Your Partner Is Your Reflection. What Do You Think?

Hello readers of spodeli. On this beautiful Sunday morning I will share with you some thoughts and new knowledge for me in the field of male-female relationships. I would like if you find them close to you, or just interesting to discuss them and possibly be mutually beneficial. In recent months, our family has been experiencing a relationship crisis. This prompted me to read several books, various materials, on the relationship between man and woman. I will not tell my personal story in detail, there are many similar stories here. But I will give examples with myself. Here is my first question. What do you think about the theory that your current partner is your mirror image. For the fact that his attitude towards you is an absolute copy of your attitude to myself? And that the things that bother you the most about his character are actually the things which you have to work on in yourself? I have encountered this theory in too many sources to ignore it. There was an exercise in one of them. I had to make a list of these things and then turn it over to myself. Here is an example: He is a workaholic = In this period of my life I am not very ambitious, I am afraid of risks, even the possible return to the work environment scares me a little, because I do not feel very up to date with real life, motherhood. He is selfish, I am the last hole in the kaval = I recently went to a wedding alone. At the last minute, my husband told me he didn't like it, didn't care about my girlfriend, and it was hellishly hot. I have attended many of his engagements without any desire. Simply because "that's the way it should be". And maybe I secretly envy him that he doesn't have such prejudices. I'm not even sure whether I have voiced my reluctance to go somewhere with him. Or I just went because it's accepted.

The truth is that I am the last hole in the flute and in my own head. First it's the child, then my husband, then home and if there is time left ... I think you understand the meaning of the exercise. Another way to determine if your partner simply reflects your attitude toward yourself is to see if your previous partners did not reflect the same. I realized that I left every relationship because of insufficient attention, time and love. I was with a person who is studying in 3rd grade and has no time for me, with an athlete who is dedicated to himself, with a person who lives in another country and now with a workaholic. You will say "how she chose them", I fell in love. I fell in love with completely different people in my life, and the problem remained the same. Not enough time, attention and love. I never gave myself these things, I preferred to take care of others. It's easier, they tell you exactly what they want, you feel some significance and you expect someone to take care of you, because you don't do it yourself. Folks, isn't this pure selfishness disguised as care? !! I don't know if I left my happiness in the hands of my husband irresponsibly. Who would take such a big responsibility? !! Here's the good news. According to the theory, we do not need to shake our heads, wonder how to fix the relationship with the partner. And to change the attitude towards ourselves. I started playing sports, I took a driving course, I started letting my husband know what time he had to get home to go out for a whiskey with a friend. These are, perhaps, insignificant things, but for me it is a lot. I definitely feel better. My husband is starting to appreciate my time, asks "are you free" before it didn't make sense, I was always available. They stopped the comments "What's so great about looking after a child?", He is already aware that it's not so easy.

Our relationship has not turned rosy, but I stopped waiting for it to make me happy. I took on this task myself, and he assumed that he had begun to help. Perhaps it is fair to say that my first attempts to steal my time and attention led my husband to the decision to move out. I didn't look for him and a week later he came home alone with a desire to make things right. So, I wanted to share this theory, which made me take responsibility for myself and made me a slightly happier person. Let me end by saying, "Dear ladies, no man can make an unhappy woman happy, and no man can make a happy woman unhappy." I was always available. They stopped the comments "What's so great about looking after a child?", He is already aware that it's not so easy. Our relationship has not turned rosy, but I stopped waiting for it to make me happy. I took on this task myself, and he assumed that he had begun to help. Perhaps it is fair to say that my first attempts to steal my time and attention led my husband to the decision to move out. I didn't look for him and a week later he came home alone with a desire to make things right. So, I wanted to share this theory, which made me take responsibility for myself and made me a slightly happier person. Let me end by saying, "Dear ladies, no man can make an unhappy woman happy, and no man can make a happy woman unhappy."

I was always available. They stopped the comments "What's so great about looking after a child?", He is already aware that it's not so easy. Our relationship has not turned rosy, but I stopped waiting for it to make me happy. I took on this task myself, and he assumed that he had begun to help. Perhaps it is fair to say that my first attempts to steal my time and attention led my husband to the decision to move out. I didn't look for him and a week later he came home alone with a desire to make things right. So, I wanted to share this theory, which made me take responsibility for myself and made me a slightly happier person. Let me end by saying, "Dear ladies, no man can make an unhappy woman happy, and no man can make a happy woman unhappy." already aware that not so easy. Our relationship has not turned rosy, but I stopped waiting for it to make me happy. I took on this task myself, and he assumed that he had begun to help. Perhaps it is fair to say that my first attempts to steal my time and attention led my husband to the decision to move out. I didn't look for him and a week later he came home alone with a desire to make things right. So, I wanted to share this theory, which made me take responsibility for myself and made me a slightly happier person. Let me end by saying, "Dear ladies, no man can make an unhappy woman happy, and no man can make a happy woman unhappy." already aware that not so easy.

Our relationship has not turned rosy, but I stopped waiting for it to make me happy. I took on this task myself, and he assumed that he had begun to help. Perhaps it is fair to say that my first attempts to steal my time and attention led my husband to the decision to move out. I didn't look for him and a week later he came home alone with a desire to make things right. So, I wanted to share this theory, which made me take responsibility for myself and made me a slightly happier person. Let me end by saying, "Dear ladies, no man can make an unhappy woman happy, and no man can make a happy woman unhappy." that my first attempts to steal my time and attention led my husband to the decision to move out. I didn't look for him and a week later he came home alone with a desire to make things right. So, I wanted to share this theory, which made me take responsibility for myself and made me a slightly happier person. Let me end by saying, "Dear ladies, no man can make an unhappy woman happy, and no man can make a happy woman unhappy." that my first attempts to steal my time and attention led my husband to the decision to move out. I didn't look for him and a week later he came home alone with a desire to make things right. So, I wanted to share this theory, which made me take responsibility for myself and made me a slightly happier person.

Let me end by saying, "Dear ladies, no man can make an unhappy woman happy, and no man can make a happy woman unhappy." no man can make an unhappy woman happy and no man can make a happy woman unhappy. " no man can make an unhappy woman happy and no man can make a happy woman unhappy. "