I did it at 18 - I can say that even then I was not mentally ready. After 16, however, I consider it normal. Until about 21-22. Then they kill more complexes, uncertainty. The point is to find someone to do it with, not to regret it. I didn't understand it that way then and I just got into a fight with someone to 'pass' me. For a long time I did not realize what exactly sex means ..
There is no such thing as "correct."
In the Republic it is legal at 14, under certain conditions and at 16, according to the general conditions of the law. By fitting into these frames - when you are ready. However, do not wait for the prince, you will miss a lot of good moments.
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First, sex is not a bad thing. It is present in nature so that people can have fun. Having sex doesn't make you a bad person. A separate question is with whom, how much, etc. Sex is not done by type (fucking for one night - with an apology), but is done by the desire of both parties, with love and feelings.
Already purely biologically, a woman's body has developed from 17 to 20 years (However, each organism is different and is strictly individual). Yes - it is better to do say 17-19, because the body can tolerate and the body is developed.
A girl / boy on 13/14 would not feel anything god knows what sex as a mature man on 18.
From a psychological point of view - this is an experience. You need to know that you want it and are ready to take it if there are consequences and be responsible for them. Is it a good idea to have sex at 13 definitely not. One teen had the psyche to endure not ending in the girl or the girl not to get pregnant. Do they know what contraception is? How to have safe sex without the risk of unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases. It is important to have a psyche and to feel the desire and pleasure of having sex.
From a moral point of view - everyone accepts it in their own way. Everyone is responsible for themselves (or the parent until adulthood). If they have the courage to have sex at 13 to do so. Whether it is from a low sexual culture or something else depends. It's up to you, no one will tell you how much sex you should have. When you are ready and you have considered it like people. And the person you will make to be valuable, to accept you and respect you.
The bottom line is that sooner or later you will.
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I am as much as you and I did it for the first time exactly 3 days ago. I was generally ready, it's not a very scary thing, but I think it should be done over the age of 16 in order to be physically and mentally developed. I don't think that a child of 11-12 is right, what kind of sexual culture you will have and when your blood flows then their mothers will roar to wipe them. Otherwise, don't expect much from your first sex. I was not in much pain, but on the other hand there was a lot of blood, even a slight flow. It is a responsibility though.
Biologically, your body is ready at 12-13, but it's a bad idea and the vast majority then regrets it. Psychologically it depends on the maturity of the person and the partner on the other side. People who have reached some (mental) maturity earlier can make their first time at 16 and be special and passionate and there are no hurt and regrets, if he is with a partner who loves you and who you love and is calm, tender and safe. done. But these are lows, it's always better later. For example, I was doing it for the first time at 16 and it was with a girl with whom we shared an incredibly strong love, we were both ready for it and we wanted it and we took care of it and it was great, I both think we have good memories of it. However, over time we changed, things changed and at 19 everything got bitter and we ended up breaking bad and remembering badly, but the first time was not a mistake. I mean, you're ready for it, but you don't see everything in life yet, and sex itself may not be such a bad idea, but the person you're doing it with may not be the way you see it then. Feel ready and equally important - find a person who deserves it and who you want and love and he loves you. Then it is normal.
I did it at 26. I'm moral, I've had a lot of candidates, a lot of admirers suggestions. Fate knows its job. At one point I thought I would never do it. It was just that the exact messenger of destiny, who felt that I should do it with him, did not appear in my life.
So ... To begin with, in essence.
When I was little, I met for a moment, a boy. Long after that, I didn't see him for a long time. I met him already, mature at 26 maybe. SHOCK ME, from then on he was the most beautiful and perfect man. Impossible in my eyes. How lucky were they with this boy, and is there a girlfriend? Internal issues. THEN HE TOLD ME SOMETHING THEN - HE WILL BE YOUR FIRST. And so life flowed forward. I fell in love with another, with whom things did not work out, fate did not want it. Great love .. I even suffered a lot. Before that, even in another. But despite this love, inwardly I told myself there was a number 1 at the time. The perfect one, where is it.
10g. I had not seen him. Until one day fate met me face to face with him. I didn't recognize him, we met ... With this man, things turned out easily. The man I thought was an unattainable dream. A man who at the time my friend told me the sentence-DREAM YOURSELF, is not possible.
This perfect one told me ENJOY ME. That's what I did.
Lots of dumb advice so far. It should be done only with the person you love and you will be sure of him. That's why you get married first and then. A girl starts from a little very bad. Then when she became a bride at 25 she was expanded by at least 5 people ....
I am 20 and I can say for myself that no matter how much my body wants it, I am not mentally ready. I feel like if I do, I'll be dirty because anyone who seems to be interested in me just turns out to want sex. On the one hand, I want to lose my virginity because it is already shameful, on the other - no.
Between 17 and 19 years. Let's hang on to the "new" standards until about 21 ... Then he definitely talks about some problems - either with communication, or with the psyche, or with exaggeration or something like that.
Between 16 and 20 years. Sex requires maturity, but it also creates it. In this range, your body is sufficiently developed for sex, and your psyche is ready for this step. Then you start to lack important development. Your body is mature and your psyche remains at a child's level. You miss an important experience, you start to develop insecurity, you lack development. Sex is very important for mental health.
That is why we act in time. Not that it's fatal later, you can still overcome it. But it will be much harder for you and you will have to fight with yourself.
B * hmu the tearful story of number 7. That perfect, that intriguer.
The author wrote the topic because it's right for you, and you're looking for someone to tell you "Yes, it's too late for you at 17, go ahead" and you can calm your conscience that you want something so inhuman and "shameful". Maybe you're the only one who will do it.
By the way, I have a question for the moderators. Can you put emoticons in comments and topics.
Me, I was almost 19. It was great love. It's funny to me now, I remember. Otherwise, I lived in romantic movies, how I would marry a virgin, for my first naked and only love ..., but I didn't meet him and everything went to hell.
I prefer old virgins with big lips distorted by masturbation.
I guess it's different for everyone. I did it when I was 18, but maybe I was ready when I was 17. My body was developed enough and I knew it well, my psyche was healthy, I had my mind and knowledge.
I will not forget how most of my friends lost their virginity at the age of 14-15. Each, without exception, said she felt weird after that. It's as if she made an irreversible decision and then began to hesitate ... it's a kind of obvious nightmare for me. Nothing like that happened to me. I accepted that sex was sex, I understood the risks, but I felt ready - I had no fears, no questions, I was in love, I didn't even think about it unnecessarily, I never regretted what happened. If anyone can go through this experience in the same way at 16, fine. If he can do it at 14, fine, I guess. I needed a little more. I think the important thing is to feel confident, familiar with the safeguards, and be confident in your partner. Not to jump over his head and then, "Well, I guess I was in a hurry and I shouldn't have." In some conditions are met earlier than in others, it is individual.
Until №13: Not a gram of tears. There is dignity and truth. Yes, I can say that I did it late. Yes, but I did it with exactly who I wanted and how I wanted. The body wants it, even before my age at which I did it. But that's how it should be and I'm not sorry.
To this day, I haven't been in love with that boy in a long time. We even talk to each other from time to time. And we greet and respect each other. So the word tearful story is out of place here. Whether it's tearful or not, I don't force anyone to read it and load it.
Yes, I'll say it again - I didn't do it by accident. Exactly with the one I wanted. A man with whom things were, accurate and clear. I liked him then.
Everyone does it when he wants and when the time comes.
I even think, as I said, that a little earlier is best. The body and the organism need it.
I'm not a judge who would judge someone for doing it at 15, for example. Everyone chooses for themselves. Although at 15 I had the opportunity. Even at 14. With a boy, then who was in love with me. But I waited until 26.
I just wrote a comment on the topic. No tears and no grams of pain. I wrote it with SATISFACTION.
There are no rules for this. It's good to happen when you're ready and you want it. For some it is a nice romantic moment, for others a discrepancy with expectations. But if you ask yourself, then the time has not come.
This is the most natural and beautiful thing. There is nothing to wait for when you are 17. It is completely natural for me to start doing it around 16, 17. There is absolutely nothing scary about this, sex is just fun. As for the first time, it is not so important for me personally, I was 17, now I am 25 and I can tell you that I do not remember it.
When you find the right person and especially when you are emotionally ready for it. Because sex is not only a pleasure but also a responsibility for your health and the health of your partner.
It's horrible to read topics about how he ended up in her mouth and whether she could get pregnant from it. Educate yourself, people! And then have sex! But to say this example is just ridiculous, but what about those who have no idea what contraception and safe sex are and at the same time are even proud to be very busy and have slept with 15, 20 or more people! Well, is this normal behavior? And then "I'm 17, I'm pregnant, how do I tell ours?" And this is the better option. Do not turn out that in addition to pregnant you have a bag of diseases, some of which are quite dangerous. Fortunately, AIDS is not widespread in Bulgaria, but syphilis is nasty enough. And why? Because no one bothered to learn what a condom is and how to use it.
So forgive me, but at 12 or 15 you don't have to have sex at all. Better focus on biology lessons and especially the lecture on health culture and sexually transmitted diseases and only then go to pretend to be great women and men in bars and discos. Otherwise ... the risk of having 3-4 abortions, several diseases and giving crazy money for in vitro fertilization is not small at all.
At least when you pretend to be very big and cool, do it smart! Because at 15 it is easy to do nonsense, but the consequences can last a lifetime!
Dear girl, it doesn't matter when, but with whom!
The first time and a man is always remembered, you have to trust him and feel loved and protected, at least that's what happened to me and I'm not sorry.
M 30 I did it at 16 years old, I think it's normal from 16 onwards
There are no specific years, you have to want him to be sure of your decision and also in the partner this is a very personal thing and sometimes you can regret if you did not think it through as it happened and I did it out of stupidity at the age of 15 for think this very well when you feel ready and secure then
In my opinion, the question of when it is normal to have sex for the first time is unnecessary. Most Bulgarians nowadays never have sex, no matter how old they are, most remain virgins for life - do not marry or have children, or those who do have sex very late, long after reaching adulthood, after 30 d. Now people become parents very late, because that is the mentality. There seems to be something wrong with becoming a young parent. Most live their whole lives as monks and nuns, have no friends and want to remain virgins. On the one hand, they don't care about getting married and having children now, and on the other hand, many people don't like it and don't want to have children. Everywhere they only talk about the fact that Bulgarians do not give birth to children, that they only give birth to Roma. This is because Bulgarians do not like to start a family and have children. Then some people just talk about how good it is to have children, how important it is, but no one wants to get married and have children. They only talk about the fact that a child should be provided with a good life, but in order to provide a good life, you must first have it. Most people can't find a friend, who is left to have a child. In my opinion, people in the past had more sex than now, because then they married young and had many children.
Do it when you are really in love with someone when you feel confident in them and do not compare yourself with others.
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