You sound like a kindergarten kid.
Just the kind that's been unpleasant to me, and I've allowed them by my side, then they've done some filth to me. I had an acquaintance who, from the first time I saw her, became super unpleasant. For no reason, just a feeling, I hadn't been in contact with her after all! It just so happened that we ended up in a company and I was like, as long as you don't know the person, you can't say you're not nice, so I got close to her. Big mistake, then I just saw from her. It's happened to other people. I think it's an intuitive feeling to listen to, it tells you that this person is not for you or is harmful to you. I personally, as someone at first, is not pleasant to me, I do not allow it to myself. I don't need to convince myself from experience anymore that intuition protects me from people who won't bring me anything good. You'd better not bother with this one if you're uncomfortable, even if he hasn't done anything wrong to you(yet).
It's happened to a lot of people. I'm getting close to them at first. Error. A friend of mine from the university, just to take notes from me, got close to me. On one of my holidays, he allowed himself to date my boyfriend. Well, it didn't work out in the end. He was tying me up for meetings and cancelling them at the last minute. Another friend of mine supposedly from university - my first impression was that it aimed to appeal to everyone, grinning, raised, artificial. He drank a lot of beer. He wanted money to borrow, he wouldn't pay it back. One day, I told her that if she kept going like this, she'd be an alcoholic. You're mad at me. My whole company, my friends from the university, then, were afraid of me, with my father had died, I needed support. Then I found out from another friend that she was spitting on me in front of her mother, only she forgot to say how many times I gave her money to drink her beer. He lied about me and in front of his friends. One girl didn't have much money and had hired a basement to live in. My friend in her absence made fun of it. One day, the girl turns to me and asks me what kind of person I am to make fun of her for living in a basement. I kept quiet. If I was mean, I'd say it's ridiculous intrigue and name the person who does it - the same one you told her. But I'm not. The first impression never lied to me, but unfortunately I always don't take it into account, and I'm freaking out about it.
The saying applies to all kinds of relationships - if you do not feel in yourself a desire to contact this person, do not. It's not about having a lot of friends, and these friends are really friends, albeit two.
The saying applies to all kinds of relationships - if you do not feel in yourself a desire to contact this person, do not. It's not about having a lot of friends, and these friends are really friends, albeit two.
I personally do not put so much logic into these things, at least not in this particular way. When a person is not pleasant to me, I have no option at all and consider hypocritical. It doesn't come from the inside. I never treat the people in question rudely, on the contrary. I congratulate them, I have small conversations with them, I have also given my notes to colleagues who are not pleasant to me, but it ends there. And for me, these are completely normal and elementary things, not a sign of intimacy and desire for grooming. If I can't feel someone as a friend, I don't force myself to do that at all, and I keep one hand off all the time. I don't dig into the conversations, I don't look for him, I don't ask him any personal questions. Yes, I'il keep his door if we meet at the entrance to the university, but I'm not going to make a coffee appointment on the next break. These people aren't bad, I just can't relax in front of them and I don't want to do it. I don't stick labels to them, I don't shun them on the streets, but I don't make them close. Honestly, it's always been the case that the feelings are very mutual and we don't bother each other, but we remain familiar.
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