Hello,
It strikes me that most infidelities are due to sex itself, very few of them grow into true love, and infidels come together to live together and start a family.
A year and a half ago, I broke up with a girl I really loved. She lived with me, I took care of her, I showed my love, I didn't ask for a penny for expenses. I didn't even insist on cooking just if he wanted to. Each of you has loved and loves you know what it feels like, not to describe more.
Sex with us was great, she was nice and kind to me. I was the happiest person on earth. Until one day they told me she was cheating on me, did they see her? The shock was great, at first I didn't believe it, but then I checked and convinced myself. The shock was even greater when I realized that he was sleeping with different men.
I told her clearly that we were breaking up, but I wanted to know why she was doing it, where I was interfering in our relationship so as not to make mistakes in the future. She roared and told me, "You won't understand me," and finally bowed.
So, the answer puzzled me completely. She explained to me that she felt happy and loved with me, she also liked sex, but she thought that "experimenting" with other men did not mean that she did not love me. It's just sex like a flea has bitten her. She has no expectations of these men, they have no expectations of her. She felt an inner need to be with others. She told me that her mother had changed many lovers and still lived with their father and loved him. She knew this from a teenager and she persevered. However, I did not understand and asked again: "since sex with me is fine, why do you sleep with others. Don't lie to me." I'm not lying to you, he's calling me, I just can't explain it to you. To my next question. Do they do to you what I do to you in bed she told me no? We broke up. I said you're mentally wrong, too. There is no normal man who would accept his wife or his girlfriend to fuck this or that, and he would applaud her.
So I want to clarify. I measured my cock after this case - 14 cm. When we had sex I licked her dick and ass. I predisposed her anyway.
After we broke up, I didn't make a new connection. I just slept with girls and that's it. I admit I didn't feel sorry for her, I still love her. Because apart from these infidelities, I have not seen anything bad from her. As a character she is very accurate, she is not a liar, she is not spoiled. We saw the coronavirus a little while ago. It was an accident. We talked about common things. She told me she wasn't looking for me because she was ashamed. Then she explained that she was sorry and that she still loved me and knew that she would not find anyone else who loved her as much as I did. She began to change - from work to home, from house to work. He also goes to therapies. I am emotional and started kissing her. We decided to give ourselves a fresh start without rushing. She told me if she blew me out of her life.
Give me opinions on the above question, if you have fallen into such situations and in general on where you are arguing the thin line between healthy/normal sexual behavior and sexual dependence, expressed in constant thinking about sex and sleeping with different partners.
Thank you