Help me understand if the problem is in me or is it the case with every relationship? I have been in a relationship with the man next to me for many years. In the beginning we had very frequent contacts, but over time they decreased. Probably normal. Lately, I've completely lost the desire to be with him. Every time he approaches me I don't feel anything. I'm just praying he passes me by and doesn't tease me. Even if I grit my teeth and try, he just "cuts" me. By that I mean rude, clumsy, fast. He mixes me under my underwear and immediately presses me with his hand and rubs, but I don't like how hard he presses and even pulls my skin on the clitoris up, exposes it and hurts me. It's just a struggle not to touch me like I don't like. I tried to tell him, but he made a scandal that I criticized him and he never corrected himself. I've said it a few times, but it keeps touching me so clumsily. I explained to him that I would like it much more if he only touched me lightly with his finger and stroked it, he didn't have to crush, rub, be rough. Separately, no matter how much I wash, the bottom always smells to me (it is not cut). I notice that when he bathes, he only lets the water flow on top, or if he washes it at all, he has a shower gel from the sponge, with which he washes the rest of his body and gently pulls the skin back. Along with all this comes aggression, a restriction on his part. Just to do something he doesn't like, say cooked or if I drop something on the ground, etc., he aggressively squeezes my jaw, makes a rude remark and controls me. If I pick up the phone and retire and do something like read something or other, he makes him talk to me about some trivial things in order to get his attention, and if I dig into the phone at the same time, he starts blaming me, that I have "my phone". I don't know why that happened. Did I look around and I don't like him anymore or did he make me dislike him over the years. I started looking at pictures of other men, but not real ones, but different actors and I think sometimes, this one is beautiful and I like it, but why don't I feel this towards the man next to me !? This is the first time this has happened to me. When I think of him, things like poor intimate hygiene, constant drinking every night and bad breath, grumbling about everything, nagging and clenching my jaw in moments of anger, constantly spitting at people and discussing, come to mind. he never smiles and is not positive, and when it comes to intimate contacts he is rude and clumsy and I don't like him, he wanted us to finish faster. Even if I was in love and with some super handsome man, would we have the same romance and attraction in 10 years, for example? Is it normal for the years to fade away and for respect and love to remain only ...
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Hello. I don't know how old you are, but no, it's not normal. I will personally whip you very quickly in your place. It is possible that in years to come there will be respect and understanding ... but I do not see it here. He yells at your man for the slightest thing, otherwise he expects you to give him a blowjob when you see that he hasn't washed like people, right? He did it to him as he likes "no", who knows how he will react. A person who doesn't take notes or yells at you for missing something ... is not for you. It's a big deal that you missed something, but it happens. Eating is the same, fouls happen. There are no ideal people. I don't know, but I think you deserve a normal partner and I don't think you feel good about it anymore. And I think once you think about how it would be with someone else, it's time to change things. I hope you find the best solution for yourself, just think about what you want and what you don't and you will reach the solution :) You deserve more. And the world does not end with one man. I was like that too, but in the beginning I ended the relationship, I just ... I can't be with someone who doesn't think about me and doesn't correct after remarks. I'm just like that. Regards, F32.