I have one problem, and that is that I am too polite and specific to colleagues. It's just that my first boss a few years ago was too conflicted and was complaining about every little thing, and from that time it became something of an obsession with the idea that you should not cause conflicts of work at all costs. It helped me a lot afterward, but it also gets in the way sometimes. I've had a new car for a few weeks now, and since then two co--orcs have been taking me off the rails with their brazenness. The first day the two came and invited me to throw them after work because we live in the same direction. It's not that I'm in trouble, but I'd rather travel alone because that's how I relax and I like to shod into it alone after the workday. I don't have to ride my co-ordinate all day. And frankly, until that time, I didn't get that kind of attention, and all of a sudden you see if we're the big friends. Anyway, I took them. On the second day, it's repeated, but I'm like "come the first week I'm going to endure them, and the second one makes it uncomfortable for them to invite themselves all the time." As you can guess, this has continued for the second week, and one of them started hanging in my office all the time and talking to me about her nonsense right at the times I was busiest. I most demonstratively line up at the monitor and don't respond to me that I'm busy, but she keeps talking. Can I give her a ride again? I thought "well if you're so tactful, what can I tell you? I said I'm in a different direction today. Her answer was "well, well, then tomorrow you're going to throw me in and start talking again." I couldn't take it anymore and I said "not now, I'm very busy" and she came out. Tomorrow I have to think again some delicate lie in the hope that after the 28th time I've lied to them, they'il take and feel it, but I'm sure that's not going to happen. The problem is, we look at each other every day and work together, and if I tell them directly, then I'm going to feel guilty. I don't know why I feel guilty. And yes, I know I'm too polite, and that's getting in the way right now, but do you have any advice on how to get rid of them more delicately when they don't have a simple tact? I would never invite myself to drive me unless he proposed first. I find it hard to believe there are so many cheeky and tactful people. I'd have to endure them a day or two, but I don't have to drive them every day.
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lottie_n_liv answered · June 23, 2020
Tell them the next time you're traveling, if you've been pushing so hard lately, you think they won't mind a threesome next time. They're going to blow up hard, and i don't think they're going to invite themselves anymore. Or here's a look at your luck. ;)
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lacyqueen answered · June 23, 2020
I think you're being selfish. I've had a car since the 12th grade, and as you know, someone's been taking advantage all the time, but I don't think it's the problem of throwing someone in the same direction. I think you just don't like them externally, and that's why you don't want to pay attention to them.
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7incheshugedick answered · June 23, 2020
If a car has five seats, what's your problem? You even have to find two more co-ords to take them out, too. I don't see a solution to the problem you can buy a motorbike and then you won't get annoyed anymore.
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mattj409 answered · June 23, 2020
I've worked overseas and there the mentality is quite different people have got me in a position, my car I left it in the bulgarian, i mean, there I was without a car, I was in the place of your colleagues and your goal is to find a balance. And as I understand it, you're a man and two co-ords who make you drive them, you can act like one and not whine. It's clear that they're either pushing themselves or using them.
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scarlettjhones answered · June 23, 2020
Go a week without a car, see how they react. Here, too, I'm interested in maintaining their new attitude towards you. If they ask, tell me it's a repair. You can amplify the effect by saying you hit her and there was an altercation with the other driver and the police. This may reduce their desire to ride them. And then you can tactfully explain to them that you're afraid to ride other people because you could put them in danger. If they're erbap and they're not afraid for their lives, you can tell them you're going the other way if the route allows you to do another direction. And even if he doesn't let you, you go in the opposite direction, see that you're not lying, and on the first turn, you turn. :) It's funny, but if you don't want to upset, you have to make some compromises with yourself. There's no other way to tactfully deal with the invaders, except to fool them until they know and give up, but there's a chance they're going to look at you again. I had another option. You say you have a jealous girlfriend, and you'il have problems if she finds out you're driving other women. You apologize to them (:D), but you tell them you can't risk your relationship.
Do they have any bigger messes for you? Now that you're in a car, you can fit into their criteria for a suitable partner? :D I hope I can think of the subject and see what happened.
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laura_and_daniel answered · June 23, 2020
The author, please maintain your self-esteem and value yourself more.
You don't have to ride anyone in your car, not the ones you don't want. How many of these have I looked at? They don't have a drop of brains. When they see a car, come first friends. They see it as something in common. You want me to tell you that years ago, some pics were writing to me, because I've got a car and come on to a disco, go to a shop and they're playing it so you don't feel like it. Thank God life left me without a car and all sorts of times, and then I saw who my friend was - they got away and I never saw them again.
I understand because it's the same now. You want to sit quietly after work, listen to music, take your route, don't ride the whole office! You don't have to, and please don't do it anymore. Let's not please the cheeky. Let!
A few times, say you're in a different direction, and they'il feel, and you don't care. Enough of the personal favors you don't want. Say more often NO!
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akula778 answered · June 24, 2020
1, and she is one of my mother's years, and for years she has been looking for someone to pollinate her, but no one is too sorry. He's always hugging all the men and hugging them and hugging them, no matter how hard they pull. Bassy sticks honestly. But even if I'm a million, I'm still not going to pass either.
3, the car has no 5, and even 7 seats, and I can take four more besides them. But I just don't want to, and I don't have to.
4, I always get into people's situation. I don't mind taking a colleague if there's a good reason. I even threw one last week that was bad. At least she asked me kindly, not with the idea that I owed her. But i'm going to get intruded on and self-invited every day, with all due respect, but everyone knows their place. Not that I've been driving them.
5, no car, because there's no one to pick up the daughter from the academy. My sun (not sarcasm) works in shifts.
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hottimlovescock answered · June 24, 2020
It's just that every day you're in a different direction, and that's it.
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sabrinnabae00 answered · June 24, 2020
Give them the card from the gym where you bought it ;)
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jolieduvalle answered · June 25, 2020
If you're a state to be offended, are you supposed to drive them? They must make you drive them to take pictures with the car and pretend to be rich, typical lygles.
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banana_slavedick answered · June 25, 2020
It's unpleasant and engaging to be dealing with someone. I have tried to settle as regular passengers, too, but they pass their wish by saying several times that you do not know when I will go or have a walk in another direction. After 2-3 times they realize that they can not rely, which is the purpose of the exercise. There was one who gave up on another occasion - I was in a hurry once and did not take it. He began to displeagle about how I had complicated his life and what he was going to travel with. He overflowed the glass a little bit as well as I was in a hurry - I yelled at him pretty rough and then he never wanted to come. I'm not trying to smear the situation. I went too far, but he was too drooling, too. From time to time, i have no problem driving someone, but relying on a daily ride I can't stand it at all.
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sophia_666 answered · June 25, 2020
Ask them for the transport money - for gasoline, for the depreciation of the car. I think that's going to give them a lot of enthusiasm.
I'm a woman, but I also have a car and I'm a driver. If I want to take someone somewhere, no one can stop me, and if I don't want to, no one and nothing can make me do it. There's nothing, author, to wonder how tactfully to blow off the two sticks - ones of delicacy and tact, I tell you from experience. And there's nothing to pretend to go in the other direction, turn around and hide - it's your car, no one owes anything. In a straight text, you tell them that you prefer to travel alone. And that's it. And if they pout, they're very healthy.
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littlemariell answered · June 26, 2020
Haven't you heard of shared travel, environmental protection, to reduce cars in cities to make us cleaner?
Specifically, when you don't want something - don't do it when you don't want someone - tell them.
Mron-mrun.
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irithel_babe answered · June 26, 2020
You got a big problem.
I'd give someone to want to get in my car as I'm very lonely :(
I'm even being shunned. I'm so envious of you.
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hungdaddy9in answered · June 26, 2020
Yes, number 12 is absolutely right. Really, what do you care if they're going to get affected? Are they going to find your comfort?
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melissa_2233 answered · June 27, 2020
I cut without caring anymore, and I have no problem! It was an "amman" of annoyances! Cheeky and cheeky! I like being alone in my car, putting an AC/DC on my face, and not breathing my air and worrying. My license is mine, my car is mine, my gas, my time and my personal space too!
I was like you, author! Sacon, don't offend blah blah, they got on my head! And when I'm "flipped" at the end, now I'm the jerk, the hook, and I'm great. They wanted to drive them after work to shop, that it would weigh on them. Think about how far their inspirility goes if you don't squat on time.
Buy cars if they're so in need of transportation!
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scruffyjeep answered · June 27, 2020
Do they know which garden your daughter is in and that you're taking her? Because if they don't know this, it can automatically become your excuse (which won't be far from the truth, anyway). You're just saying you have a commitment to pick her up, and it's not convenient. If you have to lie that you have recorded her for daily activities outside the kindergarten and the place is in a completely different direction, so they will not dare to ask you again. Don't tell your mother's milk, decorate things - the woman will pick up, go to shops, you and a friend will be visible, if the work allows you to go a few minutes early so you don't get detected. I guess it doesn't work with tact, so you're going to have to lie if you don't want to be direct.
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little_kitty0711 answered · June 27, 2020
When I cut her off the co-star with "not now, I'm too busy," she hasn't bothered me for three days. I hope she knew it.
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scarlett__steel answered · June 27, 2020
How old are you people? You're grown-ups, I guess, you're a grown-up. There's a pretty good comment here, but if you want to get out your stupid one, you can offer them some work after you take them home, though. I bet the cockaas will be pulled from you in a second. Everyone is willing to do him favors, but if you have to get each other's favors, they'il run away right away. Besides, what's there to tell them, for example, that you're tied up and don't want any other female attention around you. Or be direct and tell them you're not a cab.
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isa_ts answered · June 28, 2020
Simply in a very polite and calm tone you say to them, No offense, but you! :)
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owt answered · June 28, 2020
Well, you have every right to say no. If I were you, I'd charge them $1 for the ride. It's a ride, and you pay for the gas. Even if I were in their shoes, I would react the same way, that's insane. I'm just wondering?
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sweetcouplehotxxx answered · June 28, 2020
You come in, you smile american, and you say, dear co-star, I can't drive you anymore. I'm not going to get that opportunity. Have a good night, beauties /even if they're uglier than King Kong/ - and you close the door. And a point, no explanation. That's enough. You don't have to say anything else, lie and cheat.
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vallolett_sexy answered · June 28, 2020
The point of doing this is precisely to hurt them to get away from you. When I have a squeaky hysteria across the street, I just tell her that when she gets angry she gets uglier, she starts shaking, and that further highlights how sagging her breasts are and well, to put on more makeup. When she says "I wear makeup," I answer with "Oh, my condolences to your partner," in which she often leaves and never talks to me :)
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wannabnaked35 answered · June 28, 2020
Number 22 hit the 10! That's exactly how it's done. A neighbor had stuck to my husband- driving her and picking her up from work every day. Yes, they're in one direction, he's traveling anyway, but when I was sick with the flu once, I felt like I was burning with a fever and called him to go through the work to pick me up, he said, "Well, I can't, because I have to take Maria." I took a cab, too. I took it as a betrayal, and I told him. His answer was like that of the author: "But she would otherwise be offended." Well, wouldn't I be offended if I couldn't count on my husband when I was sick, drive me home in the car we bought with common money?! He knew what he was talking about when we were doing some repairs, but I had to go on a business trip as a matter of urgency. My husband says, nothing, I'm going to call Maria to hand me the tools. Did Mimeo come? No, of course! Since then, taxi services have limited themselves to emergencies: if she breaks her arm, we will take her to the hospital. But the ride to and from work is over.
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derrick_and_brittany answered · June 29, 2020
I'm driving colleagues right now, i don't have a problem with it, because our location is a little fucking, and I'm getting into their situation. But these colleagues are different right now. At the previous job, some of my co-ladies were putting themselves in a ride to some extent, but my wife found out, she knew it was just a ride, but she told me that she didn't like other women sitting in the car, and in the front seat. First, because this is our car, and secondly someone will see me and they'il start talking right away. And without blinking my eye, I just told them (supposedly a joke, but to know it was true) that women can't ride anymore because I'm in trouble. They started, but what is it," I replied, that this is my wife's will, and I have no intention of arguing with my wife over colleagues who are not my and my family.
But 22 is the right one.