Would You Only Agree To Anal Sex

   I do not know which of your village has suggested to you that men faint as virgins. I'm a 47-year-old woman, I'm not a teenager, I can be your mother. Most men are quite startled if a girl is a virgin, and this physiological feature has long since lost its value. Nobody cares if you're a virgin or not. Your future husband will look for completely different qualities in you. And yes, it will be more pleasant for him to be with a woman who has already discovered her sensuality, has known her body and knows how to give pleasure to herself and her partner. I'm very ashamed to admit it, but ... my first husband was a virgin. At 30 years old. Honest word! I don't know with what wisdom I married him; I kept shouting to myself: he will learn, he will gain experience, but no - a full tree in the bed! And that's probably why he was a virgin, because he just wasn't interested. We broke up anyway, and that was the main reason. Since you have no experience, author, how can you be sure that you and your future husband will fit in intimately? And if it is too small or too big and you feel pain? And what if you were a virgin when you both felt dissatisfied? (Actually, I'm talking nonsense because no normal man would marry a woman he hasn't had an intimate relationship with unless he's a Taliban). And the craziest of all is that you are ready for anal sex and oral love to keep your zipper intact. Not that I see anything wrong with these sexual practices, but the zipper in question doesn't matter to anyone, you know? Now! I don't know what ethnicity you are from and how it is accepted by you. I assume you are a Muslim. But even young Muslims, at least those living in Europe, do not be enslaved to these idiotic traditions. Look, I'm not inciting you to debauchery, God forbid! I'm just trying to explain to you that sex is a normal human function, there's nothing shameful, nothing immoral, nothing ugly about it, and that with her virginity at 23, she'd rather repel a man because she'd think something wasn't right. you're fine. You're not right for me either: so you will have anal sex with your man for a year, you will swallow his semen, with an apology, and then - the white dress, the wedding bells and at night - the big moment, we tear the skin! Because you are a "virgin"! And who needs all this? nothing ugly, and that with her virginity at the age of 23, she would rather repel a man because she would think something was wrong. You are wrong with me too: so you will have anal sex with your man for a year, you will swallow his semen, with an apology, and then - the white dress, the wedding bells and at night - the big moment, we tear the skin! Because you are a "virgin"! And who needs all this? nothing ugly, and that with her virginity at the age of 23, she would rather repel a man because she would think something was wrong. You're not right for me either: so you will have anal sex with your man for a year, you will swallow his semen, with an apology, and then - the white dress, the wedding bells and at night - the big moment, we tear the skin! Because you are a "virgin"! And who needs all this?

   Don't rush this. Think carefully about what you really want without being influenced by others. Don't feel obligated to have sex in any form. This is something you should discuss with your future partner, but as a girl who has been through the same, I strongly advise you to decide for yourself which is best. Before you had this type of sex, you don't know if it will give you pleasure, so you can't really judge if it will be right for you, at least at this stage.

   What age do you live in and why do you cause it? A perverted understanding of "honesty," because that means virginity, honesty, and you are blameless. Many curves obsolete, sent notions of a young man.

   Dear author, There is nothing wrong with what you have in mind, even I myself recently recommended something similar in another topic, but I will still point out a few possible problems: 1. A famous (I think small) percentage of men would refuse you. However, for most it should not be a problem. With a little ingenuity, anal sex allows virtually the entire repertoire of poses and techniques, as well as vaginal, so I do not believe there are many dissatisfied. 2. Are you aware of whether this is "your thing" - or in other words, whether anal stimulation gives you pleasure (I assume the idea came to you along with porn, and it is unreliable). My observations show that most women still need extra stimulation (understand clitoral) to get theirs, and in others - anal penetration does not allow any orgasm, no matter what stimulation it is combined with. You can try masturbating to find out which group you belong to (if you are not already). If you are in the lucky group that can end annually without help - jackpot, you can enjoy a full sex life without giving yourself virginity, but if it turns out that you are one of those who can not even with "help" - better focus on something else. 3. Anal sex does not take. virginity and there is no danger of getting pregnant, otherwise sex is like sex, so if you decide to drive like that - choose your partners and do not forget the safety measures (condoms!). 4. If you meet enough suitable. Man, consider sacrificing your virginity before the wedding (don't bother marrying him later) instead of imposing artificial restrictions. This is from me on the issue, Good luck!

   It is best kept for the wedding. You are still 16 years old. You don't need any experience. It is not good to be with many people because then you will compare one with the other.

   Tc, Tc, how cunning! How could I not remember! You don't have a boyfriend yet and you're already thinking about how to cheat on him! But don't worry - you are every man's dream - anal with French!

   A man of 28. Yes, I would accept this option, especially considering that many women are not engaged in anal sex at all, and I, like many men, want such sex. BUT I want to point out that this lack of sex before marriage is complete nonsense ... In what age do you live? Who are you doing it for? Do you want to marry a super-religious guy who treats you like garbage after marriage because being a master is as traditional as not having sex before marriage? Are you religious yourself and do you believe that God wants this just because he writes it in some ancient book? And besides, the word "virgin" has different definitions, and according to some definitions ("she didn't do anything like that"), that with anal and oral sex also makes you not a virgin. Now you're going to say "hymen," but that's also not a perfect definition - a hymen breaks not only during sex,

   Are you a woman or a boy? Sex is sex, no matter where you do it. Is it worth the inconvenience of anal sex for a zipper? Read some information about its practice and consider whether it is for inexperienced people. It is too early for you to think about marriages, etc.

   You will make a huge mistake if you keep yourself a virgin until the wedding and I will tell you why. I am much older than you and I had the same opinion as yours. But when I was 18 I had a serious friend and I wanted to have sex with him and it was very nice .but we broke up.After that I had other boyfriends. My next boyfriend loved him very much and I wanted to marry him and I thought. That he was suitable for me and having sex was awful. He had no idea what to do and his penis was super small. I was very disappointed and we broke up .That's why I'm telling you.that it's not good to take care of the marriage.If the one you marry doesn't do anything in bed you will be unhappy all your life and you will not have pleasure and you will have to either separate.or cheating on me. You better have normal sex.

   Men will not refuse you, be sure ... But your idea of ​​virginity is wrong. It is not a question of keeping your hymen intact, but of being intact, untouched by a man - this is called virginity. Not that it matters to me, de. But you want both the wolf to be full and the lamb to be whole, that's not the case.

   I, as a woman, would not do it. There is nothing wrong with oral and anal sex when you want it, but you have no experience in these things and you can't form an opinion yet. I mean, you're doing something pretty bold right now, and I don't know if you're aware. I advise you to think a little about this topic, I say it because I think there is nothing that brings vaginal sex closer and brings the same pleasure from the act. Intimacy itself is different, the experience is not quite the same, I'm not sure that anal sex will give you the practice you want. I think it will give you another kind of experience. Of course, you can try, because there is no other way to know, but it is good to get acquainted with the topic beforehand. Not everyone likes it.

   It's a little strange, but a man would not mind having a nice girl with anal and oral than nothing. It may be heavy at some point, but you will find partners!

   Hello lovely girl! Yes, I would only go for anal sex. What I can give you as advice is: have anal sex and oral sex whenever you want, when you have special anal sex it is good to do an enema beforehand. You get up and wash your ass with the shower hose. And use a large amount of lubricant. Whatever they put in your ass - a real cock or even a vibrator butt should be lubricated. It is not possible without lubrication. At first it will hurt and it will be difficult to enter, but then the ass expands and gets used to it. Remember the pain passes, the pleasure remains !! For oral sex if you are OK with it there is no problem. If it doesn't bother you to blow the whistle, fine. Now the most important thing in my opinion. You can also have normal vaginal sex, if not now after a year or two. I'm afraid that if you don't have sex until your wedding - firstly you won't have sexual experience as you say and secondly you may have mental problems over time. Starting sex too late can trigger depression or other mental illness. Sex for the first time at the age of 20, 22 is OK, but at the age of 30-40 it is not good! This does not mean now to start doing it with everyone you meet and to become a whore without offending you! But everything has its limits! I will ask you: Do you have anyone to have sex with now and do you want to? What about your parents? If you start doing it now, will your parents cause you a problem and how will they react? It would be hard to endure without sex until the wedding. By the way, how are you sure that you will have a wedding if you do not have the opportunity and live on a family basis with your husband? Another option is to masturbate, even anal. By inserting and removing a vibrator or other cock-shaped objects in your ass. I just hope this doesn't sound pedophile to you! The possibilities are many, choose the best and suitable for you! Do you watch porn and if so, what? I sincerely wish you health and success! From a man.

   I am a man of 30. The idea of ​​virginity is not to have ANY sex, not just the skin to be whole. It's just that the integrity of the skin was known some time ago, but even then they lied. Besides, nowadays no normal man will care if you are a virgin or not. We are talking about a normal man who grew up in a secular world, not a religious fanatic or a tribe in Papua New Guinea. Have normal vaginal sex, but my advice is to be in a relationship, not just to be caught, to be used once or twice for sex, and then to be dumped. Find a friend, spend some time building trust between you. He works on communication with the opposite sex, because there are other essential things in sexual intercourse, besides sex. Once you build trust with your man, start having sex slowly. However, when you start to get aroused, you will feel for yourself where it should go ... and it is neither your ass nor your mouth. These are just nice additions.

   From the author: Thank you very much for your comprehensive comments. I'm really surprised that in such a short time there are so many comments and there is something true in each one. I would like to share more details about myself to clarify the situation for you. To number 1: Actually, I'm not from a village, but from one of the biggest cities. And I'm not a Muslim, nor am I very pious, I believe, but not to the point of succumbing to any influence from religion. To number 4: Thanks for the structured answer. I've really thought about it and I think that if I met a person with whom I really feel comfortable and trust him 100%, maybe I would give myself to him. But another reason to bet on anal sex is that there is no risk of getting pregnant. To number 6: I'm not quite sure how to accept your comment, but I would not take it as a deception, because that is the last thing I aim for. I really care about sincerity and trust in a relationship. To numbers 7 and 12: As I said above, I am not pious and I would not allow this to determine the way I live my life. And really, when you think about it, it makes sense in what you say. Virginity is not just a zipper, but to be untouched. So maybe I wasn't quite right in my thoughts ... To number 16: Thank you very much for the comment. It is very informative. I am aware of the preparatory procedures before anal sex. I've also heard of this too late to start a sex life, I know that no extreme is good. And when I mentioned the issue with the parents ... So I was basically ashamed to talk to my mother on this topic, but once it happened and according to her it was extremely wrong to stay a virgin until your wedding. Explain to me that even if it's not the most important thing in a relationship, sex is essential. He told me that a person needs experience, not to be with only one partner and to be able to judge for himself what is best. I already told you that I didn't have a friend, but not because I lacked suggestions, but I just didn't find a decent one. For this very reason, I do not know how my parents would react if I shook a boyfriend away from them (especially since he will probably be at least a few years older than me, because my peers are very frivolous and immature, and I am not looking for such a person. ) and I don't think they would be okay with having sex before 17. Overall we have a good relationship and they know I'm responsible and I wouldn't do anything stupid, but they're still parents and it's normal for them to worry. The last thing I want to say right now is, that perhaps my current opinion is to some extent influenced by others and I will explain to you why. I'm very self-critical and I can't tell if I'm beautiful or not, but quite often men look at me, whistle at me and talk to me. People in my neighborhood (my peers and those under 20) don't know why they think I'm a muffin and a conceited princess. I've heard sluts like "whore" and people who have boyfriends and they tell me, even though I've never had one. In general, I'm used to malice, because almost everyone in my class hates me, to put it mildly, and they envy me a lot. But not only because I'm the smartest (I hope it doesn't sound boastful) but also because I have a nice body and hair, my family is wonderful and mostly because I'm not one of those little kids who let them bully me. I stand my ground and I have never been influenced by the envy of people, because my mother told me that after people envy you, then there is something for it. I apologize for deviating from the topic, but I wanted to share, my idea was that to some extent I got tired of this negative energy from people and I do not want if I start having sex it to some extent become a reason for more "hate". I don't want to be considered a light girl because I'm not, and I thought if I were a virgin, my future boyfriends could convince Dan. I know that there are other factors that show, but still, if I'm not a virgin, it seems that the chance of my fears happening is less. I can tell you that always (at least a few times, when it happened) when someone starts a conversation with me he realizes what a delusion he was in and even begins to wonder why he did not like me before. I want to thank you again for the comments and most of all for that, you did not attack me, but approached me carefully and adequately. I will be very happy to develop the topic more, and why not discuss more. I am really glad to have met such an understanding from you. If you have more questions, ask, I will be happy to answer.

   I think you're a little lost in the idea of ​​virginity :) It's more about purity and immaculateness ... So if you're having sex, it's best to have sex, not do nonsense. Not to mention that anal sex has some dangers, such as relaxing your muscles there; there are a lot of bacteria, etc. and it's nice to be careful.

   I guess what. This year I will be twenty-eight and ... I am so and so. I'm just embarrassed to say virgin. It's not something I'm proud of, only my mother knows it, and I didn't aim for it on purpose, it just happened. I like a more specific type of men, and they all turned out to be gay ... As a result, today I go alone and dissatisfied, because I can not be intimate with people who do not attract me and I do not like enough, but only those stick together .. Very sad really, I'm going crazy! Keep in mind that nowadays late virginity is more of a signal that something in your life has not turned out well, it has not flowed properly, and it is not something you see great and wonderful! I tell you what I am! So I don't know what kind of sex you're going to have in time, that's your job, but to know there is absolutely no point in deliberately keeping yourself "virgin" until the wedding, that's nonsense. I put quotes because if you have another kind of sex, you won't be like that anyway.

   From number 4 You look like a very decent girl. If this was not an anonymous site, I would suggest it. One question remains - is this your thing or in other words - do you like it. Because after all, why do something if you don't like it. I highly recommend that you try it yourself before embarking on adventures. If you want "technical" guidelines - ask. But in general you need to clarify the following questions in order of numbers: 1. Does the thought of anal sex excite you in principle (fantasies, stories, pictures, porn with anal sex, etc.) 2. Does anal stimulation itself give you any pleasant sensations ( anal massage, finger penetration, object penetration) 3. Can you reach orgasm with anal penetration (in other words, can you reach orgasm by masturbating in the usual way and adding an object or fingers to the anus) 4 . Can you reach orgasm only from anal stimulation (by stimulating only the anus, without helping yourself in any other way) If you answer "YES" to the first three questions, it's worth a try. If the answer to the last question is yes - then you have nothing to think about. You're obviously on the right track. However, if the negative answers prevail, there is no point in suffering for one virginity. The most important thing when having sex is to give you pleasure. Success! However, if the negative answers prevail, there is no point in suffering for one virginity. The most important thing when having sex is still to give you pleasure. Success! However, if the negative answers prevail, there is no point in suffering for one virginity. The most important thing about having sex, though, is to give you pleasure. Success!

   Hello! Realize that the virgin skin is not looked at nowadays, nor will your parents beat, punish and hate you. They were also your age, don't think they took care of the wedding. Indiscriminate sexual intercourse makes a woman k .. a, not when she has had serious relationships and indulged in "debauchery". There are two options: Either to hate anal sex, or to find the pleasure of it. As a victim of my first sex, I will say that I hated all kinds of sex, and it was supposed to be experienced until my lover appeared, he was my second, I was his first, but with him I rediscovered new worlds. He's the reason he got me hooked on anal sex! Have anal sex only if you want it internally, if you are ready with the right person, and not because of a zipper. First learn to masturbate, not porn, and with your fantasies in your head, prepare yourself mentally and physically. It's easy in words, but practice says otherwise. -Elizabeth, 20

   Hello, author! I admit, I have not read all the comments, but I will advise you one thing. Your attitude to sex should be productive of yourself and your perception of it. Do not have sex and do not give it up because of social conditions. He does not compromise with himself and his self-esteem. For me, anal sex and even a blowjob are something extremely intimate. I am 27 years old, I lost my virginity at the age of 19 and I do not regret it. He was with a man who respected and loved me, as I loved him. This is the most important thing - to be of your own free will and to be with someone who appreciates you.

   I had oral and anal sex, but when I was pregnant. And in a period before that, with a man who took my mind in bed. f 44

   Yes I would agree.

   It just kills me how someone can take it in their mouth and anus and think they are a virgin. I had one such American boyfriend, who at the age of 27 was supposed to be a virgin, but otherwise broke up to make oral and anal love. I was very upset that I didn't appreciate it when she stepped in front of me and told her that I didn't think she was a virgin for many years. No wonder our 16-year-old girl came across someone "wooden" like me, who did not recognize her as a virgin.

   What is this nonsense !!! If you love someone, do whatever sex you want, use contraceptives and live your life. Why do you think anal sex is so useful for everyday use? It is only a gift from time to time. Diseases are most easily caught from there, because protective equipment is not widely used in this type of sex. See the story of Freddie Mercury from Queen.

   If I like it, why not. I have tried twice, but I do not have an unequivocal opinion. My boyfriend finished in a minute and I didn't even have time to relax.

   Yes, I did something like that with a classmate. We pretended to go, we kissed, but the sex was limited to mutual French and I ended up on her belly. She did not agree to sex. Then she liked to rub it in the cheeks of her ass and end outside her anus. Then I beat her with napkins. One time she pushed it herself and the semen went inside. He said it was an interesting feeling. So she held it and inserted the head and I was done. He held it tight and I couldn't get inside.

   Yes. M24

   I had a period when I had a lot of anal sex. I loved a man and came to terms with his weakness to fuck me from behind. He was careful and I liked him. But to my surprise, after a few months he gradually lost interest in ... my buttocks.

   Well, whether it is anal, vaginal or oral sex is sex and you stop being a virgin by doing it. It doesn't matter if the skin has it or not. And this is not the idea of ​​virginity. I am even surprised by the fact that there are people whose criterion for virginity is the presence of a zipper. In the case of the skin, it can also break when dropped, for example, as a child. Does this mean that you stopped being a virgin as a child? If you have sex, do it. If you think it's more important to be careful, be careful. But both have a price. And it's good to realize what it's like in advance, so you don't regret post factum when you can't go back in time.

   You can do it, why not! The point is that you accept anal sex as a substitute for vaginal sex. For me, anal is the icing on the cake, a special experience.

   The meaning of virginity before the wedding is to prove that you are innocent or more precisely that you have not had relationships with men and your husband is the first. If you are planning anal sex, then it is as if you really want to lie to your future husband. Let him imagine that he is your first, and you do not think so at all. It is a stupid mania and it is not just a matter of obsolescence or modern times. At the time, when they were holding on to a virgin bride, the women got married at the age of 16-17. It's like you now. If one was single until the age of 25, she was often not a virgin even "then". And in principle, the meaning of virginity is not only a way to ensure a long marriage, but also a sure way to ensure that the child is not a stranger, ie to marry someone pregnant without knowing it. Realizing the reasons for practicing this thing and the peculiarities,

   I had cast an eye on a colleague, but she was married. Not very smart, but with a great body. I managed to convince her that if we do it from behind, it doesn't count as infidelity. And we did.

   At 16, I don't recommend doing anal. I like it and I do it with my husband, but I'm 34.

   Beware girl, every normal man would like his wife to be his first, as well as the car and not the rushing of another 20 A and you will be with him for life so

   Anal sex for me is more than the other. Do you even know what it is? If the man doesn't arouse me vaginally, I can't relax anal if he wants to put two tons of lubricant. A very specific job is anal sex. Makes normal. If you want it, what is there to beware of. I do not recommend Anal sex for the first time in any case. It's nice. But different.

   And I think it's good to start with vaginal sex. You have to have some experience before going anal. I can say for me, anal sex is something super special, major league. I never do it in a hurry or beat it up. It has to be slow, super sensual and I have a great time! Think of it as the icing on the cake. w 42