Hello! I am a 17-year-old girl. So far I haven't had a serious relationship, I've dealt with a few boys, but nothing serious. Until a few months ago, a boy was in love with me, but I wasn't sure I wanted to be with him. He was waiting for me for a long time, but I didn't want to be more than friends with him. I considered him very close, because he loved me very much, he always listened to me and supported me in everything, he understood me, I understood him too. He was willing to put up with us being just friends, even though he was in love with me. He used to kiss me, and I didn't pull just to keep him from feeling bad. After a while we started arguing a lot because he started to be jealous of my friend for no reason, and even if there was one ... there was nothing between us, we were just friends, he has no right to criticize me about another boy !!! Now, after so many months, we write and hear from this other boy every day, but I have a problem ... I'm afraid of what people will say and think, what my ex-best friend will think. In fact, no, he is the person whose opinion I am least interested in, but I am convinced that he will comment on us left and right. The thing is, we have other common acquaintances whose opinions I'm worried about. I know that this is a huge mistake, I missed several chances for happiness precisely because of that ... what will this one say, what will that one think ... Here is the place of my question ... Why am I like that Nowadays we are surrounded by so many hypocrites and villains, is anyone interested in my opinion at all, is it influenced by it? Why should I be influenced by others? I realize these things, but I can't go through them .... I'm like that, I want to change that,
1 keltie answered
Perhaps what is true here is that there is no real friendship between a boy and a girl, because one of them falls in love. He will certainly be sick if he sees you with another boy, especially if this is his best friend. Yes, we can't choose who we have feelings for, but think carefully about whether you are really feeling something. There is also an option for the two to quarrel. Is it worth breaking a friendship, for example? Of course, this does not have to happen. On the other hand, you showed him that you didn't feel anything for him, so it shouldn't be a problem. Personally, I would think about it, because more or less you were friends and the best, and so suddenly teasing his friend, he will rather be sick, because he will be with his relative. After all, you decide. Success!