I was in your situation and it was also hard for me to part with my friends. They were everything to me too. We saw each other often for the first two years, but over time the visions thinned. When you live in different cities / countries, the way of thinking and living changes a lot and at one point you don't have much in common to talk about except the common memories. Now I have new friends, a job and a man who is everything to me - that's right, but you will understand it in time. your parents have been in the phase where friends have been most important for a long time and that's why they don't understand you, but they are right that parting with friends is not a big drama.
Heh, naive kid ...
So far, all your great friendships have been formed on the basis of where God has sown you. If she had been born in a neighboring town or village, your great friends would have been completely different people ...
Now, for the first time, you have the opportunity to choose your people not on the principle of neighborhood, but on the principle of some interests, common goals, or on the basis of mutual liking. One kind of opportunity for you to form your own ENVIRONMENT - scientific, social, sports.
Keep in touch and make friends, but very soon they will seem uninteresting enough because they are formed almost randomly.
The new friendships and relationships that you have yet to make will be much more nutritious, more purposeful, on much healthier principles - similarity, interests, mutual liking, common and interesting activities, etc.
At the moment you look like a newly hatched chick, which is very sorry that it has just lost the comfort of such a comfortable shell ...
There are different types of friendships given the fact that every second person we know we define as a "friend".
With 1-2 of your current friends you will probably keep in touch over the years. My childhood friend and I kept it, but we hear each other three or four times a year, we write to each other as much and we see each other no more often than once a year. When we both lived in Sofia, we saw each other twice a year. The fact is that our way of life has changed a lot in both of them, our interests have been different before, but at the moment our common topics have greatly decreased. The only thing that sustains our friendship is that we are used to each other; that I do not have the same trust in my current social circle as in her; that she will support me morally in any situation; that just seeing each other is like seeing each other every day - a feeling of closeness that I don't have to any current acquaintance.
In reality, I did not make other friends after I moved. I have many good acquaintances - those with whom I see every day, with whom we help each other for various things and with whom I share common interests and a similar way of life. But I met 2-3 at work and I think if I leave or if they leave, we will not keep close contact. 5-6 are from the neighborhood where I live - if I move, I don't think we'll see each other again. With 5-6 we have common hobbies, but if they stop attracting me and I don't attend the events, we probably won't keep in touch anymore. So these are not my friends, this is my social environment. It changes and updates
There is no word Widow. The word is GIVE!
№2, I don't think so - the healthiest friendships, the real ones, are formed exactly in childhood and at school, possibly at university. Then it is rather an exception to create a real friendship.
To the author: if friendship is really like that, it will survive despite time and distance.
Don't dramatize so much. I have 2 friends from kindergarten, then school. The student years, scattering in different cities, not only did not separate us, but we were even nicer when we saw each other, talked about new colleagues, funny and ridiculous events with roommates and went to visit the cities where we study.
At university I made 3 incredibly strong and emotional friendships. Now is the time to say that I graduated 7 years ago. One became pregnant and gave birth, and the other went to Chicago. And we still talk for 2 hours on the phone.
A lot of people came into my life fast as strong serious people and left just as fast who from where for a bunch of reasons. But people who care about you will always find time to call you or even come to visit you. Try not to forget them and feel when they need you and will respect you for life! Up to you
Number 4, in principle it is not a good idea to comment on comments, but let me correct you - there is a word "drowns" in the Bulgarian language! It is quite another matter that the word "give" is not synonymous with it ...
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