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Why Is He Doing This?

By jennylove52 June 24, 2020 10 answers Last updated June 24, 2020

Hi! About a month ago, I met one girl I really loved. She's a complicated character, but I just wanted to be with her. Eventually, there was some intrigue and we split up. Eventually, I found out she had a new boyfriend, but I don't know if she had feelings for him or just to annoy me. I'm explaining that I made one mistake and she may have been hurt, so she got stuck with it. The point of my post is that she recently wrote me how I was, and when I told her I wasn't well because of our breakup, she started making fun of me for sleeping with her because she made sure I was bad without her. She told me to get used to it without her, and she started sending me heads and teasing me. I just keep thinking why she did it and if she didn't want me to fight for her. If she loved her boyfriend and forgot why she'd write to me these things? I really need your advice mostly for girls to say their opinion on why you think you did it. If she's forgotten me, what's the logic of writing to me and saying she's calm knowing that without her, I'm not well? I don't know what to do, I love her more, and I want to get her back, but I wonder if I can fight for her.

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luke_smith_69 answered · June 24, 2020
You're very in love, author. :) He wants to annoy you, that's what girls do. It doesn't make sense in our actions, but it's not because he has feelings for you. If he doesn't like his new boyfriend, he'il just ignore him, push him away or cheat. I don't think writing to you is cheating on her partner. You mentioned intrigue, and you thought he might give it back to you because of the intrigue between you two.
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realfacku answered · June 24, 2020
You want her back? The one that makes you two pennies? Are you serious?
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paula8907 answered · June 24, 2020
Well, she hasn't forgotten you, but that doesn't mean she shares your feelings. She's seen to be some kind of immature when she's dealing with childish annoyances and revenge. Close the page and move on (building action) and up (your personality development).
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_zelssy answered · June 24, 2020
By the Author Now you're still sick to me??? I honestly don't know how to answer her, if I tell her I'm bad, she can tell herself she's spinning me on the finger.... If I hit her and told her I didn't care, I might get her attention again???
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ciastellar answered · June 24, 2020
That girl doesn't sound like she's a good person. It sucks to make fun of you when you've had something, no matter how it ends. Otherwise, when you ask why he's doing it, he needs attention. Classic female behavior- release the fishing line and wait for you to fall for it. Then you'il start looking for her, and she'il say no and pump her self-esteem. She hasn't forgotten you, obviously, but that doesn't mean she wants to be with you. As you can see, he doesn't respect you, or he wouldn't write you that stuff. Don't mess with her. You'il find a girl who will love you and show you her respect. Even if you're fighting for her now, think about whether you want to be with someone who immediately hooks up with someone else after you and makes fun of you on top of it. I know it sucks to be in love, and the other guy doesn't want you. It must be hurting. But know that this pain passes with time, and when you meet someone who really is for you, you'il wonder why you ever dealt with the first girl.
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andrea_black_ answered · June 24, 2020
(4) - "may i get her attention again??? " Author, you really want to put a hedgehog in your pants. Let me go!
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onlyrocco answered · June 25, 2020
to number 6 I don't want to leave her to this boy. I think she still has feelings for me, but her simple character is more complicated, and that's why she makes these tricks... and what I leave her to, what's the point is to fight for her a little bit.... I just don't know when she asks me if you're still sick, and I answer that I'm not okay if I'm not pushing her away even more.... because she must say to herself without me, etc.
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luvs2camfree00081 answered · June 25, 2020
I'm a woman, but I join the above opinions. She's going out with someone else, and she cares how you're doing, and she's even glad that without her, you're bad... Just because she's still young doesn't mean she's acting like that. Let's say she was hurt, to tell you in a straight text, what are these performances...
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misstristynbliss answered · June 25, 2020
Hi, I've had a few similar cases in both of these behaviors, as a result of showing affection for a girl before she showed one. In the second, quite recently, even she was hugging and smooching with someone in front of me one metre away and watching her and I was watching other girls, on another occasion she expected me to initiate contact with her because there was a convenient occasion, but I ignored her. I don't give a. So, my observations and assumptions are that these girls do not understand love, they only understand dominance. That is, they believe that a man should be stronger, more resilient to feelings and not demonstrate them, play cool and similar behavior. If a man shows affection, shares feelings for her, she perceives it as a weakness and that repels her and then wants to punish him for it. I think that sums up the whole story and the script. Why am I saying these girls don't understand love? Because with true love, there is no dominance, there is sharing. True love doesn't make you weak, it lifts you up, but there are people who don't understand it. These girls perceive the relationship as the dominance of the male over the female, a slightly more complex and adapted scenario of a male animal pinning the female, biting her neck not moving and ending up in it. That's where they're aware. When I demonstrated to such a girl true love, she does not understand her and considers her a weakness, because she lacks dominance, and she understands only her, and from there, such ridiculous attempts to cause mental suffering to the one who loves them begin.
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boudiimampii answered · June 26, 2020
No matter what reason she likes, you're sick without her, she has to show you that you shouldn't make the mistake of having anything with her.