It had nothing to do with what I had for the criteria and much I love it. Sometimes you have to see if the man gives you what you need, not what you want.
And I was looking for a man not to smoke, but he quit smoking already. A man or you like it or not, no matter what you're looking for in a man. There's no perfect.
That's how it is in life, if you're not at the top of the pyramid and taking what you want, you have to satisfy what's left. The case with your girlfriends is just like that. And they wanted rich, smart and handsome, but they had to be satisfied with the current ones.
Therefore, one must develop, i.e. raise "its value". Then better becomes more accessible, hence the quality of life improves and you are happier. But the majority are weak in nature and prefer to murmur how unfair the world is, rather than invest energy and will and improve.
Same thing to me. I always dreamed my friend would be tall, blackhaired with dark eyes, slender, and as to character-a hotspot, a cold:D Somehow they attract me, but... Guess. The man I love more than anything at the moment is the opposite of it. Low, slightly chubby, light-haired with green eyes. And as for the character-a calm, nice, Abee big shower. :D But I love it extremely much and the fact that it is the opposite of "my characteristics for the ideal man" gram does not interest me.
Between the men and me before I tease the couples, who turn to each other with the nicknames "Baby", "sweetheart", etc., but eventually I started to use them from time to time and not from "drool", but because the person against me is extremely sweet and something from inside makes me turn so to him, lol.
The partner always turns out to be what we were at least looking for and what we were most afraid of. Universal law-from whatever you run to such a nalash. And the more you strive for something, the more it runs away from you.
And I thought I'd never use words like "sun, baby," etc......
And another thing--I've always said that I'm not going with a guy who watches football, but that's what happened. Frankly, some of our criteria are too superficial and foolish, and we compromise with them:)
My point of view is that after 5-6 years, instead of analyzing your choice of partner, you will focus on your choice of cat.
If people kefi them, let them call themselves what they want, it's their business. They are not obligated to comply with the author or anyone else. Better than a jerk, CAD, etc. It's not sissy for me if it's said with love. When a person has a relationship, he does not appreciate the appearance, but accepts the person as a whole. I like blue eyes, but my husband's dark, and that wouldn't make me replace him with some blond. I have not had much of the expectations and claims, he was the first to whom I had a serious and long relationship, we met as students and so far we are together in bad and good times.
I can only say from my observations that these women, who had the highest criteria, ended up alone.
And I dreamed of a Negro... And I got an albino.
The Luvata is blind sometimes. If you fall in love, it doesn't matter if it meets all your criteria. Personally, I wouldn't go with a man that I don't visually like or dislike about character. Some things I'd compromise, but if it's the opposite of what I like-NO.
He's exactly what I wanted and what I need.
I never thought I'd meet such love, but behold, it happened and I am very happy!
I never thought how I wanted my spouse to look. I just knew I wanted to get love and give love. With my first marriage, things didn't work out, but I continued to believe in love and SHE came to make me the luckiest man in the world!
And so for 14 years now...
3, if you are mature enough, you must understand that the value in question is not always rational. Even according to psychologists, 80-90% of our behavior is determined by unconscious models. There are people who are neither super beautiful, nor rich, nor super smart, nor worked on anything, however they have some innate charisma or flair for enchanting, I do not know and still go to bed with the coolest chicks. I even had a colleague like that at university. And for four, I didn't understand what he was enthroured with, and he went to bed every night with a different beauty. Their teeth were sending him money as he spent the week on the slices, his fangs were crooked and he was short and chubby.
And even if you become rich, handsome, and I don't know what it is, it's very likely that you will attract some kind of a mercantile ready-to-know-how to make you dizzy. If you don't recognize them all your beauty, wealth, and I don't know what you can throw them in the basket, because they're still getting you more headaches than the benefits.
I always dreamed my husband had dark brown hair, dark brown eyes and very white skin. Yesterday, I saw such a cashier in Liddell and fell in love. This is...
The man (my partner) only has to be smart...
Maggie
From 3 to 13,
It seems to you that the value is not rational, because you do not find a logical explanation. The assessment for a person is complex, not only on 1-2 criteria. Regarding your colleague with the unpresentable appearance, the explanation is quite elementary at a purely psychological level. In women there is also a hierarchy, and as you know it, in a large number of cases it is determined by their appearance. The most beautiful are the most wanted, and the rest are the others. When you go to bed with the alpha female of a group, you automatically become attractive to the other females that are beneath it in the "pyramid". The hard part is when you twist a woman's head, because the competition is cruel. Especially if you are ugly and without finances, there must be some overcompensation-whether it is that you are gifted, whether with skilled manipulation, but it must be a quality with which you strongly stand out from the others.
Now I go back to the theory of work. I wrote a development, but it is not always in material form-money or appearance. Building a strong character, communication skills and body language are all things that people think they do excellently, until they're "not seen on the side" of video. Then they feel that there is a lot on what to work on. And these qualities determine a large part of the status of the individual/male/in a group. But here we are already entering a very deep topic.
16, every man has something in which he is good and something in which he is not. If someone doesn't appreciate you, because it's important to her that you're not good, you're going to appreciate someone else without even realizing why. Separately depends on the situation and on many things. Things are not some hierarchies and algorithms, as you describe them-if you are ugly, but you know how to communicate, it does not mean that you necessarily have to compromise and take almost no one that nobody wants. It's just that everything is much more spontaneous, unconscious and emotional than you think. Nobody sits down with leaves and a pen and thinks "I want smart, I want rich, this guy is smart and rich, but he doesn't want me, he's just smart, but he wants me." This is nonsense. Everything happens at an emotional and unconscious level and often at the moment. And as for working, it's the least questionable if it comes from inside, you're going to get better. There are things you can or can't do. If not-no matter how hard you work, the most you look ridiculous and unnatural. Many people think that by watching a few videos and reading 5 books and have the Lord for the raincoat, but they look super-artificial, just because they are not such people and it does not come naturally from within.
It's me again with the albino. I see that you do not like me and you are clicking a low asterisk, but this does not bother me, he and my albino generally do not like me, as I do, but neither do we love cats (the only thing in common), so we have called, to have, we will love and we will not be alone, at least until we understand how the universe works. So, my question is, do we have to ask for what we want or just the opposite??? Because, what I wanted, what happened... And I never imagined a millionaire, and this thing didn't happen... I'm asking for both of us, we're going to help each other if we hit the schedule.
Again from 3 to 18 (I'll take to put my signature in the end, not to repeat myself),
I understand your point of view, but the arguments you put forward confirm my thesis rather than disprove it. You say if a woman doesn't appreciate you, then someone else will. What if you're in love with the one who didn't appreciate you? You're going to satisfy the other one just because they told you that things happen to be good luck and emotionally? I'm going to ask you again, the one on top of the hierarchy will leave things as you describe them or fight? Will it show that the woman's criteria are a very "stretch" concept, will it turn her inner world to demonstrate her strength, and to understand why he is at the top? It is the pure, true nature of a man-to be a wrestler, to be straight-minded in his actions, and to accomplish what he seeks. And emotions in women are created precisely by his actions.
20, you said it yourself, "fall in Love." Here things are to feel, not to algorithms, logics, forces and do not know your what. And you don't have to like a lot of women that you have to be high in the hierarchy. It's enough to like you, but the right one. If you liked the right one, a big leek whether the other 3 billion women they did or didn't. Tested.
And the guy who didn't like him, no matter how hard he fought. A woman either likes a man or not. If not-and on the front stand to stand, he still will not be pleased. So far, I've never seen a woman who was a man who didn't love a guy and then liked it, ' cause that "demonstration of power." After all, the woman is not a boxing promoter. It's not boxing.
Well, I was saw years ago drooling like that references, and I couldn't imagine being able to call someone "baby" or "kitty," but guess--when you showed up, you suddenly started to like it and come inside to call yourself that.
G 67 I expected a tall, dark-haired, black-eyed, smart, successful man, calm, discreet, discussing, well-meaning. Non-smoker and non-drunken.
I have a bonus 20 cm in more and fluffy. 20 years into more too. I fell in love with the mind, a sense of justice (legal professionals), the ability to debate, tell, hear. Able to win disputes, supporters, money too, all children adore it, for grandchildren and the grandchildren is the top.
I read your topic and started laughing from the heart at some point. I sincerely thank you, he delighted me and in a particularly pleasant way.
For many years I've been explaining that the most terrible references for me are "baby" and "Kitten." Then I met a man with nothing to do with what attracted me. He sticks a head over me, has a lot of blue eyes, his hair is bright. Everyone likes different things, don't judge me harshly, but in another situation, I wouldn't have to watch him. We met and, oh, horror, so I fell in the way that the world turned. We were a couple in a week. He's talking to me. There's something about him. It makes me laugh even when I'm terribly mad at him. At this point I look at it, and I feel so attracted that it's not about talking. It's been four years, there's no sexier man for me, and it wasn't what attracted me, to... We went from short and he told me that he said the sweet address "kitty" was very cute, but if I didn't like it, he wouldn't call me that. Guess we've been talking about four years of Kitty, Kitten, drinking... Crap, I like it now.
Recently, with a close friend of mine from childhood, we discussed a subject that is similar to yours. With him we came to the conclusion that there are "cons", which we very easily accept in the other, because they are not a big deal-what the address uses, how strange name there is that his hair is a-what are you, that there are several kilograms on top or a terrible laugh. Trifles, Swallow and no water. It's one thing to deal with blue eyes, it's quite another to put up with a character that you can't tolerate with a relationship that compares you to the grass. T
My wife has personally told me that she firmly believed before we met that a man, if not at least 5-6 years older, is not a man, he is a snot-head, a squirt and a clumsy one. The expression is hers. I do not deny that the statistic tends to her reasoning. She has repeatedly stated this position with her colleagues at the university, which they are close to today. She even allowed herself to joke with another colleague, whose friend--then, now-husband, is smaller.
She, for her part, is the kind of woman that I have always despised and I have generally defined as "buns".
I am two years younger than her, now at 30, and she mah 32, I listen to metal and in general, I like things that she has thoroughly avoided. We have been together for 10 years, now we are married and have two (so far;)) children. Today I go včesan, I can iron my own shirts... As Can-so! , and she came to about 8-9 concerts... of my
I'm not saying that you consciously have to look for the opposite of your expectations, because that's what you're going to get, it just doesn't work. But if you leave a door to update your views, one still grows and changes, often it turns out that reality can offer you something more interesting and beautiful than your wildest assumptions. Look for your ideals, they are a beautiful thing, but leave the opportunity and the reality to say the word. After all, we all need our lesson to evolve;)
The fact is, we're talking one thing, and we're doing something. I'll add another one: sign in to a dating site and see those who are really alone/not bored family, prostitutes and gays, and really non-aligned hetero's are there long ago. They are those people who do not want to make even a compromise with their requirements. They have criteria and the whole world is obliged to cover them and the "Pyramid of the number 3" does not excite them. They do not suffer from a lack of options, but from reluctance to accept anything under hypothetical their rightful. You can see them standing in front of 20 women or men and saying that there were no women or men (according to their gender).
There's no such thing as "I'm entitled to this or that"! There's a certain group we could get together with. We can be with any of this group-from the most unsighted to the most coolest, all of us will choose. The rest do not want us, even if they podmokrâme the fun of their appearance. So either we pick someone in the group, or we better go someplace else and leave room for those who are really looking for something. Fantasies are a good thing, but have no place in the adult world! I feel sorry for these men and women-it's like sitting on the ocean and murmuring that there's no water. Either they will defeat themselves or they will be cuckoo for themselves. The choice is theirs, I hope they choose the right option for them! But without explanations that they are victims of someone-the victim must be screwed by another person, not by herself! Isn't that how you get the opposition victim/abuser? You can't be the best if you're the bad guy.
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