Some words, problems and views are very modern at the moment, here, see: toxic relationships, mental harmony, mental elevation, meditation, panic attacks, depression, anxiety, nature walks, sports, healthy eating, reading books, internet addiction, failed generation, failure, loneliness, success, being self-sufficient. You see, some things are talked about a lot, they are very modern and accepted by society. In theory, these things exist, they are important and it is good that they are given the necessary attention, but the practice is wrong compared to the theory. The idea of everything is to learn to accept others, as well as to accept ourselves. The idea is to cultivate, but for ourselves, not in an attempt to reach another person. In practice, there is an imposition of reasoning that is not appropriate for every situation. One must feel free to live normally, and nowadays there are many artificially imposed norms. You enter social networks and see seemingly ideal people, you want to be like them, and they pose for the camera and distort the truth. For example, anyone can beautifully arrange that part of his room that is visible on camera, and the rest can sink into chaos. Everyone can take a certain position with their body in which they look thin, tight and beautiful, but this is only in the picture. Everyone can climb to get in the right positive mood and start teaching others how to be happy. We say that everyone creates their own happiness, but we do not stop following other people's models for creating happiness. It is wrong, we understand something good in theory, but in practice we do not learn its meaning. Only a part of someone's life can be seen on social networks, and few people make sense of it. Then comes the depression, it seems to me a very logical development. Why are you surprised? Every second person tries to give reason to others. A Western model of behavior, of thinking, of a way of life is being imposed en masse. Basically, the internet is swirling with moralists who are capable of making everyone blacker than the devil. The same advice is given, which obviously does not work for everyone. It is foolish to try to fit in boundaries that we may not like. We live in a time when higher education is almost compulsory, not a luxury. In 10 years, there will be more engineers, lawyers, doctors, educators, philologists, philosophers and psychologists than salespeople. Once sellers become sought after, they will be offered higher pay and it is perfectly normal to fight for such work. As now, there is a certain struggle for the jobs of IT specialists, and years ago there was one for economists. Even if you are a person with a university degree, you will still work to feed your children. As much as I like the specialty, I want to have bread on the table, and in time I will have children and it will be important for me that they are well dressed, wear sturdy shoes and have toys. I really don't want to deprive my children and I really understand every parent who doesn't want to deprive their children. Of course, the child should not receive everything he wants, but why should he be ashamed, oppressed and deprived. I want all children to be healthy and happy, I want all adults to be calm and satisfied ... a very dumb dream, but it is one of mine. People have dreams, but they want a decent realization in life, a decent income and a quiet life. My mother once told me that a house artist does not eat. Now I am grateful to her for guiding me like that, but I still paint in my free time. Let the young people choose which path to take. Let the young be as they are. Stop judging the young. Stop comparing generations. Each generation condemns the previous and sets the next for failure. Each generation grows up in its time, there is no basis for comparison, life flows and changes, and with it the ideals, morals, views. We are not a big depression, we are the result of everything that has happened in recent years. We are confused by all the norms that have changed radically as we have grown. We hear different opinions from every angle, we need a model for life and thinking, we must fit into the present and we must work for a better future. We are learning, we are just entering life and it will take us some time to find the right balance for us. Maybe we will be good parents, maybe our children will be calm, balanced, wonderful, because we were not like that. Yes, many of us are anxious and depressed now, but it won't last forever, wait and see. Talk about us in 30 years, when our actions will have paid off. wait till you see. Talk about us in 30 years, when our actions will have paid off. wait till you see. Talk about us in 30 years, when our actions will have paid off.
1 babyfaceschoolgal answered
It is true that the chaos of what you write to us and the mess in your head are evident. Everyone has dreams, it's just that most people don't have the courage to pursue them because they are depressed for various reasons. The problem for many people is that they have toxic, controlling and suffocating parents who impose their views, and even dreams, on their children. Rejoice that you have found the courage to pursue what you want and do not judge others, because it is not easy for them, although it does not always seem so.