Hello, I have been planning to write here for a long time, but I never dare. However, I thought it was necessary to share my opinion. For almost two years I have been studying and studying the relationships, marriages or cohabitation of couples with different religious views. I don't consider it a job, because I don't have any professional qualification, but I don't point it out as another waste of time. I like to delve deeply into things and discover the essential, which is the factor in almost any such relationship. I have examined the cases of almost 30 families of different ages, 15 on a family basis and 18 in non-committal relationships, on the basis of which I will present my conclusion. I can say quite openly and without any doubt that of all these couples, only one lives happily, and not in the full sense of the word, this happens at the cost of many compromises. Islam and Christianity are two very close religions, but of a radically opposite nature. Yes, friendship is possible, the relationship is really strong, but in love the future is disastrous. A clear example is the man and woman I met and I was quite impressed as individuals and people, but unfortunately they both saw that their love is not a fairy tale. She was a 26-year-old Muslim, he was a 30-year-old Christian. They met at university, first they were friends, and then their love ignited. At first they were very happy, they did not pay attention to their religions, but internally each of them deeply valued what he believed in. They did not have sex, she wanted to be a virgin until the wedding, that was her only condition.
Married, there was no obstacle on either side of the family, but the harmony was yet to fade. They had a child, a boy. The man really wanted to bear the name of his grandfather, who was George, the woman did not agree with this decision, but still accepted, because she had also set a condition in the beginning, now they were equal. Two years later, Kemal, the new child in the family, appeared, this time named after his other grandfather. Both boys grew up in a very confused world. One was circumcised and brought up according to Islamic values, the other was baptized according to Christian values. Gradually, a front line was formed and the children were separated, one with his mother, the other with his father. They began to hate, criticize, and look for weaknesses in the opposite religion. The couple addressed the children with "your son". Love was long gone, the understanding was gone, and marriage was doomed to failure. They separated by mutual consent and each took the desired child. They loved both very much but felt closer to the boy of their religion. The children still can't stand it, even though they go to the same school. And their parents have new relationships, this time with members of their religion, and say they are happy. They say that the biggest mistake they have made is to create a family in which there is no unity. This is just one story, but all the examples end with this end-parting.
As much as you love a person, as much as you think you are happy, the pride and environment in which you grew up, the way you were raised, and what you believe in cannot change. No one can give up his beliefs, even if he does, there is always something left that torments him, and over time the pain increases. I respect people, I don't mind mixed marriages, but life shows otherwise, no matter how hard you try, you can't escape reality! Do not doom your future children to misery, do not doom you! When creating families, do it with people of your religion!
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I support the author.