Hello! I have been reading the stories here for some time and I decided to write my own. I am 32 years old with an eight-year serious relationship. He is 35. Before things got worse with my boyfriend, he haunted me for almost two years, proving to me that I would not go wrong. Before him, I had only two failed relationships. We have no children and we are not married. We have been living together abroad for four years. Of course, when we argue, we quickly get along. We have fun together and even if I get angry he looks at me, laughs, I understand how absurd the situation is and I forget why I got angry. We can count on each other, our communication is very good. He has no serious flaws, except that at his age he does not stop playing video games. It's not a big problem for me, as long as it's his hobby and it satisfies him, I accept it. There are positive traits that are not to be overlooked. He is kind, not naughty, not irritable and not easily angry. We live in an apartment whose rent we divide, we divide all the bills, there is even a bill that I pay extra. I am proud and I would not let a man support me.
And it is very strange to me when I read that women looked at the material, but each for himself. Yes, the Bulgarian women I communicate with here categorically tell me that I am crazy. He had to support me. One not only wants her husband to support her, she has raised the bar very high, but she also does nothing at home. I wash, clean, go to work. I used to cook, but I gave up and not because I don't like it. My friend is very tight. He does not agree to give money for a common market, and I, in turn, can not deprive myself of fruits and vegetables and be only canned and semi-finished pizzas. Sometimes when he runs out of canned food, he takes it from the food, which I bought. Often when I cook for myself, as long as he likes it, I leave it to him. I want him to go to the store, go shopping, bring the products and tell me - I want to eat this and that, if you are busy cook. If we rest together, we stay at home - the reason is not given money. If you mention cinema, the ticket is very expensive. If I paid he would come. Of course, I'm not one of those women who will go to the movies, and the fact that someone doesn't want to come with me doesn't stop me. When we left, I left with the clear idea of moving forward together. I offered him to raise money and buy a car in the near future, we needed it. I don't drive. He refused me. I suggested that we make a general account and pay a small amount each month.
He refused again. I suggested that we set a goal and collect, for example, a house in BG to rent. He said, that if we ever decide to buy anything, I have an account, he too, we enter equally. And renting such an apartment will not be enough for anything. I still help my family and send money every month. With this tightness, he raises money under the pretext that it is for our future family, which he wants. I do everything myself, if there is a problem if I have to talk to a landlord, I wrote him a CV, I looked for him and found a job. I lost my job twice in one year. It was his birthday and I apologized to him that I couldn't buy him a present, that the period was difficult for me. My birthday came and he freely told me that he had received nothing for his own and I would receive the same.
If I want to do something, it's all a deal, I'll do it, but you'll do something else. About sex, we're not intimate, once every 4-5 months and I'm the one which is trying to initiate things. Sex has never been intense, even in the beginning, several times a month. I didn't pay attention, I thought it was because we didn't live together. I recently read that each person has a different sexual activity, some are passive, others moderately active, and still others active. There is no way to get between the first and the last. I tend to think that is the case. A long time ago I had a colleague, a Western European, with whom I worked for a whole year, younger than me at 27. He showed strong sympathy for me. He helped me, talked to my colleagues all the time about me, looked for contact, I was funny to him. He left his job, a few months later I left, and an acquaintance had taken him with him and offered me a job.
I went for a few hours to see if the place was to my liking. I met him again, he was glad to see me. We're done together, we drank coffee. Then we wrote to each other. We drank coffee again and somehow he admitted to me that he had strong sympathies for me. He revealed to me other things that are not to be neglected, he wanted to be honest with me. I liked him too. My friend knew that I had dated him several times. I did him a favor or two and we had to see each other. About 2-3 months we saw each other from time to time for coffee, I never hid that I have a friend. He called to hear how I was, we had completely normal video chat conversations, we gave each other courage, we talked about work, plans, who wants what from life. We wrote to each other. He shared a few months later that he had feelings for me. And no, I didn't sleep with him. I have a principle, and that is not to do things that I can't face, that I can't stand behind. Anyway, he realized it wouldn't work, he waited, he asked who I had chosen and that he would not be in such a position. He stopped communicating with me. Then he renewed it again and even saw me by chance with my friend. He immediately wrote to keep track of who I had chosen, etc. He stopped again. A year later, he wrote to me just to find out if we were still together. He backed away again, because he knew the answer.
No, I have no illusions, I do not write about it and that is not the point. We do not communicate. I realized I wasn't happy. Well, after so many years, I feel exhausted and tired. I have been thinking for some time that I have no future with my boyfriend. He wants a family, and I'm not ready to give to everyone - financially, physically, emotionally. I am a determined person, but the years have an impact and you wonder where. Can you start over? I have friends in another country who are ready to lend me a hand, to change the situation, to start over, to remove the burden that weighs on me. I have been visiting them for the last 2-3 years, I like it there, the situation is different. I don't miss fans, I make an impression. I want to ask, both men and women, would you maintain such a relationship, say you have feelings? And to men, would you have a relationship with a 32-year-old woman like me who won't be desperate for marriage and children if it happens? I have my hobbies and interests, I play sports, skate, I love adrenaline, I am wild as a child. I am energetic. I read. I look good for my age, I have a nice body, I'm not materialistic, I try to cope. Of course, I also have negative traits. Would you start over? Is fear a factor? I don't miss fans, I make an impression. I want to ask, both men and women, would you maintain such a relationship, say you have feelings?
And to men, would you have a relationship with a 32-year-old woman like me who won't be desperate for marriage and children if it happens? I have my hobbies and interests, I play sports, skate, I love adrenaline, I'm wild as a child. I am energetic. I read. I look good for my age, I have a nice body, I'm not materialistic, I try to cope. Of course, I also have negative traits. Would you start over? Is fear a factor? I don't miss fans, I make an impression. I want to ask, both men and women, would you maintain such a relationship, say you have feelings? And to men, would you have a relationship with a 32-year-old woman like me who won't be desperate for marriage and children if it happens? I have my hobbies and interests, I play sports, skate, I love adrenaline, I am wild as a child. I am energetic. I read. I look good for my age, I have a nice body, I'm not materialistic, I try to cope. Of course, I also have negative traits. Would you start over? Is fear a factor? if it happens, it happens. I have my hobbies and interests, I play sports, skate, I love adrenaline, I am wild as a child. I am energetic.
I read. I look good for my age, I have a nice body, I'm not materialistic, I try to cope. Of course, I also have negative traits. Would you start over? Is fear a factor? if it happens, it happens. I have my hobbies and interests, I play sports, skate, I love adrenaline, I am wild as a child. I am energetic. I read. I look good for my age, I have a nice body, I'm not materialistic, I try to cope. Of course, I also have negative traits. Would you start over? Is fear a factor?
1 cindyanddani answered
Abe, dump that lonely individual. I wouldn't be with one. Aren't we going to shop and eat together? Goodbye, to live separately. He is self-sufficient and not suitable for a family. There are people who are a family type and it is obvious to them, yours is not one of them. The one from the chat and he ... Why is he your husband, actually? And yes, you want a family. I do not want, not a family of this type, which I see around, do not thank, look, and are - unhappy.