Hello, sharers and advisors! A 29-year-old man writes to you. I am writing to you because after searching in the search engine I did not find a case similar to mine. There were couples who, according to them, rarely had sex, such as once a week or once a month. My story is different. My wife and I have been together for 5 years, we have a 2-year-old daughter. We get along great, we hardly fight, from time to time we have an argument, but nothing significant. We work, look after the little one, travel from time to time, an absolutely normal average family. BUT we haven't had sex in 6 months ... At first we're both not very sexual. Even at the beginning of our relationship, the sucker was something like 2-3 to 4 times a week. Then it began to decrease to about 2-3 times a month. But we both didn't complain. Sex was rare, but it was quality, passionate, intimate, even perverted. Anyway, as you noticed, we have a small child, and as you all know, with a baby, sex decreases even more. There was no sex before or after the birth, but that's understandable. Then when we got into a more normal rhythm and when she recovered, the sex was the same as before 2-3 times a month. And so the frequency slowly decreased, until we reached today, when we had not had sex for about half a year. As I told you, everything between us is normal, we live in understanding and harmony, we have fun, we travel, we share, we enjoy the little one, all this, but without intimacy. We only kiss for "Hello" and "Bye", but the way a mother kisses her son or a daughter kisses her father. After so long a lack of sex, and at the same time a good relationship, I feel my wife now as a best friend or as a sister. I've always heard that in most cases, many years of family life lead to this, but I did not expect it to happen so early. 2-3 months ago I raised the topic one night, I told her that I was having sex, that I missed her, that I thought it was not normal to be so young and that there was no intimacy between us. She agreed with me, pointing out as a problem on her part that after the birth she did not feel as beautiful as before. I don't think so, and I try to tell and show it to her. I compliment her from time to time, give her flowers, even at the beginning of this "dry" period I tried to seduce her with kisses and pressure, but without success. I explained to her that in addition to loving her, I really liked her appearance and didn't see any change after the birth, and I also explained to her that when you love a person, appearance, especially during sex, does not matter. Those more mature than you will understand me. One day shortly after that conversation, there was some progress. She was in a cycle, but she told me that she dreamed of having sex and she really wanted to, and she said that when she finished she would do it more often. The next day I had a surprise for me - a whistle, I felt like a virgin on his first trip. And then it gave me a little hope, but 3 months have passed since then, and 6 months since the last real sex, and I already despaired and decided to write here. I'm already bored with porn, despite my principles, I find myself looking at beautiful women on the street, and I feel bad about it, but I lack sex and intimacy. I don't try at home anymore, because she either sleeps a lot, or she's very tired, or something hurts, and it kills a person's desire. I know what I have to do, I need to talk to her again and solve this problem together, but I decided to ask you too. People who have sex every day, or teens who think that having a wife will "fuck" her every day, please do not blame me. I expect advice from people who understand at least a little and get closer to the situation. Thank you in advance! Controversial day!
1 skuggsja6 answered
If I'm on the same bed with my wife ... She doesn't want to, I'll attack her haha, well, so ... While she's sleepy, I'll grab her, I'll slap her, I'll touch her and that's it. Now, however, if he does not want to and pulls, this is another question