Millions of complete people around the world have a connection. There are millions with the same problem. So the problem isn't completeness. But I want to offer you something else. Even if you find a girlfriend, you realize what kind of burden you carry with your fullness, besides the problem mentioned, think about how you're interfering with your body. Why should you have this problem? It's like you're carrying a rock all the time. Read on the net how to eat, exercise and how to lose weight.
When you think of a person who doesn't know you, what can he judge about you by photo/vision? Keep in mind that the first two or three seconds. are the most determinant of what opinion you're going to make for a person. Either take your hands and lose weight, or communicate in real life, and first give the woman a chance to get to know you so she doesn't judge you just by your appearance. You can compensate with character and the vision to prove less decisive, but even then it's not bad to lose weight. I'm not saying to get up a gym and drink anabolics, but just to look at least decent, if you will even for yourself.
Because they don't have to accept you for who you are. Because no one wants sex with a fat man unless there's a fetish, and i don't think you're going to come across a girl with a fetish like that. You've found the reason yourself, you have to be super charismatic and manage to make up for the big flaw with your appearance. There's something else, if you're not interesting and as an interlocutor, if you can't talk and share, you just don't stand a chance. The fullness also shows you that you have no will to impose restrictions and look adequate for a young person. No one wants a partner. I'm sorry to be rude, but that's the truth. I'm inclined to fill up, too, but I'm not going to let myself relax. For the simple reason that it's not natural to be sun-kissed, nature hasn't given us two stomachs, nor has it made us like balls.
There are a lot of girls who are full. Why don't you target them, they won't push you away for the weight, because they'il have them, too. The way you have them and choose them, so do they, don't be mad at them.
Come again..." boy, 28? He was full. a great miracle.
Do you define yourself as a man?
Well... I'm not attracted to full men. Accordingly, based on a photo, I will immediately reject you. That doesn't mean you won't find a girl who prefers your physique. Think about it, though, if it's better to try to lose weight. Not only will you expand your options with women, but you will also be healthier, more resilient and with other self-esteem. If you don't at least bet on the live contacts, eventually you have a chance to sing them with something other than physics.
Perhaps the problem is not that you are full (although the good body always is ), but that you are illiterate and (perhaps) boring and insecure? Is it a problem for you if the girl is full?
Women what do we say? Read a few themes only on this site and the opinions below - "fat cows", "Ugly", "old" and so on kind words... It's like you have to like someone physically! You'il find a mate, just give yourself time, calm down and ignore evil and complex people who are killing their own dissatisfaction with life on you. It's always happened to me that I've found a mate when I consciously stop looking for her and concentrate on my stuff.
from author:to number 4 everyone likes different people .As for number 8, I have no problem with the girl being full even I think she's hotter.
Well, get yourself fat. You don't put in an effort, you want top chicks. Ebati the claims.
In my opinion, it no longer matters young or old, fat or skinny, ugly or beautiful, women look at how full a man's wallet is and seek security in it.
Man, 27
What kind of boy are you at 28? That's a grown man. People before your age already had children. And you define yourself as a boy, that's a lot more frightening than your weight.
Why don't they accept me for who I am?
And men, do you accept us for who we are?
Not! Your demands are to heaven, and you don't look at yourself.
I wouldn't like a full man, you better lose weight. Not for the women, but for yourself, because at some point these pounds will start to get in the way of your life. So work on yourself, and don't accept yourself for who you are, but try to be something better.
Helga
I'm 30. Woman. I like fuller ones. I'm tall, with a normal physique, but the average Bulgarian is my height, and we can change our pants, which annoys me. I like men more often, both horizontally and vertically. Maybe you didn't run into a girl. Communicate outside, in the real world, and less online. A lot of people just kill time on the net.
Somewhere else you're wrong, my ex was full, but he was a total jerk for that, and not because of the weight, a figure changed. He never changed himself or his harmful habits. Maybe you're too insistent with girls or you're texting with the wrong girls, I don't know.
Ava at number 12, best comment on the subject. If you're fat, isn't it genius? There's only one problem, and he's just having to move your ass, whining doesn't work. The slanins are not a cause, but a consequence of laziness and lack of character.
I hope you solve your problem, have a good day.
Appearance is important, not everything, but at least at first, to start fluttering butterflies in the stomach, you also have to physically attract your potential partner.
I think you're insecurities and you don't have an approach, you don't know how to be a hunter so you're interesting to a woman. Another, you call yourself a boy who's funny for a 28-year-old, so you underestimate yourself, you don't believe in yourself, you don't like yourself. 28 is an age when people are raised for a safe partner, for a family, not for silly internet slings with a man calling himself a boy and no self-esteem. Yes, being full is a problem for the first impression, but it's also a problem for you, because it seems to be somehow a problem. There's no worse interlocutor than the one who doesn't like himself and has some complexes.
'Cause, you see, people talk about inner beauty, only it evaporates when they see you. All the things and clichéd that's been going on for us since we're young, how, you know, inner beauty, kindness, morality, values, are very important to people, they're absolute sham. That's why this is happening to you. Women are a lot more privileged, but you, man, you're not going to see sex. And not just sex, but even a friendly attitude, because friendship, "friendship" is a benefit. And if you don't have money and no one wants to be your friend, especially if you don't look good. That's the ugly truth, a 28-year-old who should be a man by now. And now I'm going to write everyone's favorite here, go to the gym. Yes, no joke. Do your diet, go, train, as long as you don't have any more serious problems. You're going to get better. Sori, bro, sori on the ugly truth, I didn't invent it! But, as I told you, that's how the world works. You can find the woman for you, there are exceptions, for example, 0.0001%. Do you think you're going to be lucky, what do you think? The boy, 28, from the small town, with the not-for-all money, most likely? You won't be. So get on and act, change for the better, then you start picking them, not you. Because that's the ugly truth, bro, :)
It's all your fault, it's the women's fault!
You are a man and they are human, but with much greater CLAIMS to you than you are to them!
Draw your conclusion, who is the broader one!?
Would you have insulted and loathed any girl for being more plump? I doubt it! And the above commentators made you a fool for being full! And believe me, their demands on you don't stop with that... the money, the car, the restaurants, the clothes, the excursion, etc. must come from you! Not that it's not normal to be, but it wouldn't be so ABNORMAL if it weren't just for you to develop professionally, but MANDATORY CIRCUMSTANCES tearing you apart to let you go!!!
Can you imagine the hypocrisy and what kind of l*tes are being said...
Because they don't have to accept you for who you are. Full is probably a euphemism for fat, maybe very fat. It is genetically at stake for women (and men) to look for the healthiest and strongest specimen for a partner. It was about friendship, it was about a relationship. To a "full" man, it's hard to experience a sex drive.
So above, they've already given you good advice. Instead of moaning about why people are like that, you better change yourself, that's actually the only thing you can do. And among other things, you'il feel much better, more confident in yourself and healthier.
Success!
You're not a boy of 28, you're a grown man. I suggest you give up the internet search, where everything is fake and sex overnight and sign up for sports. You're going to lose extra weight, and you're going to meet nice, disciplined women in reality. You'il feel better. And no, I'm not the "go to the gym" commenter.
26, before you write, think!!!
It's the rich, the people in power, and you can answer why there's always a lot of models, models, etc....?
These most beautiful girls/women seem never to get turned on by the men they sleep with!
The woman couldn't get aroused by a fat man!!! - What a moron.
from 23
It's not about weight, it's about self-esteem.
If you're full, but you don't take that as a problem, you don't shrink, you don't get too carried away and you're confident, then you'll be more lucky.
In high school, I was full, but I was also the tallest in the class, so the weight didn't give me much weight. But in general, I was shy, complex and insecure about it. Of course, I didn't have any success with women.
I had a classmate who was quite full, that he even had a huge gynecomastia, on top of that he was constantly wearing skinny T-shirts, and his breasts were shaking. Even his precore was the bra. Yes, but this guy had self-esteem, he was over-chatting, he was looking for people, and he wasn't ashamed of anything. He was the one who had success with the girls.
I'il give you another example.
After high school, I became a student, started exercising and following a diet. In no time, I gained a V-shaped shape and had a good harmonious body. But I still had no success with women. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 21.
So it's not up to your fullness, or at least it doesn't play a major role in your failure.
Maybe you don't have the right approach, manners, talk topics, self-esteem, etc.
28, those who revolve around the rich do not swirl from sexual arousal ;)
23/26, do not know what study did that the rich were fat :-) I don't have words! And even if they are, the models in question fall in love with their wallets and credit cards, not them.
If we're talking about normal people like the author, without a solid bank account to weigh over an unattractive appearance, weight is a problem
One word: self-esteem. You miss that! You feel full ,and you probably are, but life is like a game of poker. It's not what cards you have, it's what cards others think you have.
I mean, if you've got a tail and you step in timidly, they're going to see you as a bad product. But if you have self-esteem, they will wonder at the contrast kind/behavior, and at least some will think that there is something they do not see and that gives you that self-confidence. This in turn will make them ambitious to understand what it is (women and cats are curious creatures) and light-slowly will stay longer. Then it's your turn to convince them that you're for them. But if you think you're a piece of yourself, my dear, how do you expect someone not to throw you in the dumpster?
So no "I'm full"! No self-pity, no ponytails! Be full and know it, but when you approach a woman, feel light as a feather and let your whole being talk about how cool you are! Well, don't overdo it, like making fun of fat people - it repels, because they'il automatically think you're some jerk! Just act like there's no reason to be rejected and some of the people will believe you. The tactic is old, and you don't know how full people are with skinny women or ugly with beauties. but they have been able to give themselves a charm with actions, for nature has denied it to them, and they do not have one in defero-de-deflate as others.
It's a trick - some have it by birth, the rest we have to build it with action. I know what I'm talking about - and I've been through that period when the world didn't want me and I was guilty, but I got the hang of it and things are fine.
I think your main problem is not the completeness, but your attitude to yourself, your self-esteem. You can't define yourself as a boy at 28. You're a boy by 18, then you become a man, at least you should. You have to find something in you to respect yourself - whether professional, whether personal qualities, whether ambition, or dreams... Inner strength, kindness, nobility, knowledge, readability... Because if you don't respect yourself, there's no way women can take you seriously.
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