Where Did I Go Wrong? And Now Where?

Hello. Help me get it back. I still love him. He also. We lived together for 5 years. He is a widower and I am divorced. Things started to change when we started going to the village to his ex-wife's house. I later found out that half belonged to him and his children, and the other half to his brother-in-law. It didn't matter, he was next to me and it didn't bother me much. However, there were times when I was treated as if I was to blame for his children being left without a mother. I told him. We started arguing. We argued that I had done nothing for them, that if they did not benefit from me they would not keep me in the village, and for me this was my dream - the village. We even built a separate house for the two of us, their part of the yard. When we were in town, there were no problems, but when we went to the countryside, I already felt insecure. His children are big. One is abroad and the other is already married. I thought that things between us would get better once each is independent. Alas! It turned out that he did not approve of his son-in-law and did not trust him. He thought he had to be with them all the time and in control. I told him that it was good to let them be a little more independent and when they really needed him then to interfere in their relationship.

I was wrong again, he said. I felt betrayed by him because of them. Even if only the two of us go somewhere, when they call him and say that something has happened, he is ready to end the holiday and return to be with them. Every decision they made about him was wrong. He tried to control them for everything. I sided with them because I saw that he was wrong and that they had made their own decision. The scandals were beginning. I did not know what to do. Are we alone - we are fine. If he starts interfering with the children - we fight. We recently got into a very serious fight. Since then he has been with them and goes to the village alone. He's calling me, we're talking. I'm talking. I understand that I was wrong when we quarreled with our friends, but he never admits his mistakes and that he is still trying to control his children. He doesn't like his son-in-law - and it was my fault I didn't go out with his daughter to keep in touch with him - but she always stood behind her boyfriend. They got married. She recently told me that she never approved of me. I think it's because of him. He didn't show them or say he cared about me and wanted us to be both. Or maybe because they wouldn't accept any woman being with my father. When they were around, I started to get annoyed. I no longer knew what he wanted - a friend, a wife, a maid, the mother of his children. I was confused. We are separated now, but I think there is still a chance to be together. See you secretly from everyone. He said his children had calmed down. He told me he loves me and that worries him because it can all start over. I know that now is not the time to be together, it takes time - a lot of time. But how much? We even plan to go on vacation together, which we had planned since last year. I do not know what to do. Can I still hope that we can be together again. Now he has become a grandfather. He's happy, even though he wanted to argue with her about why she got pregnant. I stopped him and made him think — they were a family after all. Something normal was happening. Now I think that his daughter will not pay so much attention to him anymore, she will finally look at her husband and child and then she will feel lonely and will come to me. He is also lonely and crooked. He loves me, and he hadn't said it in years. The thing that worries him is that I exposed him to his friends, and then he was so drunk that I don't even know what he remembers from then. Will we be together again? How long does it take?

Will I be able to wait in grief for the time he said was necessary? He also wants us to be together, but he also needs time - a lot of time. I think I will hurry in our relationship and do something stupid and then time will not matter to us, and I do not want it to be so. Help me. What to do? that I will hurry in our relationship and do something stupid and then time will not matter to us, and I do not want it to be so. Help me. What to do? that I will hurry in our relationship and do something stupid and then time will not matter to us, and I do not want it to be so. Help me. What to do?