Hello, I need advice ... I have a friend for 6 years. We had problems in the beginning, we always solved everything, but now things are different. He is a little nervous and aggressive, it's not about attacking me physically, but mentally he starts to break me. For example, the moment I get jealous, get angry at him for something, or ask him something he doesn't care about, he becomes a different person. I can't recognize him, he starts shouting as much as he can, throwing objects, breaking, insulting me, but not with ugly insulting words, but for example that I don't think with my head and just changes in seconds. And I'm not that kind of person, when I get angry I rarely break out, in most cases I keep it to myself and I start crying with nerves, it makes him sick that I cry and apologize. I don't trust him anymore, the problem is that I'm dying for him. I've been very jealous of him lately, because I have no faith in him. Every time he explodes, I start to have a strange feeling for him that makes me stop believing in this person. The rest of the time, there is no one as good as him. He explains to me in love, he takes care of me, he's just good. But the moment we quarrel begins ... Yes, it is true that in some cases I am also to blame, I apologize and we recover. I've told him hundreds of times to control his nerves and talk normally without calling me, but he says he can't. There were already 2 cases where we quarreled out of jealousy, I was guilty, I apologized to him, but he had drunk and said that he was not interested and that this was the last time we fought. The bad thing is that then he threatened me that he would come to our country and raise my whole family to its feet. For the first time I felt fear and just so he wouldn't come, I apologized to him and prayed that he wouldn't come. Then we recovered, but 2 days ago we quarreled over complete nonsense and he threw a plate of anger. Now we're fine again, fortunately, but I don't know how to calm him down, I just want him to stop being so nervous.
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Rest assured that if you continue to live with him, he will eventually start attacking you. There are no nervous fixes with these. You better dump it, I think.