, he just uses you for sex. "He definitely doesn't want his wife to understand." This "relationship" was doomed in the first place. You have two options - to interrupt it before you get caught, or not to interrupt it and wait for the inevitable. If you're lucky enough not to get caught before you scratch your scabies - great, you win the memory of an adventure to warm up your old days. However, if you get caught, be prepared for any options. Do you want this unfortunate so much? "He neglects his wife and child so he can have secret meetings with his mistress." Yes, that's the word, you're like that. - He abuses the trust of an employer who gave him a chance, hired him. - He doesn't promise you anything, he just uses you for sex. "He definitely doesn't want his wife to understand." This "relationship" was doomed in the first place. You have two options - to interrupt it before you get caught, or not to interrupt it and wait for the inevitable. If you're lucky enough not to get caught before you scratch your scabies - great, you win the memory of an adventure to warm up your old days. However, if you get caught, be prepared for any options. Do you want this unfortunate so much? "He neglects his wife and child so he can have secret meetings with his mistress." Yes, that's the word, you're like that. - He abuses the trust of an employer who gave him a chance, hired him. - He doesn't promise you anything, he just uses you for sex. "He definitely doesn't want his wife to understand." This "relationship" was doomed in the first place. You have two options - to interrupt it before you get caught, or not to interrupt it and wait for the inevitable. If you're lucky enough not to get caught before you scratch your scabies - great, you win the memory of an adventure to warm up your old days. However, if you get caught, be prepared for any options. Do you want this unfortunate so much? he hired him. - He doesn't promise you anything, he just uses you for sex. "He definitely doesn't want his wife to understand." This "relationship" was doomed in the first place. You have two options - to interrupt it before you get caught, or not to interrupt it and wait for the inevitable. If you're lucky enough not to get caught before you scratch your scabies - great, you win the memory of an adventure to warm up your old days. However, if you get caught, be prepared for any options. Do you want this unfortunate so much? he hired him. - He doesn't promise you anything, he just uses you for sex. "He definitely doesn't want his wife to understand." This "relationship" was doomed in the first place. You have two options - to interrupt it before you get caught, or not to interrupt it and wait for the inevitable. If you're lucky enough not to get caught before you scratch your scabies - great, you win the memory of an adventure to warm up your old days. However, if you get caught, be prepared for any options. Do you want this unfortunate so much? with which to warm up your antiques. However, if you get caught, be prepared for any options. Do you want this unfortunate so much? with which to warm up your antiques. However, if you get caught, be prepared for any options. Do you want this unfortunate so much?
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In my opinion, don't deal with this colleague ... don't create problems, find someone else with whom you think you can have future success :)