Hello, good people!
My boyfriend and I have been together for eight years and we have been living together for almost that long. We love each other, it's good to develop side by side, we are both people with very serious professions and in general, if I had to make a choice again, I would choose him again.
The point is that in the last two or three years, the people around us have been experiencing particular excitement and unhealthy interest in our personal and sexual lives. They allow themselves to ask when we will get married and whether we will have children as if they are asking what time it is or where I bought my new dress.
Yes, in our society such behavior could probably be considered normal since we have been together for almost a decade, the people expect a natural development of things, and yet, I apologize for the disgusting language, but to whom, why and how exactly enters his work what do I intend to do with my life? What if I have a severe reproductive problem? If I have an autoimmune disease that I don't want to talk about and that I know I will pass on to my child? What if, imagine, I don't want to get married, at this point I don't want to be a parent, and I feel extremely loved and successful the way I am loved and successful as a partner now?
I have never, under any circumstances, allowed myself to poke my nose into the intimate world of others, both engaged and unattached people. Never. Because personal life is like that for a reason and because it is rude to enter it rudely without an invitation.
When you will promise fidelity forever to the person next to you and when you will hold for the first time in your hands the continuation of your life with his little heart, hands and fingers, this is such an intimate decision. It's so intimate in my eyes. If this ever happens to me, I will probably keep most of the photos for myself at the beginning, so that only I and our loved ones can take them. Intimate life is not something I want to advertise, nor is it a way to seek attention from others. My profession provides me with more than I need.
That is why I am really worried and harassed by the unhealthy interest in my eyes on the part of others towards me and my partner. Every time they ask me questions like, "Come on, when are we going to play at a wedding?" And "Baby? When?", I blush a thousand times and start wondering what meaningful answer to give that doesn't affect the other person. side, hem to allow me to have my own personal space.
I feel that one day I will just explode and hiss something that will not be very polite, because I'm tired of sparing people with their problems and difficulties, to listen to them, to be their support, and on the way and over the road some of them to mix with dirty fingers where only I have the right to touch.
Tell me, how do you deal with such issues? What do you answer? Are you answering at all or changing the subject? I will be grateful to each of you because I was really fed up with all this.