Hello. For about a year now I have been working in a very nice place - with good colleagues, a normal salary, good bosses, a calm atmosphere. Yes, but not everything is so perfect. Fortunately or not, I was put in a room with a woman - my colleague. The other colleagues (they are quite tactful, as well as the whole team) hinted to me at the beginning that it is special, closed, etc. There was no problem for me, I do not like someone to constantly chatter to me, and I am not one of the most -speaking. Yes, but it turned out to be VERY special. The problems with her started. I am generally silent and do not conflict, but she loves to do so. She constantly "gates" me in front of the bosses, with small things - of the sort that I hadn't told her that I had done some work, that I had taken notes all the time, some such stupid things. But with such a desire to discredit me. The bosses are cool, I guess they know she's, but everyone's shaking over her - probably because she's a TEMP, I know. He rarely speaks, but when he says something, he hits right in the tenth, he just tramples me mentally and emotionally. Constantly, if I've made a mistake, she laughs at me - she says things like "Hah, was how can you write this, was", etc. In the rare cases where we communicate, she discusses with colleagues - how they did nothing , they were idiots, drummers, only she worked for the whole team. She is critical of everything and everyone. The dumbest thing is that he doesn't show me anything. If I ask her something - I am told: "You can't do this" and so far. He takes some things and does them for me because "you can't do it." Always, every job I've done and checked by bosses, she questions and keeps track of who made me do this ... She takes it and goes to say that I was wrong. There are some such things. I have the feeling that she is afraid that I will eat her bread. If I do a lot of work (I like to finish everything at the moment and not leave for another day) and dissatisfaction begins ... why am I in a hurry, I did not take my eyes off the computer, they would give me more work now ... Abe horror . I want to explain to her that this job is only temporary, I do not intend to stay there, but now that I am with a small child it is comfortable for me. Fortunately, the other colleagues compensate - they call me and explain different things to me, they have never directly said anything bad about her, but they probably put themselves in my place. I take her every word. I do not want to leave in the next 1-2 years, and because of her. I'm not in conflict, that's why I'm always silent, but this person just strains me. Because there is a disease, I do not want to get into conflicts, because I just comply. I tried something - as we talk well, so the next moment he goes and says something ironic about me in front of the bosses. Do it while I'm in the room. Which is insulting. After receiving a reprimand from the bosses with something like: "Really, A **", she stays until the end of the day with a huge smile. If you can give me some advice on how to make it "go in one ear and go out the other", how not to be impressed by her words and to be able to ignore all this negativity she spits out against everyone in the company . Thanks in advance. I tried everything - as we talk well, so the next moment he goes and says something ironic about me in front of the bosses. Do it while I'm in the room. Which is insulting. After receiving a reprimand from the bosses with something like: "Really, A **", she stays until the end of the day with a huge smile. If you can give me some advice on how to make it "go in one ear and go out the other", how not to be impressed by her words and to be able to ignore all this negativity she spits against everyone in the company . Thanks in advance. I tried everything - as we talk well, so the next moment he goes and says something ironic about me in front of the bosses. Do it while I'm in the room. Which is insulting. After receiving a reprimand from the bosses with something like: "Really, A **", she stays until the end of the day with a huge smile. If you can give me some advice on how to make it "go in one ear and go out the other", how not to be impressed by her words and to be able to ignore all this negativity she spits out against everyone in the company . Thanks in advance. she stays until the end of the day with a huge smile. If you can give me some advice on how to make it "go in one ear and go out the other", how not to be impressed by her words and to be able to ignore all this negativity she spits out against everyone in the company . Thanks in advance. she stays until the end of the day with a huge smile. If you can give me some advice on how to make it "go in one ear and go out the other", how not to be impressed by her words and to be able to ignore all this negativity she spits out against everyone in the company . Thanks in advance.
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Accept her as she is. If someone accuses you of being a Martian, you will laugh at him, you will not go on explaining that you have nothing to do with Fox Mulder. Use positive messages during conversations. You say that it is special, all people are different from other people, ie special compared to some. When we focus on the problems, they get bigger. You have to focus on her positive qualities (there are no people without positive qualities), compliment her (not remade). She, like everyone else, senses human opinion, she is trampled by negative opinion, so she kills complexes by drowning others. = Tell her that she is important and valuable to you. But don't pretend if you bask her, she'll feel it right away = Encourage her good sides. Sometimes he compliments her on clothes, make-up and so on. = If she insults you, tell her you're not offended because you know