How Do I Pull A Mother Out Of Them Without Being Offended?

The Story

I have one problem, and that is that I am too polite and specific to colleagues. It's just that my first boss a few years ago was too conflicted and was complaining about every little thing, and from that time it became something of an obsession with the idea that you should not cause conflicts of work at all costs. It helped me a lot afterward, but it also gets in the way sometimes. I've had a new car for a few weeks now, and since then two co--orcs have been taking me off the rails with their brazenness. The first day the two came and invited me to throw them after work because we live in the same direction. It's not that I'm in trouble, but I'd rather travel alone because that's how I relax and I like to shod into it alone after the workday. I don't have to ride my co-ordinate all day. And frankly, until that time, I didn't get that kind of attention, and all of a sudden you see if we're the big friends. Anyway, I took them. On the second day, it's repeated, but I'm like "come the first week I'm going to endure them, and the second one makes it uncomfortable for them to invite themselves all the time." As you can guess, this has continued for the second week, and one of them started hanging in my office all the time and talking to me about her nonsense right at the times I was busiest. I most demonstratively line up at the monitor and don't respond to me that I'm busy, but she keeps talking. Can I give her a ride again? I thought "well if you're so tactful, what can I tell you? I said I'm in a different direction today. Her answer was "well, well, then tomorrow you're going to throw me in and start talking again." I couldn't take it anymore and I said "not now, I'm very busy" and she came out. Tomorrow I have to think again some delicate lie in the hope that after the 28th time I've lied to them, they'il take and feel it, but I'm sure that's not going to happen. The problem is, we look at each other every day and work together, and if I tell them directly, then I'm going to feel guilty. I don't know why I feel guilty. And yes, I know I'm too polite, and that's getting in the way right now, but do you have any advice on how to get rid of them more delicately when they don't have a simple tact? I would never invite myself to drive me unless he proposed first. I find it hard to believe there are so many cheeky and tactful people. I'd have to endure them a day or two, but I don't have to drive them every day.

Last Updated
June 23, 2020
Author:
maryann_1

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