Why Is He Being Harassed ?!

   Familiar ... unfortunately, the only way is to beat them. The other option is for them to beat him, which I don't think is good.

   Are you saying that he is the only excellent student in the class? Because when I read you I come to such a conclusion. Apparently he is the only one, when it is so obvious to the other boys that it is so incomprehensible and unbelievable that it is even funny to them. I make very unpleasant conclusions about the school where your child studies. If the excellent students are treated as an object of ridicule and harassment ... Obviously this is not the school. That is what I would say at first reading.

   Hello! I understand your problem. As a child I also had it. Because I was older, they didn't dare to beat me, but my younger brother stepped on it regularly. Unfortunately, 20 years ago and now the children who like to study and are in the same class with kalpazani become the object of misunderstanding and ridicule.In this way, children with less control than their parents express their envy and sometimes laziness. Talk to his teacher. If the other children are more engaged in the lessons, this can change. For example, to give them a task to find an article or some interesting facts on a topic. It is normal for boys to be annoyed that your son is liked by girls, and they are not so much. I hope this will soon disappear. And you be with your child - he needs to be sure that he is doing the right thing for him.

   Talk to the parents of the children who tease him. How could they have raised such oligophrenics. If from now on they make fun of the older ones, when they grow up they will be absolute superficial morons.

   There is a high probability that the reason they teased him was different .. It is possible that they do it because he has already shown weakness and if he is identified, it will continue regardless of whether he studies or not .. At school it is so! .. The question is not why they irritate him, but why he lets them do it .. In no case do not let your son stop studying because of some idiots who from now on show the lack of future .. In third grade if he stops to study means to become a fool ..

   Intervene yourself, contact the class teacher, talk to the parents of these children. If it doesn't work, be more persistent. If that doesn't work, then move him to another class or school. Black Sabbath Girl 15 years old.

   This is the reality today, especially in the school environment. Idiots are tolerated because they are in the majority, and decent and studious children are ridiculed. "Conscious people in our country consider them crazy." The mistake is in the upbringing, above all, in the property of the individual to run away from the root "indie" (duality), clinging to the table, which shows him nothing but simplicity.

   Maybe they just envy him :) And I don't see a way to make them stop permanently. Just if you can move him to another school, it's still 3rd grade. As he gets older and needs to be more careful in class, in such an environment and with such classmates, it will not be easy for him. In my opinion, the best solution is to change the class. Good luck! :)

   I think they envy him.

   The opinion of me and one of my friends is that they are harassing him because the girls like him, and about how to defend himself ... the boy can always tell the class - she will solve the problem ... if there is no effect, the parents of these "freaks" to understand how badly they were brought up!

   Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT aint for me either. It sucks, but they are more and there is no way, and they envy him because the girls like him! The other option is to enroll him in a martial art, such as judo, to get a little carried away and be able to shape them!

   Enroll him in some training, possibly martial arts. This will help him. Your son has low self-esteem and is afraid to oppose the bullies. But once you put them in place, they won't look again. The trainings are - to inspire him with faith in his personal strength, but mostly for self-confidence. Another model is to switch to a special type of training, separate from the others, but it will not be good for its social development. In no case do not interfere, learn and help him become strong. If you help him, they will name him "coward" and make fun of him. Which will critically lower his self-esteem. And that's not good. First, let him join a group, make contacts, make friends, open up a little. To gain confidence. Second - to build your environment. And so he will learn to stand up and defend himself. - silenter -

   1. Talk to his class teacher or the parents of the children concerned. 2. Move it to another elite or even private school (if you have such a financial opportunity)

   I don't know what advice to give. But I want to follow the topic. I am very interested from a professional point of view.

   Let's stop with this participation. And whether he is an excellent student will be known later.

   The next time a boy says something to him, go hit him and he will fix the problem :)

   If you study you are a dentist .. If you do not study, you are stupid. Nowadays, no matter what you do, there will always be people who blame you for something! So that the child watches his lessons and does not care. :))))) Those who make fun of him for studying, I do not see them after a while. You know the saying: he who learns, he will succeed! :) Well, if the girls like it more; e :)

   Well, I am 18 years old and I will tell you from experience that this harassment will not stop. In order to survive in this environment, he must be the bully or be able to defend his opinion and defend himself, but he is unlikely to succeed against a mass of cretinous, cocky and arrogant pickpockets. The times have changed a lot and now kindness and loyalty are perceived as qualities of a traffic jam and a bison. I don't know what advice to give you, maybe complain to the directorate or move it to a more reliable school (preferably privately if you have the finances), because apparently your child takes the ridicule sharply and can lead to some anxiety disorders or depression ... you just know the middle of what matters, they will pull it down ...

   Bulgaria ...

   In my opinion, you pampered your son a lot, enroll him in boxing or something similar will be fine on his own from now on :). When I was studying, they beat me, made fun of me and what not because I was different from the others!

   To watch yourself and the lessons.

   Move him to another school! Mandatory!!!

   Talk to the teacher and let her talk to them seriously. Or share the problem with other parents and teachers at the parent meeting by showing that this is really a problem for you. I hope they will take action. This is simply unacceptable.

   Hello! Your son is obviously quite smart and cool and the boys are jealous of him. My suggestion is to try to get closer to them. To help them with the family, to bring a nice toy and play with it, to invite one of them as a guest and to play ... If it doesn't work out, I think you should intervene! Talk to the class and the boys in question. If all else fails, move your child to another school! He is smart, he will manage, he will find new friends, nothing that will take him a little time to get used to! There is no point in harassing him and tolerating him! :))) Good day!

   welcome advice they are small children I as a student in 9th grade in my time was not so thank goodness but I think you should go to your child's school and talk to the children with the principal and their parents it seems good to me

   As a mother of boys, I would like to help an author. 1. Do you think that your son is being bullied for what he is studying at the beginning of the third grade? Not at all. The main problem is with the teacher you have chosen for your child's class. She is the person who should make all children write in class and non-writers should be an exception, and not, as it is now, your son who writes should be an exception from the team. Talk to the teacher to stop praising him in front of the class, and of course to let him know. In my only son's class, the grades are not communicated to the whole class, they are written in the notebook and if the student wants, then he shares his grade with his classmates. Exactly because of the same as your problem, but they are 10th grade at 17 years old already have almost built self-confidence and character. Your son is being harassed because he is cut off from the team. And the team at the age of 9 is created by the leader, in this case the teacher. My little son, the teacher up to 4th grade, managed to get the children to compare who has how many sixes and having a large number of sixes was a pride in the class. For a start, change class or school. But on the other hand, I don't think learning is the problem. Your son must learn to defend himself from attacks and ridicule. Since he is so smart and learned, he should come up with ideas of what exactly to respond to in a moment of attack so that the opponent feels ashamed in front of his group. He needs to learn to find the attacker's sore spot more easily and to reach there with words. Because even if he stops learning, the children will continue to divide him, even if you change classes, there will always be children to make fun of him for something and when he shows weakness, he will be made fun of regularly. As a mother, I also have concerns, a week ago my seventh-grader was told that he was a gypsy because he came out of the locker room physically fit, he of course managed to cope with the situation, but when he came home he still weighed because the girl he liked was in the hallway and might have heard the joke. One day my son stood alone all night sad, pensive, locked in his room, I asked him what was going on, but only three days later he decided to tell me, since the problem was no longer a problem for him. I have a question for you, does your child have friends and are they from the class? Who and where are his friends? Who and what does your child play with? I'm worried about this element of your text, "Girls like it a lot. But these boys ..." These are 8-9-year-olds, there is still no question of liking and "gagging" between the sexes. At the age of 8-11 it is normal for boys to hang / pull the braids / of girls, and not to be liked externally for their beauty. It is not normal for girls in third grade to like a boy. It is possible that boys like a girl because she is a whore or because boys' fathers and fathers instill "sexual settings" in their boys very early on. But it was too early for the girls to like a boy. Girls can like a boy only if he behaves and speaks like a girl, respectively, together they hate other boys. The first outbursts of "boyfriend" - / appearance in appearance for a cool boy / happen in girls from 5-6 grade with boys from 6-7 grade. So you are not talking about liking a masculine appearance, but liking posture. In this regard, it would be good to enroll him in a men's sport, the idea is not to learn to fight or become an athlete, but to take an example of boyish-male behavior. Make friends with boys. Ask your child what he would like to play, let him choose and exclude male ballet and dance from the list of choices. If your boy is already playing men's ballet or something like that, it's good to at least learn to defend himself with witty words. There will always be attacks in the upper classes, for whatever reason, he must learn to handle himself. It is normal sometimes (3-5 times a year) to come home worried about attacks, but if he is constantly attacked, then the problem is in him. let him choose and exclude male ballet and dance from the list. If your boy is already playing men's ballet or something like that, it's good to at least learn to defend himself with witty words. There will always be attacks in the upper classes, for whatever reason, he must learn to handle himself. It is normal sometimes (3-5 times a year) to come home worried about attacks, but if he is constantly attacked, then the problem is in him. let him choose and exclude male ballet and dance from the list. If your boy is already playing men's ballet or something like that, it's good to at least learn to defend himself with witty words. There will always be attacks in the upper classes, for whatever reason, he must learn to handle himself. It is normal sometimes (3-5 times a year) to come home worried about attacks, but if he is constantly attacked, then the problem is in him.

   We have a similar problem. My son is the only one who finishes with a full 6 in their class. At the beginning of the 2nd term they called him a dwarf, but they have already stopped. Even now he is first friends with one of these boys. :) But I don't know exactly how he got along with his classmates ... Maybe he stopped being annoyed with them. He doesn't like it, but ... They also found common interests - sports, music ... To clarify that he is in an elite school and class. It's just that there are more boys in the class, and we know how it is with them;), they are not cowards in general. Hopefully this problem will not arise again in the 3rd grade.

   He will be in 4th grade next year, so the problem will probably go away on its own when everyone needs to study further. We had the same problem. And after my son finished fourth grade, the whole fifth grade, he couldn't help but wonder, he kept saying: do you know that in this class they make fun of those who don't study, and the more you study, the more they respect you!

   They obviously envy him. One option is to move it to another school. The other option is to talk to him and tell him not to pay attention to these children and that they just envy him. In 10 years, your child will have a good job, make money, and those children will probably be messing around in the buckets.

   Booooje! These children have become terrible ... My nephew is an excellent student and he goes to the Olympics and he is so proud that I can't imagine anyone killing his enthusiasm because he is more stupid and can't reach his level: @It is good that your son will go to 4th grade because he will only endure them for a year. I can't give advice that I am very sensitive to such topics and I react extremely, but I think it is good to talk to your son so that this attitude of success does not affect him.

   Ooooooh, it's scary. You're overthrown if you're a toothpick, a reader, an excellent student, with glasses / no glasses, overweight, if you don't want to drink / smoke with the others, run away from class or not run ... And that it is an old phenomenon. Whatever advice we give you, he must fight himself and develop a model of behavior, authority and self-esteem. Alone, as we did, as children. Otherwise, I envy you nobly for the excellent student.

   I'm 11 years old and I'm a girl .. that's why I don't have friends .. because I became famous as an excellent student and not the other girls don't like me .. those boys are losers .. not really .. they just curse the same thing and they push in the girls so there is no problem with them .. they annoy me but we don't fight we joke .. since 3rd grade I was green and since then just roar roar roar only harass the girls .. unfortunately we stayed almost the whole class only 3 girls who without that they only ate and attended nothing special .. they left and 4 boys .. otherwise now with new students unfortunately I became friends but they did not become my friends ..

   Talk to the children's parents. Success!

   Option 1: Move it to another class. Option 2: Defend yourself! Option 3: These things should go into one ear and out the other. Apparently he's in a pretty failed class. When I look it looks soft and it is possible if you do not do something to break it and fail like them.

   Change the school to a more elite one in which knowledge is valued more and children are more motivated to learn, even if it has to be private. This, in the first place, will put your son in a much more competitive environment (and as we know, the most important prerequisite for good development is a competitive environment). Secondly, the problems he has now will end, as he will not be the only or one of the few excellent students, and the attitude of the children in his class towards learning will be very different.

   1. This problem has always existed, / especially now, when everything in a country is on the principle of the jungle /, mediocrity has always been at war with talent and, unfortunately, at a much lower, "jungle" level. I will not write a philosophical treatise on this subject - The eternal struggle between talent and mediocrity - but Mozart and Salieri, for example, as hundreds of similar examples tell us: - Whose names are written in the golden chronicles of time / and they are many and our goal is not is to advertise this knowledge / but in no case are those of the envious, the slanderers, the mediocre ... There are Mozart and Bach, Oscar Wilde and Albert, Hugo and Zola, Degas and Van Gogh .... I would made the decision to make a funny bully, and as we know, they are not very talkative, nor,, their hotplates,, heat up very quickly ... and our children are not bad,

   From the Author: - Thank you very much for the advice! My son is studying in a school with intensive study of German from the first grade, supposedly in an elite school. We travel by public transport to the other end of the city just to study there. Last year there was a friend from class - a terribly intelligent child and he and my son were still together and did not seek the company of other children. However, when he started 3rd grade, his friend went to Germany and is now alone. All the other boys really don't study and have already grouped in groups and no one wants him with them. I have talked to the class a thousand times, but to no avail :(. We will grit our teeth for another year and then hopefully he will get into a better class. I forgot to tell you that he is lower and this further affects him

   We have had a similar problem in the past, much more serious. Not only did they harass my son, but they also bullied older students (from upper grades). There are comments above, talk to the parents, talk to the teacher, etc. There will be no benefit from the conversations. If the parents were decent people, their children would not be jerks, but educated. They are what their parents are, and it is pointless to talk to misunderstood people. Respect can only bring the teacher's body, in the face of the class and the principal J. Unfortunately, today's teachers are no longer educators, but lecturers who teach their teaching material and so on. And they work for a meager salary and tremble for their place. They do not dare to make a remark to any student, it is not known which fat rich man the jerk is, tomorrow they can throw her out of school. Such uneducated children, have usually grown up in families whose parents are of the MUTREN type, ie, they have seen only arrogance from their parents. Just as a child behaves at school, so does his father when he drives, so does his mother when she communicates with someone poorer than her. In general, people are from the "elite", according to their self-esteem. Once the school is elite and has stupid idiots in it, it's done with money, not knowledge. Unfortunately, this is the reality, the mutrization has taken over the whole country, under the guise of "UZ" rulers. They slaughter, they hang. Children are not to blame, they reproduce what they have seen. The most unfortunate thing is that the girls no longer have an upbringing, they decompose morally from an early age, again from observations on life. This huge information avalanche of computers and television is as constructive for intellectual development, it is just as deadly to children's morals. I suppose that these squirrels, when they joke with the studious child, there are girls around who enjoy them, and this encourages the monsters even more. I was watching a dumb reality show on TV, "Big Brother." There I watched how pretending to be "UJ" intelligent people, artists, joked with Katsi Vaptsarov (in my opinion a well-mannered man, and probably his children will be). This is where the vulgarity comes from, this is who the children imitate, this is the fruit of these fair shows, this is what the children see, this is what they repeat at school. Author, I understand very well the situation you are in. As I wrote above, I don't see the point in talking to parents and the teacher (you can try with her as much as you can to follow the ethical order, to follow the stages, just to be informed, that you will seek your right to protection). Then talk to the principal, he is obliged to take action because he is responsible for order in the school. If he does not fix things, you refer to the children's pedagogical service, ie to the Ministry of Interior. If all these people are concerned about the children, there will be a positive effect, if they are only salary officials, the effect will be even more negative, because you will despair. You can only hope that your child will grow up and the jerks will get wiser (which is very doubtful), but know that now his psyche is being severely traumatized. My son was an excellent student, and because of such jerks he didn't want to go to school (he kept the cruel truth for a long time), until we finally learned the truth and got to the police. They warned the jerks that if they continued, there would be serious consequences for them, and so things calmed down,

   This is a manifestation of normal envy on the part of the incapable of the able. Your son is doomed to face such an attitude all his life, because smart, ambitious and successful people are less than lazy, mediocre and unsuccessful. He has to get used to it and choose friends who suit his interests, aspirations and knowledge. I was an excellent student, and so were my closest friends. There were some little evil men down there in the lowlands trying to kill their complexes by making fun of us, but we took that as a compliment and were proud to be bison! Changing schools will not help him - there are miscreants everywhere.

   I have such a problem too. The difference is that almost all my classmates are excellent and there is great competition between tnas. The difference is that I read a lot of encyclopedias, I'm interested in many things and I remember them. From there comes the problem - because I know more than the others, they constantly insult me ​​for being a bison. / I forgot to mention that I am now in 6th grade /. My advice is to behave normally with children, not to pay much attention to them and not to get into conflicts. My mother explained who the bison was, and that I wasn't at all, because I don't even take my lessons at home. Slowly, things got better. At the end of last year, I was friends with almost everyone. I don't know how it happened and what helped, but it worked. As for you, grit your teeth for another year. After all, you don't have to have ANY friends. The important thing is to be good children.

   I would definitely NOT wait for "another year". Because a year is not a small period at all - at this age of intensive development and shaping of the personality, much less than a year can lead to consequences for a lifetime. What will happen if he moves it when he is third to fourth grade? The program is the same in all schools in Bulgaria ...

   Normal. He is different and thus becomes a victim. Enroll the boy in a martial arts course, let him play with older than him. will learn how to respond to attacks and how to defend against physical harassment.