Hello, As, perhaps, it is clear from the title - I do not want to go to team building. I look at my job as a job and no activities outside the office and my working hours concern me. I have no problems with my colleagues - they are literate, do not gossip, do not grieve or slander. It happens that someone makes a mistake, does not do something right, but this is discussed, understanding is shown and we move on. My personal approach is not to get emotionally involved, to accept work just as a job - experience, experience and money. Nothing more. This way I keep my nerves and good relations. If I start to strain, drive, get nervous and take everything personally, I will go crazy.
The problem is with our boss, who always wants us to do different things outside of working hours - to go to the escape room, to another city on weekends, to bars, etc. He brings out the classic banal nonsense about forming a united team, cohesion, a bright future together, five years and all sorts of nonsense sucked out of the fingers. I find it ridiculous, because 80% of the problems we have as a company are due to its solutions and behavior in critical moments - from absolute disappearance for a week, through extremely false promises to us and to customers to unilaterally taking huge amounts. work that he then throws at us. He behaves like a typical Ganyo, who wants to get milk from a chicken without providing resources, time, etc. Then he wonders what happened. It is now our regular practice to do things without telling him to save one-hour tirades, explanations and taking orders with which he is late or, as I said above, just turns off his phone and is gone. Otherwise, he is always busy with "something".
We get along with our colleagues and work very well without his "help". It's just that most of the time it interferes and complicates the situation a lot. This, of course, is discussed with him, but he persists or kills him for some joke that he is just a stupid man and not to quarrel with him so much? !? This whole tirade was to say why I don't want to waste my valuable personal time with teambuilding.
The problem is not in the colleagues but in him. If he doesn't change his approach, we can go to the moon, but that won't help. We will just get stuck somewhere and for 4 hours we will listen to spectacular plans for success and big profits. Absolutely, which he talks about during working hours. I have more interesting and useful things to do. So is there any element of obligation to attend such events? I don't have a clause in the contract that mentions that I have to go. Can he do anything to force me - a written order, a fine? I plan to persist like an absolute donkey, but I'm the only one of them, although it's clear to them. Thanks!
1 jennytsong answered
As far as I know, it's not necessary, but I don't know what your boss will think of. Doesn't life make you sad that you don't want to walk?