When Do I Say No?

It was only after the blow to the abdomen that you had to be careful. You're not happy, a man's not good, he doesn't understand you. And my husband does not want me to go somewhere for a day or two, although there is also help for the children. They look at themselves mostly.

You've done well. Think about stealing his property, money and so get out of the way without asking for a divorce, let him look for money for lawyers and file lawsuits. Go to the police and ask for protection from domestic violence. I don't see how you're going to get with all the expenses, especially without friends.

When do you say no? Well, when you give him three more kids, for example. That's in the circle of the joke. When I read to you, I think that for everything that happens to you, you have a lot of guilt, because you're reaching out, and you think it's terrible for him to hit you "not hard." Isn't it just as awful to reach out to your husband, the father of your three children, the man who cares for you, who works to have a roof and food on the table? How do you imagine you reaching out and not being hit on you? In fact, the lives of most families consists of watching TV and phone, you even go out to a restaurant or in a park and time to make three children you have found. I think you're a desirable woman with a man who performs his marital duties a lot more regularly than the average man. Actually, what do you mean by marital duties? If you don't reach out to him and make a fuss about him, and you solve your problems differently, you'il have a good life. You don't know what you want, you don't like being the maid, that is, to host and babysit, and for 5 years you are pregnant with the third, have you had a choice, of course, any woman who does not want to host and watch a lot of children can after the first to put on a mascara or take pills, if necessary and secretly from the man. What do you think is a pregnant mother with two young children looking after her kids and households? What exactly do you want him to do, do you want him to go into "maternity" and you want to earn his income with work? I hope you don't just wait for a child. What's his fault that you didn't make friends with other women? What's his fault you don't have any girlfriends? You think if he takes care of the kids once you go out on your own and make friends you're going to stay in regular contact with? A mother is most normal to have female friends who care for children of a similar age, their problems similar, the topics of conversation are similar, so seek friendships among women on playgrounds, whether they are mothers or babysitters. And if you have a great desire to spend a day without your children, there are babysitters for God's sake, he won't know at all if you save the right amount in one day and hire a babysitter, like he's at work, it doesn't take millions, and if you're so poor, ask his sister to watch them for a day. This, of course, if you want, if you don't want to, you can find a lot of excuses. I take it you're thinking about divorce, but do you think about whether you and three kids have an option to find something better than what you have right now? Will the new one take care of you and your three children, wash your dishes, regularly take you to the park and to a restaurant, do he ever watch tv and phone, will I sometimes take full care of the children so you can go out on your own? Is there any option for you to come across a much worse man? Or are you not thinking of looking for a new man and living alone, taking full care of the children, and in the meantime working for food and rent? Is it easier to see? There's an option to leave his kids and just go :). Woman 45g

God, what creatures are breeding on earth! Third child??? It's a scenario worthy of some filthy gypsy neighborhood...

Come on, now, all who explain that children should be born early, read this topic. 25 with kids and no income of his own, a really cool life, huh? Author, don't be stupid and first-signal. With three kids, there's nothing to do, eventually some maintenance will be begging, but a lot depends on the country you're in. Consult a lawyer about your rights, including your rights. on the home where you live (if you are not renting). It's the only way to know if you're ever going to have a way to live in this country. You don't mention the property acquired during the marriage, but you have rights over it (if any). You don't say anything about education, you probably don't have one, and the kids are too fragile at the moment to leave them alone and study. After all, think about some courses, it doesn't have to be higher education. It's just something to make a living with. And don't have a fourth child in the next few years.

Are you from the dark purples- are you aubergines? Three kids, bangs in the belly, overseas... It smells like eggplant.

I'm sorry about the question, but from what i wrote and spelling mistakes, there's a question-of-what ethnicity are you?

Where do you live? Do you speak the language? It's a great thing, but why are you pregnant again and living like this? You can turn to the Red Cross, google and see what organizations will come out, how and where to help you. I don't think you're going to change anything, and you don't want to change. You gave birth to your baby and make sure you don't get pregnant again. You're not dealing with a baby now, what are you going to do? At least if you have parents to help them babysitting. And it's not easy for him, he's not working abroad, he's not in Bulgaria. You're working hard, it's getting up early. Give the kids a manger, a garden, and try to calm down.

Ten years ago, "should." It's Bratan.

Up to 4 families like that, that's what I'm going to say ;)

I'm not literate, but I have a high school education. I dreamed of having five kids. Four boys and a girl. Running and laughing around the house. That's why I'm pregnant with a third child now, money isn't a problem. We can feed them. At the beginning of our family life, I did not reach him or scream at him or even seek my rights. I was just letting him do his cocky poy, even when he treated me rudely and disrespectfully. She cries quietly in the bathroom. After a while, it just got too much for me and I started pulling nails.

I think both parents should take the same care for their children. As in the housework. Once he asks a man to wash the dishes, and I'm not a stable woman. Yes, the woman runs the house while the man is at work and is sitting at home anyway, but the routine is working. One change will not hurt but will help to recharge with new energy. Everyone wants to have privacy

Your roar is music to my ears... How pleased I am. And that's not because I'm a man-hater or a judge, but just because you're obviously one of those women who prefers to be with a scumbag, because it's very exciting than a nice, cool guy, like a lot of guys, but we're always jerks, boring, etc. Let me do it. You won't get any sympathy from me. Men like your children don't pretend, they're surrounded by 200.

As long as you're pregnant, allowing yourself to hit you in the abdomen means he's a freak.. I wouldn't forgive that, even then I'd part with him. Now with three kids, it's complicated, especially if you can't turn to your parents for help and move out with the kids seamlessly. Try to sit down and talk to this guy about how you feel.

That's why we shouldn't get married at 19 or 20 and have kids that age. Because the other one always sucks.

To me, you and your husband are irresponsible people and bad parents. I wish I could say worse words, but the moderators will stop my comment. If you can't live together and can't stand yourself, why are you creating children? Just because it was your dream to run around laughing? Didn't you know that family life and babysitting isn't just fun and fun, it's hard work? How do you think it's enough just to have money to feed them (I guess Sociala pays you too)? What kind of upbringing, what example do you give them? What kind of peaceful and joyful childhood did you provide them with? Do your scandals and your fights make them happy? If I'm a social care factor, I'd take your kids away. If you're not happy with a man, you leave him, you don't have any more kids with him. Late, you ask when to say NO. You should have said that after the first child. It doesn't matter if you're of The Roma ethnicity, as someone above asks, but your mentality is gypsy.

.... coincidentally, there is a woman or a girl here who would like to have a healthy family, but also want as an author is not 5, but at least 3 children, where are the god those women with such desires to carry them on their hands, and she was also from minorities.... I want a woman with a desire to have children, for love and a beautiful life, I will give her enough.