Hello! I am a 23 year old girl. I want to ask you what you think you would choose - to bet on security with a person you have been with for many years, despite the pain he caused you, the problems you had but still love, or move on with another boy. that you know recently and see that he is a good boy and you like him Please tell me for advice?
What you describe is not love but friendly love and habit. Burn your mind because you will not be happy in this relationship anyway, which does not mean that you will be with the other. But while cycling in a non-perspective relationship with your current friend, time passes and it will become increasingly difficult to meet new and interesting people with whom you can get along.
Pain and compromise are not the same thing. Yes, it is normal to make some compromises - but not when they cross your boundaries. Think about the problems in the relationship. Sometimes it is karmic and if you do not learn what you need, the next man is likely to do exactly the same thing that is causing you pain. You need to see what this partner should have "taught" you, and then you can move on to another relationship.
Sure misery or uncertain happiness? I would take a chance;)
Do you know what hesitation is? The first step to an almost certain end to a long relationship. Hesitation is not happiness and even security, but torture.
As soon as I read the title of the topic, I was ready with the answer. Love and security are two very contradictory concepts. If you seek security in love, you will have neither. Love is always a risk. The greatest, the most wonderful, the most enthusiastic risk. Jump deep, author and don't think about it at all! If you have any hesitations at all, then your relationship is already dead and it's time for a new beginning.
It's about an exhausted relationship .. there's no point in continuing ...
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The new boy. But otherwise you have to learn to bet on yourself.