I am generally in favor of a story always having at least a few points of view. That is why I will say mine. The way you talk about these people - my grandmother, this woman, not my grandmother; my grandfather, not my grandfather; his son, not my uncle, talks about you not being close at all and not being close ... or that it happened after your father died. They were not part of the life of you, your brother and your mother, and therefore you do not feel them as part of the family now. But you say they were conscientious parents and now the grandmother does not deserve such treatment. This leads to Thesis 2 - Were they really conscientious parents? Often the children (grandchildren) are not familiar with the whole picture and quite often they are pushed various pink pictures so as not to be involved in the drama. Why some conscientious parents are not conscientious grandparents (without interfering with the money), why weren't they close to you and your brother? Why isn't this woman's own son interested in her after she was a good mother? No one who loves his parents more than anything would abandon them. And in order not to love your parents, then they have done something wrong along the way. It's easy to attack your uncle and say he's selfish and ungrateful, but the truth is we don't know his story. And sometimes some 10,000 can't buy you when you've been really hurt and betrayed by your own family - unfortunately there are similar cases. Let's look at your mother's point of view as well. If your grandmother wasn't a good mother-in-law and they had some misunderstandings in the past, it's perfectly normal for her not to want to look after her now. For example, my grandmother, when my mother gave birth to me, instead of helping, knocked on purpose, to wake me up and all sorts of other things, because for some reason she didn't like my mother. For many years they did not talk at all and passed each other on the streets, later they allegedly improved their relationship, but I was old enough to see how hypocritical everything was. So if your mother has been hurt in some way, it's perfectly normal for her not to want any contact with your grandmother, and if so, if I'm right, that actually makes her an extremely strong person, as long as she takes care of everything. Another option is not to feel close to her. Maybe she says to herself "where was she when I needed to go out for coffee for 2 hours and someone to look after my children". Your grandmother was not a grandmother in the true sense of the word, since you do not feel close to her, so it is the same way your mother feels her as a stranger and that money cannot buy him. Unfortunately, many people think that having some money and giving an inheritance, everyone should worship them, but the truth is that BGN 10,000. nowadays they are nothing, and if you were a naughty person they are even bigger nothing. Inheritance can't buy lost years, it can't make you a better grandmother or mother, it can't correct mistakes. But no matter how naughty a person you are, no one deserves to die alone in torment. And here we come to my conclusion - no matter what kind of person your grandmother was, whether she was the best mother, grandmother, the most terrible, it does not matter. No one should be abandoned by their family. Gather this family and decide what to do. Many people have advised you to send her to a nursing home, but the truth is that it is not cheap at all and will be difficult to take on by one person. It would be much easier if you divided the cost of it into four - between you, your brother, your mother and uncle. In such moments you have to turn your back on the past, selfishness and ego and give the best of yourself.
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Well, that's really disgraceful. If it was a question of giving 400 for viewing and they didn't do it, it's a crime.