Interesting question. I think you've guessed the reasons, but not quite. First, we are talking about strictly individual preferences. Maybe because society expects a man to be older, many women do not give a chance to younger men at all, but especially for the age of 16-30 years, it is true that women are more serious in their desire for a serious relationship. , family and children. It is as if in men this longing appears after the age of 30, even after the age of 35.
Separately, it happens that you just fall in love with a person regardless of age, and in couples with a man much younger, they may separate because of social attitudes.
I can say for myself that I do not like and have never liked men under 40, and my husband is much older than me not because of security, material well-being and the like, but simply because I do not like younger men and to this day you can put a 20-year-old in my bed and I would have no desire for it. I always look at mature men - 40-60 years old and I'm not the only one, it's no coincidence that the white-haired George Clooney is a sex symbol of our time, and even one Brother Pete is over 50 years old. But not all women do. Especially in 30 women, the opposite trend is often observed - younger men and lovers are looking for and finding.
In the interest of truth, it makes no sense for women to like older men, because we already live longer than men. In reality, the man should be at least 5 years younger than the woman.
For men, it makes sense to like younger women because of their fertility, but for women I can not explain this phenomenon, and in the interest of truth this is not important - it is important to love each other, to have love, understanding and common goals and interests.
Can't you really think that much?
The main biological function of a woman is to give birth and raise a generation. Accordingly, it needs security and stability. Who will provide her with such? The 17-year-old pickle with yellow around his mouth?
Central to security is life experience, which cannot be accumulated in any other way than ... living, over the years. Stability is a function of calmness - where hormones no longer rage, but there is both reason and pragmatism.
And last but not least - whether the man has succeeded in life, materially and anyway. Why do girls cling to a successful man with families? Because they have obviously proved that they can cope with life and with the upbringing and education of the generation.
All this, of course, happens subconsciously. If you ask a woman, she will hardly answer you like that, because she herself does not realize it. However, this does not mean that it is embedded in her biological program and is stronger than her.
Is it clear now or should we repeat it?
The older the man, the sooner he will die and leave his pension to the woman. Men already die 10 years before women, according to statistics, so if she takes one 10 years older than her, the woman secures a 20-year double pension.
Accountants to the end!
Women develop faster than men physically and intellectually (especially in early childhood) (this is a biological fact), so they are looking for older men because a woman of 20, say, has the psyche of 20 years. And a man at 20 has the maturity of a psyche at 17, just biology, and in that case, it's normal to look for a person with your emotional maturity.
In my opinion, these are also the reasons - they feel more protected, and especially for a girl aged 16-20 - they are interested in an older dad with a car, with a job, they seem more mature, despite the fact that often dads they use teenage girls for sex only because they consider them naive and inexperienced, but they are often right about it. I'm a girl of 17, but I've always liked boys my age, up to 2-3 years older or younger than me. However, most of my peers also prefer Batkovtsi - they were supposedly more mature, more masculine, they wanted men, not pickles, so a friend of mine put it. I know a couple who even soon had a baby - the woman is 27-8 and the man is 20. But they love each other very much. People of all kinds, preferences of all kinds.
The question is rather why 40-year-old uncles run after twice as young girls.
Joke aside. Not all girls like older men. In my personal opinion, the difference of more than 2-3 years (no matter in whose favor) is too much. But of course this is a matter of personal opinion.
I think it's very simple. Women are looking for a "stable" man, ie materially secure, with a variety of life experiences, in order to be able to deal with various problems, etc. In general, a man who has various resources ready for consumption.
For a man, liking is mostly sexual, so a girl in her twenties will be more liked than another in her thirties, which will not be compared to a third in her forties. Naturally, a beauty will be busier than a cute fat woman.
And so the two poles are balanced. This is also a bit unpleasant for me, because I am 29 years old and I do not have special resources. I have ten years of hard work ahead of me before I become attractive to women. At the moment I supposedly like chat-pat, but I guess not so much.
I think it's up to the person. For me, age doesn't matter. Just as I can be with a partner older than me, so I can be with a younger partner. I would even say that I find relationships with a big age difference hellishly attractive, especially if the boy is younger than the woman, because somehow that makes her active in the relationship, more authoritative ... the one in which the boy has to listen and listen. inquires.
Maybe we women choose older partners because we feel more protected and protected with them, and mostly because women prefer more mature and serious partners ... with a lot of experience behind them. Unfortunately, however mature a person next to us is, it does not mean that he will be serious in our relationship or to ourselves .... a person who is bloody with an apology, whether he will be 20 or 60 it will continue to follow the same path again.
I've been with peers and a lot of older people. There is no noticeable difference. You just either like a person or you don't. Pheromones, kindred spirits ... as you like, call it that.
I like older men about 10 years older than me. Younger than me or those of 19-20-21-22-23 ... I don't take them seriously because, as you say, they behave like kids ... I like the confidence in adults (not that young people don't have that. ..). Most are serious, smart, polite, masculine. By masculinity, I don't just mean muscles. And I like being smaller. I like to have a serious person by my side. :)
I do not prefer! Of course, I can fall in love with an older one, but in general I like the younger ones more. : D Ever since they became teenagers, women have started to look at their age a lot. The smaller ones are out, the bigger ones are cool. And with this childish attitude they grow. Dozens of times I've heard things like "he's 2 years younger, how can you move with him" and things like that. When I was a student, my peers went en masse with various uncles of 30 and a half years, or at least with a student, about to graduate. For boys, such a thing was unthinkable - to go with a 30-year-old woman - absurd, I have not even heard of such a thing. I can't explain exactly why it's happening - his conformist job!
It is purely psychological. Some women seek and find protection in a more mature and settled man. Others are looking for their "father." Others are simply perverted. Fourth, they do it for a jerk - "look at me, I'm a bitch, I caught a married man, ready to ruin his family for me". Very often the uncle himself catches the deer in his trap with money and other things to turn its head.
The other day, in a restaurant, a greasy Italian uncle about 60 was tearing down an 18-year-old waitress in the most base way. She ignored him, but it was still disgusting.
It is worrying that many men are already looking for women 20-30 years older than them.
I don't know, but something here seems wrong to me!
n 3, we live in the 21st century - women will have even higher pensions than men, because we work on an employment contract, not illegally on construction sites like you. In addition, in our country a pension is not inherited - there are some basic allowances of several tens of levs, but that will change. Yes, I have your theory
I am a man of 32 and I have always liked my peers. When I say peers, I mean / - 3 years or at most 5. When I was 20 I liked 20 year olds, now I like women around 30. Not that there aren't nice and younger girls, but I don't like the big differences. As for the question "why", here I think that number 7 is right to some extent. Most women are looking for a man who can support them. It is clear that a boy of 20 can not do it and logically orient to the older ones. Of course, there are those who just like the person, but are less. However, to claim that girls mature faster than boys is complete nonsense. Both sexes mature at the same time, even my personal experience is slightly in the opposite direction.
The question is psychological rather than philosophical. Of course, older men are rarely prettier, etc. In general, a woman develops purely psychologically 2 years faster than a man according to a study. Of course, there are exceptions. They may be looking for protection, a father figure, for a scoundrel, for money, for a tickle of self-confidence and what not. Different people, different ideals. There are also a lot of women who are looking for younger men, although there things are more about physical attraction and sex. There are also a lot of men who fall in love with older women. Again for a number of reasons - such women are more settled, they know what they want and how to achieve it, they know what to do in bed, etc. Different people, different ideals.
You are asking the wrong question! The answer is that MEN prefer YOUNGER WOMEN!
To the author. Because the world is a perverted boy. Because values have changed. Before / not so long ago / we fell in love, loved, gave - in any way /, now we CALCULATE. This is your answer.
Now young women are calculating whether to have a child, because diapers cost a lot, a crib, a cot, all the accessories. Money, money and money again. We used to give birth to children without counting - we just loved the person next to us and happily accepted the appearance of the child, we looked at him with love, not money.
It's the same with relationships - you fall in love with a boy - beautiful, tender, interesting. You start a relationship because you fly and you feel happy, not because you have estimated the thickness of his wallet in advance. If it works out - you go with it to the end of the world - just because you are happy.
That disappeared.
Now we are CALCULATING.
I was more attracted to men my age or 1, 2 at most, but unfortunately most of them were not serious, found one ear more settled and took that left me because of a bigger woman. So after so many disappointments with the youngsters, I am already afraid to take risks, I prefer the man to be at least 5 years older.
This is not a rule, but strictly individual. I am also one of the women who fall in love with older men. For me, and one of the reasons in general is the feeling of security and protection. Not materially, but emotionally. But a difference of 10 years or more is not desirable. For a lover - yes, but for cohabitation - no. And it matters if you're 20 and he's 35 or you're 30 and he's 45.
We like older men than us because their attitude is much more mature, they are much more educated, they respect themselves and the people around them and when a problem arises they will not run away from it. Take a look at today's boys how they behave with girls and you will see that the older ones are much more mature and it is much easier to have a long-term and serious relationship. And the others, the only thing they think about is how to stab someone for one night and they have nothing to do with the girl next to them.
Youth is youth. I choose the young like me.
Hihihi the comment on number 3 cheered me up and still laughs: D
Now on to the topic: I like older men too. It is not about the material, but about the fact that you can learn a lot from such a man. I like that he will not go to a chalga club, but instead will take and read a book. I like the wisdom and charisma they radiate. And sex is the top - he knows when, where and how to touch ...
Because there is something to learn from the older ones. The younger ones can't impress you with anything, we know what they know. And it is a matter of attitude whether someone is looking for material benefits or just protection.
I have been living with a man 9 years younger than me on a family basis since July. and 6 m., we have known each other for 2 years, not because I was looking, it just happened. We get along wonderfully, from falling in love in the beginning, now we just can't do without each other. I'm 41, he's 32. We're both divorced, with one child each. I am a supported woman, no one can give me the years, with a good profession, we support each other, we listen to each other, I can even say that he is jealous. But I can't say that I like older men, it's individual, a matter of psyche ...
I have been looking for the answer to the question for years. And in the end there are no unambiguous answers. I agree with the biological theory and with the greater maturity, I do not deny the other comments.
There is another topic dedicated to this issue - it is said, "Older men" and is from 3 years ago.
I have a girlfriend younger than me and I can say that she never asked me for money, when I tell her I don't, she is not angry. However, I can't say that she is not interested and she is still a person to her and various things are wanted.
Because there are also questions about why men like smaller ones, I like smaller ones, because I fall in love the most when they show me that I am wanted, that they would listen to me. They give me the opportunity to be a leader. And the younger ones show this much more successfully than the adults.
In adults, something is lame, they are either too independent and do not give me the opportunity to be a leader, they even try to take on this role, or they have too many requirements that I can not meet.
It's one thing to ask you for a car, an apartment, a child, a good income, and not being able to provide for them. It is quite another to be loved because you are, because you have a mature mindset that you can always give and to rejoice that you are trying to rise.
It's much nicer to be liked for who you are, not because you're who they want you to be.
I'm sorry that even the older ones can't like the person because of his nature, to like him as he is.
Number 18, he wrote it most accurately !!!!
19, before, during communism, you probably all had a job and there was no unemployment, I don't see how to look after a child without money ...
# 18, maybe it's mutual? !! For your horror :)
I agree with 22!
The bigger one can protect you, thinks with his upper head, takes responsibilities, I exclude money (they are not my factor), he is further from the parties every night, alcohol, drugs and prostitution, he does not perceive you as a number. He knows what, when and where to say. If you have a problem in the relationship, you will sit down and find the answer, not to take your luggage and go out angry as a child .. It is more stable, it will not get depressed at the first problem! He has learned more from life and can support you when he sees you staggering in the wrong direction. He is serious. He knows how to make you happy and a lot of other things. Well, of course, this is individual for each person. He may be 40 years old and still behave like a hot-tempered teenager, or he may be 15 years old, but he knows what he wants and how to achieve it, educated, well-read, strong (physically or mentally), etc. So if someone hopes to make a living by catching an uncle, the exact opposite can happen. And as far as love is concerned, you can fall in love with a bigger one, regardless of whether he is 5, 10 or 20 years old or younger, you can't choose.
My mother has a relationship with a 35-year-old, and she is 41, so I think it depends on the person.
Dude, number 18 gives probably the most accurate answer. Not them, but we determine that. What can I be interested in my peers, as the older ones have already wiped them. We look at the smaller ones. And here again to return to the number: What man would want a fucker 20 years old with 20 pieces or more? Well no one of course. Each of us men knows that he is always number two. No woman says her numbers. When a married woman tells herself about infidelity, I have always been second, at most third, and when she is not married - I am second, but right? When each of us got married, at most they would have told him that he was third, if not second, and always those before were worse. Well, of course, that's not the case and it's natural when they tell you that you are second, you must know that you are 32nd. Is that correct? That's right. And that's why men try to be something younger, so that at least they are not 52. And the woman likes more pompous, uglier, more hooligan, more unscrupulous and last but not least better at sex. A woman is just something, but it is a pity that we realize it only when we are destroyed by some garbage, and not before, when we are good, modest and honest boys and young people.
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