Why Are So Many Women Dumped Around 30?

   Well, rejoice if someone dumps you when you turn 30. This way you will understand that this person is not with you because of who you are, but only because you were younger. You don't need such a person, because he will want the good and the easy in every situation, and if difficulties come, he will run away. Your friends should be grateful that they dumped them because they got rid of some superficial men who are only looking for the shell. Think of someone you really love and who you really care about - do you care that he is 30 or 40, do you care that he has gained 10 kg? If the answer is NO, then you hold on to him as a person and a person, and if the answer is Yes, then you were with him because he is young, beautiful, weak, etc. So if someone is with you because you are 20, he is not he is interested in you, and your youth. And I don't think you need such a person.

   In my opinion, an unmarried woman, who at the age of 30 has no plans for children, is subconsciously perceived by her partner as "nephew" and "passed". There is something else - if the partner himself has not thought to take something more serious by these years - this clearly shows his non-committal attitude. And why he will abandon her no longer matters. It makes sense if he thinks with the prospect of getting younger, of course. On the contrary - married women who have given birth to children earlier - at this age recover, shake off the shackles of marriage and triumph of femininity and beauty. 30-35 years is the sweetest and most beautiful female age. So don't allow yourself to be unfulfilled and overwhelmed at 30 ... Become women, mothers, in the last resort if you don't succeed - maybe scoundrels, but don't do nothing.

   Enough with these summaries. Just because it happened to your girlfriends doesn't mean it will happen to you. Besides, it's kind of superficial to think that they broke up mainly because she was approaching 30. You don't know what problems they had in their relationship. And why are the possibilities for the woman of 30 (!) Limited? There are examples among our "celebrities".

   An interesting question with many possible answers .... In my opinion, men lose self-confidence, start looking for something new and interesting to regain the previous position in which they considered themselves great. And they achieve this by catching up with someone 10 years younger (for example). Then this young woman becomes the same as the previous one ... She changes, but not him. Rather, this situation should be a problem for men, not for women to whine ... The long-term relationship without development over time falls apart anyway.

   it is not because of age - the long relationship with the wrong person at one point fits, a lot of bitivism has accumulated, then something new and fresh comes - normal. it's not because of age ... it's just that your acquaintances around you are at an age when they already had the chance to experience one or two long relationships.

   And I'm worried about the same thing, because I'm 24, my man is 25 and do I know what he will decide in another year ... I will also wait for opinions from men ..

   the author: both relatives shared with me. he replaced her with another girl who was 10 years younger. big shock! men are in a more comfortable position in general. but really one is a woman of 20, 25, another of 30, 35. In a body we can bring it, but the wrinkles are visible! and here comes the new one ... 10 years younger ... that's right. I'm 27, I try to look good, but I started to get some fine wrinkles. I am sometimes afraid of such a fate. After 30 years, don't you agree that we women, after 30 years, find it a little difficult to find a partner for a serious relationship? most are busy, with families.

   - Why are so many women dumped around 30? "To be taken on by the true understanders!"

   My dear girls! At the age of 30, didn't you understand that if someone dumps us, it's mostly our fault! If the relationship is stable, preserved in time, it will not break up because of some adolescence. I have been abandoned, I have been abandoned, and now, going back, I can clearly see my mistakes. I will not go into details. It is very important not to keep our men under a slipper and when we are jealous of someone, we direct him to her in this way.

   Eh ... eh .. it's a very strong word :)) There is no way to put all the people in the world in just one topic :) The more people, the more ideals and choices! ... :) Mmm ... you say that makes an impression on you, but of course, since this is your environment! Women are not dumped because they are about 30: DA because they had the stupidity to catch up with some fools! And isn't that so? What kind of man will be the one who will replace the woman with whom he lived, with whom he shared, experienced something with some young girl who will be like a child for him! :)) The men who do this ... are idiots! :) No normal man will do that! And the biggest mistake in you women is that you decided to be with such men, seeing how much they "cost"! :)) Do you realize that in order to proceed to plan "B" so there was no love between them and your girlfriends, they were together only because they found benefit in your girlfriends! ... Mmm! .. Another issue is that you women become unnecessarily complex, going to the number 30 :)) Almost come on, your life is over, you will be thrown out and ignored. What nonsense this is! There are women over 40 who look terribly beautiful :) If the problem is that you think you are getting old! ... Don't be afraid, as long as there is love and sharing between you, everything will be fine =) You ... think well, and do you know what I notice? :)) The sequence in the growth of the girl to a woman! Not for everyone, but the general trend is that a girl after approximately 14 years, indulges in all sorts of urges and, sleeps with this and that, and generally goes crazy at max, until about 17-18 years, then does things only with your choice because she has gained experience. Then he orients himself in search of a suitable candidate for a serious relationship! With whom to be, because it is so is normal and accepted. This girl has become a woman, and at the age of 30 she falls into the critical age! : D In her early years she was very crazy, she was young and everyone was naive, literally. With age, he is afraid that he will lose his charm and beauty, and with that he will lose his male attention! As in your case, you are afraid of losing the person next to you! That if he is with you only because of your body and appearance, then you lost him a long time ago, no, you didn't even have him at all! Love is two to be together because they love their souls, because they love what they are, and do not imagine life without being with each other :) I personally would like to spend my whole life with a woman and give her time = ) ~ winterfire ~ Then he orients himself in search of a suitable candidate for a serious relationship! With whom to be, because it is so is normal and accepted. This girl has become a woman, and at the age of 30 she falls into the critical age! : D In her early years she was very crazy, she was young and everyone was naive, literally. With age, he is afraid that he will lose his charm and beauty, and with that he will lose his male attention! As in your case, you are afraid of losing the person next to you! That if he is with you only because of your body and appearance, then you lost him a long time ago, no, you didn't even have him at all! Love is two to be together because they love their souls, because they love what they are, and do not imagine life without being with each other :) I personally would like to spend my whole life with a woman and give her time = ) ~ winterfire ~ Then he orients himself in search of a suitable candidate for a serious relationship! With whom to be, because it is so is normal and accepted. This girl has become a woman, and at the age of 30 she falls into the critical age! : D In her early years she was very crazy, she was young and everyone was naive, literally. With age, he is afraid that he will lose his charm and beauty, and with that he will lose his male attention! As in your case, you are afraid that you will lose the person next to you! That if he is with you only because of your body and appearance, then you lost him a long time ago, no, you didn't even have him at all! Love is two to be together because they love their souls, because they love what they are, and do not imagine life without being with each other :) I personally would like to spend my whole life with a woman and give her time = ) ~ winterfire ~

   Author, I wonder why you have such negative thoughts in your head! Accurate statistics, hardly anyone can give you whether it is more difficult for women to find a partner after 30, but I assure you that if you think so, it will be harder for you. And yes, it's not the same whether you're 20 or 30, but it's the same for men. Should they be preserved? !! And they make you fat, they make you bald ... Isn't it just comical to think that the fine wrinkles on your face would be a reason to dump you, unless your friend is very superficial, of course ...

   Apart from some of the above explanations (that your acquaintances hardly dumped ONLY because the woman turned 30) I want to tell you that in Bulgaria 18-year-old muffins with a chalga look are valued. The 19-year-olds are already old, not to mention the 30-year-olds! I'm not saying - men are guilty - I'm not saying - women are guilty. I say - society as a whole is to blame. Come and see in the West how much less attention is paid to age and appearance when choosing a PARTNER. Our BG conceptions (or rather the conceptions of some Bulgarians) are impossibly chalganized, congested and perverted. Such nonsense exists only in the Balkan and Oriental countries. In "white" countries, people respect each other, gather as a family and love not only 20, 30, but also 40, 50, 60, 70. what is the problem? The problem is that the values ​​have been lost and in their place the chalga culture is rampant in our dear Bulgaria!

   Author: Number 16, I assume the reason is exactly what you think. This is the situation. The facts are, yes. And obviously fine facial wrinkles and slight changes are essential for many men. There are wonderful women in their 30s and a few, even in their 40s, but ... you called things very accurately. Well, that's why I decided to write and share what impresses me ... And not to repeat myself constantly, but especially one of my relatives had a hard time going through all this ... Because of exactly one type of "folk girl", who is obviously more suitable for sex entertainment ...

   Author, it's me again, number 16. I'm a 35-year-old woman, and I'm not yet to be thrown away :) I'm glad you share my opinion. In conclusion, I just wanted to tell you not to let yourself be dragged by our dear native chalganized and vulgar reality. Do not be afraid of your fate "one day". Think and act here and now. Have confidence. A woman does not deserve to be humiliated, so if you do not feel good in this relationship, you have fears that they will dump you because you are younger - share them with your boyfriend. We Bulgarian women are beautiful, smart and capable women and over the years we usually become even more beautiful. Not to mention that women over 30 are more experienced in sex and in life in general, and we know how to enjoy it. If your friend doesn't raise your self-esteem, if he doesn't support and appreciate you now that you're 27, he won't change his attitude when you turn 28, 29 ... and wow God! at 30. Life begins at 30, darling. I may not have the figure of an 18-year-old girl, I may have minimal lines around my eyes, but I feel good and enjoy life. You do it too. Success!

   Author: Number 18, I'm glad you think like me, BUT the fact is that we live in this reality, unfortunately. I wish it was different. Obviously in the West it is not so, but I still love Bulgaria. One of the reasons why the men and women we choose to be here is rooted in the upbringing that past generations have given ... So generations ago they married so young. At 20-25 maximum, with some slight exceptions. This rigid thinking continues. Currently, many women start families at the latest at the age of 30, because they are so pushy that they have to start families that there are some who marry the first person they meet. We know not 1-2 such cases. We are getting married because NOW we have to. A close relative married at 32, in a hurry, simply because he was getting older, according to his mother. Make a quick child of the man in question ... They got married in a few months .. You really can't get to know the man in half a year ... Now how many problems do they have ... And I asked her why she was in such a hurry ??? She said that she was afraid of remaining an old maid ... Cases, relationships, people ... and I create impressions based on which to think ... And I'm not very positive about what I see. Can't a woman of 35 and above look good, can't she be liked ??? Can't he raise a child better than a 20-year-old ?? I deviate a little from the topic, but it strikes me that women who are divorced and have a child from the 1st marriage, and they are sometimes looked at with a different eye .... And this is again because of the upbringing that parents pass on to your children. Again example: My neighbor (about 35 years old) lived with a woman his age who is divorced .. People, I want to tell you, that his mother did not stop until he separated them! He talked, insulted her in front of the neighbors, set up his son ... and finally managed to separate them! There are many intelligent people in Bulgaria, but I do not know whether from our poverty or what, thinking is very elementary in many ways. This is my opinion.

   In my opinion, women (and men!) At and around 30 are dumped because they no longer live up to their partner's expectations. In a shorter relationship (several months to a year or two) you know the person at a certain stage of his life, something like a screenshot - the person is as he is, or settles you or not. Long relationships are not like that, there they both have time to develop and change, and everyone has the opportunity to observe the other in development. Then, if the two develop in different directions or one more slowly than the other, there is a discrepancy and the relationship becomes incomplete for one of the two (usually the one who is "forward"), or for both. This inevitably kills somewhere. Whether it's worth fighting for such a relationship or not depends a lot on the circumstances and who is "wrong". Sometimes it is a phase in life and requires support and patience. In such cases, after passing the phase, often the result is a radically changed person, with whom the relationship seems to have started from the beginning and is more complete than ever. Unfortunately, many people do not have the patience to wait, nor the desire and motivation to support their spouses at such a time, and choose the easy option - to take someone else. And sometimes it is not a period of transition, and the two develop in different directions. Then it must simply be assumed that the other has chosen a new path in his life, ie he is simply no longer the same person as before. As number 5 said, this has nothing to do with age or the phenomenon of the "aging woman," as many imagine. This can happen at any age, just about 30 for the first time this phenomenon is observed en masse, because people have had time for a few serious relationships and for some evolution in character. Kubrat

   Kubrat, what about the slight changes that occur in the vision, don't you think that they also have an impact - on the one hand the young 22-year-old girl with a straight face, and on the other a slightly wrinkled woman ??? unfair, but a fact

   Thanks to Kubrat. Here are intelligent men

   22, intelligent men there. See intelligent women are for the Red Book. : P

   But how many men like Kubrat ?? 10%, 5% .........

   Up to 24: There are a lot of such men, but women are always idiots.

   Well, let me ask ... Tomorrow I will be in my 30s, I am alone ... where will I look for this man who is as big as me or older ... who will like me ...? won't this 30-year-old prefer the slightly younger one than me ... maybe yes ... we are afraid of that ..

   ok ... I'll be 30 tomorrow .. ok, I look good, but I'm not 25 anymore,, and who should I look for ??? those like me or the older ones are already tied up ... And what do we do ??? It is scary.

   Because the answer is simple. First, by the age of 30, a woman must be married and have a child, if not 2. I don't know where your girlfriends slept, that they got to the point where they didn't have a family and a child at the age of 30 and were abandoned accordingly. The man, I say it the way I feel ... I need a family! I need my wife, my children. At the time when my wife and I commented on the topic of baby, we were 23-25, respectively, and I honestly say that if she had not provided me with a family home and children, I would definitely be looking for something else. This is the situation. You women are extremely selfish sometimes. They don't want to get married, they don't want to give birth - not to spoil their figure ... but they are also stupid, at 30 and even if you haven't given birth, you can't compete with a girl at 20. This is life. A woman's trump cards are different over the years and if at 20 you are enchanted mainly by body and beauty, then at 30 things are different, as well as men's needs are different. Also, don't think all 20-year-old girls are stupid. On the contrary, there are quite smart and profitable among them. They look for exactly 30 men, experienced, settled, and take them. The other thing I met among my friends was female infidelity. She was tired, looking for variety, only sex. Well, yes, but no. There are men who will not tolerate the woman next to them waving her ass left and right and putting their horns on them. Some men directly beat the jester on such. When you're 30 you'll behave like 30, that's what I can tell you and don't bother! At this age you should not think about family, but to have it already and not to think about how to keep your husbands, but to have built trust,

   Many couples separate for different reasons. There is generally no regularity for age. "The culprits are always two." The fact is that attention is drawn to the appearance of wrinkles and weight, but attention must be paid to other things. At 30, you are not old at all, as some say, then life begins, because you have already gained life experience, and it is normal to want to have a beautiful partner next to you. When you live together, however, this alone is not enough, many other things are important for a relationship. In the beginning the relationship is stormy, the man makes presents, takes his wife out for fun, he is kind and good, the woman tries everything, from her appearance, through the kitchen, to the bed. For all this, in addition to the chemistry between the two, appearance and money and sex are also important. If any of these things change in a negative way, one begins to look away. The main problem, however, in my opinion, for a number of reasons, is that we have lost the habit of communicating with the other, and we have turned from social to everyday units. Communicate more with the partner next to you to know what is bothering him or share your grief. The author rightly thinks that an awful lot of problems in relationships are created because of the parents, and the lack of an intelligent and mature person with whom to share and give you good advice about life. My wife replaced me at 30, with 6 years younger than her, for the reason she had no clear explanation. Bulgarian women are beautiful at 30 and 40, and should not despair, because there are intelligent men in Bulgaria, some come to their senses later. It strikes me that after such disappointments, women also start looking for a younger man, and can be re-involved in the same film, that is, abandoned. I don't understand, since they realize that they may have left them because of some wrinkle, kilo or year, they don't look for a man who meets their insight for the change over the years. Think about the advice, do not despair, you think very well. And if he leaves you for a younger one, maybe one day in his old age he will leave him for a younger one, everything returns to life. Us.

   Kubrat made me think about some things for the first time. Thanks :) D.

   Author, why are these complexes? At 32 I am, and I am not afraid that I will be abandoned for someone smaller than me. By the way of logic 20-22 years. girls, they are neither my education nor my mind. Neither the eyeliner nor the white hair is a problem for me. It's not worth wasting your nerves thinking about whether he'll dump you when you're in your 30s. Every normal uncomplexed man chooses a partner based on many other criteria, not only on appearance and age. So head up and look brighter. Good luck. Magicians

   28, you have a very outdated, provincial thinking! In the West, they first make a career and then get married. A girl aged 18-25 can't be a good mother!

   28th number, why should 1 woman marry by 30? what if he marries at 31? There are perfect looking ones even in those years. One of my friends was dumped because of a girl 10 years younger ... but not because he wants to start a family. nor did he create with the new girl .. just change her. that girl is too young, she follows, and she is unlikely to get married right now ... the logic is not always based on "getting married".

   Number 28, you're very rude! And with a lot of provincial thinking and more. Sometimes meeting the right person is not about how old you are, but about chance, luck and other circumstances. Nowadays, more and more often not only women but also men are without partners after the age of 30. And this is not to their reluctance to settle down, but because they simply have not met a person they love.

   number 33 - you ask, but you do not accept the explanation that is so close to the mind. Here - a man told you, and you did not, and no! Men and women gather in a family, and do not live as any roommates ... It is very clear that he will look for his wife, he wants a family consciously or subconsciously - his nature dictates it. If they don't marry the new one today, they will get married tomorrow, you don't think about them / I mean having a child, after all /.

   Off, let's talk real, without a lot of grumbling and excuses! Because most 30-year-old women look like 50-year-old pregnant fatheads. Is it understandable? !! Thick, run-down, with tousled hair, pinched with a black retro hairpin ... Well, what would a man like? !! Female opinion.

   The last stupid comments spoiled the interesting topic. If a man wants a family he has a mouth to say it. 30-year-olds look normal, who is a pedophile and wants children, can come closest legally to 18-year-olds. It must be a big thrill for pedophiles who don't have the strength to be with a real woman. P. P. I am under 25.

   Don't be afraid, grown girls;) At 35 to 45 the men are already divorced, so you will catch the second batch of the delivery.

   number 35, there is no rule with whom you will start a family. we are talking in principle about the tendency to change women for a little younger .. one of the reasons, in my opinion, is that younger people are easily manipulated ... in this sense, a 25-year-old will lie to her more easily than a 35-year-old .. f. and the damn wrinkles .... !!!

   Off, number 36 - we are not most like bigots and neglected over 30 years. What age do you live in ?? And my opinion is female and belongs to a 33-year-old married woman without children. :) Regarding the author's worries - if a man dumps men because of someone younger than you, it means only one thing - that he does not care enough about you. That is, he is doing you a favor because he is not the right one. As for the choice after 30 years. - women after 30 years have a very very large selection and to tell you the truth - and better quality. They know what they want from a man, and many men appreciate that (quality men, not just male individuals). Don't worry about your 30s, worry that your boyfriend is looking at young girls in front of you. :)

   Because you like the so-called "matchmakers". The normal ones are not interesting to you and I see a trend that is very negative. A lot of women are looking forward to fucking Friday night and going to a disco. They live for one Friday night. I commented on this with my colleague at an old job, and my colleagues 90% crumpled my blanket and my colleague's. What can I tell you the debauchery is just beginning!

   I like the statement of number 28, very correct. 20 years ago, when I was graduating from medicine, we were taught that a woman should have given birth to her first child by 22-23, and a second after 2-3 years, if she wishes. Now there is another trend, later birth of the first child, somewhere around 30 years, even later. But in 20 years, human evolution has not changed at all. I can't understand why you're standing and waiting for someone to replace you with a younger girl, and by the age of 27 you haven't done anything about getting married, having a child or having children, raising and educating them, not being afraid. from abandonment. Well, yes, it is very unpleasant to be abandoned at the age of 30 and to be left alone, but that is not the end of the world, with one abandonment. I can't understand why today's girls postpone marriage for years or curl up and have children without marriage. They live in insecurity and want to convince everyone that such a life is probably the best for them and their children. Excuse me for writing, but I think so. Whether you will be abandoned or not depends on how you put yourself in the relationship, how serious you are in your relationship, what you give and what you demand from your partner.

   You are very interested in those of you who claim that a woman should have given birth by 22-23. Birth is not limited to the physical part. I'm 22 and honestly, I don't feel at all ready to dedicate myself completely to a little defenseless person, as a good mother should do. And I don't think I'm an exception, watching my girlfriends and colleagues. Let's be honest, until the age of 19, when he finishes high school and is still with mom and dad, he is a child. There are no serious responsibilities, I don't have to deal with life alone. Do you think that another 3-4 years are enough for him to mature, to feel independent, to realize what he wants from life and to raise a valuable person? And even if it succeeds, is it any wonder that some, in my opinion most people, want to live some more time for themselves, to give pleasure to themselves, to develop rather than dedicate themselves to their child? Not to mention that many women and men of this age have simply not met the person they want a child from. What, to catch the first one they meet, because tomorrow, when they are 24, it will be too late?

   number 42, there are women with ambition who want to study and have some career development, and what if she gave birth to her child at 30 and not at 27? If she has a chance to get on her feet, be a little more confident. I recently watched celebrities on TV, and one said she gave birth at the age of 20 at one time, her friend now gave birth at the age of 32. She says that her friend is much more aware of motherhood. And what if we give birth at 20? We finished our secondary education 2 years ago ... what if we want to study? if we have any ambitions? If there is no one to help but ?? .. There are many factors. And on the subject of the author, I would say that there is such a moment, and obviously love, love, but a few fine wrinkles, and the 5 pounds gained, play a role when the 20-year-old fresh piece appears ... and I'm worried. There are also positive examples. My 10-year-old cousin has a relationship.

   43, 44, I already try not to pay attention to people like 42. No matter how you explain it, they see in the woman only an incubator, but even so, I'm not convinced that there is a difference between 22 and 27 years, only maybe a little in fertility, nothing else.

   Number 30, E. if it's really the first time, he can only speak well of you ;-) Number 21, 26 and 27: What's wrong with him when you're 30? In fact, the scary thing is that you are trying to compete with 20-year-olds only in appearance and number of wrinkles, where there is obviously no way to beat them. If for these 10 years it has not occurred to you that you can offer a man something more than your body, then you are really in the category of 20-year-olds - that's the scary thing. You put yourself in a losing position by racing to compete with only one inevitably depleting resource, rather than using the other trump cards you (should) have. Sometimes I am amazed at how women inwardly rely only on appearance and limit their value to that, and then roar that men only look at it. That there are men who look only at appearance, there is no dispute, but when you are looking for a man for a family, this category does not bother you anyway, so the fact that you would not attract one is not a big loss. Kubrat PP On the question of when it is right or wrong to give birth to a woman, I also have an opinion, but I will not speak, because that is not the topic. In any case, the claim that men ran away from women because they wanted a family is just ridiculous. Rather, the opposite is true of chat-pat. is just funny. Rather, the opposite is true of chat-pat. is just funny. Rather, the opposite is true of chat-pat.

   Kubrat, I meant that this is the first time I've thought about these things, not that this is the first time you've made me think about something. And that doesn't seem to speak well for me: D

   ... Kubrat, you are right that there are women who compete, but there are also those with whom they compete ... and age is not a disadvantage for them ... on the contrary ... greetings .... ZARA

   On a large scale, men do not want to get seriously engaged, they get goosebumps when they hear the word marriage ... the forums are full of topics that women only sing about a serious relationship and this is unpleasant for them. They are only looking for sex and that's it. They categorically state that they will never get married. A child could one day ... but not another. I'm talking about men who are single and are 32-36. So not everything depends on us and our desire to adopt.

   Ear, I just wanted to add one more thing, and there were already answers. Well, my mother recently turned 50, but she keeps nailing a chat-pat on a boyfriend and generally can't complain about the lack of interest in that regard. I didn't ask her how she does it, but there's obviously a way. If at 50 you can, at 30 it should be a lot easier ... although of course the target group is different. Number 49, that's another matter - if a man doesn't want children and a family, be it a man or a woman (and there are women), you can't make him / her. Those who get pregnant and / or get married by force in order to tie their husband "so that he can't run away" one day eat him very fat ... ZARA is true, but those who compete don't realize these things. That's where the problem is. For them. Kubrat

   I read and read, and to answer why women like YOU are dumped in their 30s - well, from so much thinking and blabbering on about all sorts of complex topics and questions, your men have a hard time with you. It's just that your guild has come in more. The eternal theme - not to stay an old maid, not to become a mother too late - and, well, all nonsense, said without a gram of cynicism, but terribly vulgar.

   And by the way - you are NOT dumped, because of age, there is CERTAINLY another reason. It's just that YOU at this age are raving about some complexes that you are already old and that's why they dumped you. And because you can't breathe alone, you have a great need for a man on whose back to build your life. Oh, a tragedy. Complete!