Hello, everyone. I'm going to start straight up, and every single piece of advice is welcome. My story in a nutshell. I'm a woman in my 30s with a beautiful eight-year-old girl. My daughter's father and I are separated because of domestic violence on his part, and therefore he has no access to me or our child. I've been through a couple of terrible years with him, he's been cheating on me, he's ruined me mentally, he's been forced to work until I'm eight months pregnant so we can cover my bills. When I met him, I didn't expect it to come to that. After him, it was very difficult for me to recover, but I did it somehow. I enrolled in university, looked at my child and managed to work from home. I think I'm doing well so far, but I'm missing a mate. Here comes my question. I've met two men, and I'm at a crossroads right now, which way to take it. I don't do anything until I'm sure, because my previous bitter experience made me more careful and attentive. First: At 35, financially insured, educated, kind and well-mannered. He says he's in love with me and wants a family. I'm enjoying it in his company, laughing and feeling safe. If we start a relationship, I feel like I'm going to be comfortable with him. The only thing missing is passion in him, I don't feel that kind of attraction to him. Second: At 43, with him as spirituality and passion we match a lot, he has incredible chemistry and attraction, he is brought up and he is also looking for something serious. I have an amazing relationship with him, and you could say I'm falling in love. But there are some things that keep me in abstinence. One... lives with his parents, has a huge credit, and can not afford to move out of them, as he can not afford it. That makes me think. if something happened and I fell into such a situation as my ex- to support both of us and barely make ends meet, it just killed everything in me... and not only. The other thing that's going to make me think... he told me that he had affairs, the longest it lasted a year. Maybe I'm rethinking too much, but I wonder why someone 43 would only have one long relationship, and one year alone? I hope I don't sound like I have a claim, but as a person with a child I can't afford any more failures, it affects my daughter, I don't want to inflict on her again such stress of moving a place, and if it's a failure? Maybe what bothers me about the second person is unfounded? Unfortunately, I have no way of knowing until I do anything. Has anyone ever been in this situation? Thank you very much to everyone commenting. Have a good day :)