Hello, readers. I would also like to share something that bothers me more or less. I don't know why, but usually when I'm in a bad mood I notice that people avoid communicating with me or just move away from me as if I'm going to do something to them or they look at me badly. And I don't tell or do anything bad to them. This thing repulses them. Some people obviously manage to hide their bad mood and I don't know how they do it, but I'm a little unhappy and people notice it and even more stupidly, some of them think I have something against them. I don't know a misunderstood job. Have anything like this happened to you and what do you do in such situations. Thanks in advance! :)
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Maybe they just don't care about you. It's not their fault.
Well, when I'm in a bad mood, I cringed and kept quiet until it passed. But during my partnership, this practice defined me as a pathological behavior, crippled, and I was reprimanded and thrown into prison. Since then, if I have a weakness, I immediately give full information on the issue and prepare to be subjected to brutal attacks. This is how the neighbor learns that no one is indebted to him and he must be stable ...
People are not misunderstood, the problem is in you. You think you have done nothing to them, but if they avoid you, then you radiate negativity in all possible ways. It is a matter of emotional intelligence to be able to control your bad mood and not pass it on to others, even if it is involuntary, because the mood is "contagious". I had a girlfriend who was very emotional and switched her moods from one pole to the other for minutes and seconds, sour with nonsense, angry at little things, and then suddenly filled with great enthusiasm to do something ... And she saw nothing wrong in his emotionality. As he said - "such changes are natural". But it was not natural for me to constantly adjust to her moods, to tolerate her irritability when she was not having fun, to constantly comfort her, that this with trifles (and they really were) and I finally lost it. I realized that I didn't have to put up with her emotional instability and spoil my mood, because she often managed to spoil it for me. The problem was entirely hers, but it also affected me because she had no control over her emotions. You may think that you don't do anything bad to people, but when you get sour from small things, you are obviously from the "emotional" ones and you don't keep anything in yourself, and people don't have to put up with you. Learn to control yourself at least a little. Too emotional people are not pleasant to anyone, especially those who are dominated by negative emotions. The problem was entirely hers, but it also affected me because she had no control over her emotions. You may think that you are not doing anything bad to people, but when you get sour from small things, you are obviously from the "emotional" ones and you do not keep anything in yourself, and people do not have to tolerate you. Learn to control yourself at least a little. Too emotional people are not pleasant to anyone, especially those who are dominated by negative emotions. The problem was entirely hers, but it also affected me because she had no control over her emotions. You may think that you are not doing anything bad to people, but when you get sour from small things, you are obviously from the "emotional" ones and you do not keep anything in yourself, and people do not have to tolerate you. Learn to control yourself at least a little. Too emotional people are not pleasant to anyone, especially those who are dominated by negative emotions.
Number 1: That's exactly what they're doing to me. And at such a moment I don't want anyone to tease me just because I don't want to burden them, and then they start to get angry at me for not paying attention to them and almost for being boring. Some people just don't have pleasure. And when you try to hide your bad mood, they make a fake, a hypocrite and what not, but still ...
And even more stupid is that there are guys who are starting to pretend to be interesting and picky, which I don't understand anymore, but anyway ..
Most likely you give the impression of a critical, critical person.
Our mood more or less affects our neighbors. We feel tension or positive energy of the person in front of us. In most cases, people run away from negative individuals because they have enough of their own problems and are looking for a calming environment. Or they just become restless, irritated, angry. Another special feature of man is that the ego places him many times as the center of attention, the center of the world. People like to be flattered, praised and talked about more than they have the patience and desire to listen and understand others. Which again has to do with how real our relationships with relatives, acquaintances and strangers are. It's not always your fault, but it's up to you how you will accept the conditions and how much you will develop on your own. I do not agree at all that others are the criterion of normalcy. Our society, along with the value and social crisis, is very complexly organized and misunderstood in many cases. Most people are manipulated, do not think, but are misled as a herd or like horses with hats, and then something so unreasonable - is accepted as a rule. Individuality will always remain the factor that changes people.
Wow I have the same problem. I'm told that my face itself looks like I'm looking down. Even when I'm sitting there without thinking about something and people who don't know me think I'm looking at something bad. That's why I try to sit smiling most of the time, but I can't do it for 24 hours. If your problem is like mine ... we're just out of luck with my appearance, I think. Before they meet me, everyone tells me that I looked at them badly and thought I was bloated. And I'm just sitting and looking at myself in a precise, so good luck ...