I have a 23-year-old daughter, she's a tomboy. As much as I tried to bring her to show the female in me, I couldn't. Maybe I should start over: As a child, she was always the male girl, she wanted us to buy her boy toys, she was angry when I bought her something. It's also about clothes, there was a war at home as much as I was trying to get her to wear a dress. He kept friendly with the boys, kicking a ball, getting dirty, like a boy was home. She's a pretty girl, beautiful, gentle, I don't know why or where we went wrong as parents. She grew up, learned to keep us out of her life, she's usually closed, she doesn't have many friends. As soon as he finished, he got to work. With the money, buy a car, one of her biggest dreams. Every weekend, something repairs in front of the block. Otherwise, she lives in our apartment, she's single, and she's supporting herself. Even after he reached the age of majority, he asked to break away from our income. Here's the problem that bothers me as a mother, my daughter is 23 years old, but she hasn't had a serious relationship with a boy yet. She sees two friends, but they're just like that. How do I know, well, I know the parents of both of them - one is older and already has a wife and the other a serious girlfriend? She's still my daughter who's not looking for a boyfriend at all. And how to find herself, always engaged in some men's work, cars, parts, not dress at all as a lady, makeup does not use. He wears jeans, a sweatshirt or a leather jacket, and sneakers and rough ankle boots are also a trademark. I keep telling her it's time, but she's just laughing at me and isolating me. He tells me everything I need, I only need a boyfriend. Last week, I decided to organize a family dinner and invite the son of a very good friend of mine who is free. He's a very good boy, my daughter came to my house to visit, and I immediately introduced them. And because I had a little bit of a stretch of time, and I decided to try to bring them closer (a little too much on my part). This is where my daughter blew up, yelling at me, you invited me here just to match me? He used some crude lines and demonstratively left the house. I'm ashamed of her behavior, and I don't want to think about the boy. I went to my daughter's apartment to ask her why she was being so rude. And she told me, I forbid you to match me with anyone. When you like him so much, you take it? I told her not to talk to me like that, and I'm a mother, to stop looking afterlife as a child. She's a grown woman now, she's got to think about a husband, kids time and it is. If she waits, she won't get down, but I feel like I offended her. She picked up a hot fight, told her not to interfere with her life anymore, and not to look at her as a filly mare. Yes, that's the same expression he uses... And I went a little too far with the shouting, I asked her if you were still under our roof, and she laughed at me, took her jacket and disappeared somewhere in the car. She's been avoiding me, she's changed the locks of the apartment, the phone, and she's been blocked for four days. I don't know what to do with it or why she behaves like that. That's why I forced myself to write here, I have no idea how to deal with my daughter anymore. She's never been problematic or violent, she stands up for herself, but this time it's like she's throwing me out of her life. I'm her mother, she can't behave like that. Advise me.
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zara_prince answered · June 04, 2020
Your daughter's a lesbian, she probably has a girlfriend, you just don't know. Let her live her life, you will not change it, most really break all relationships with you. I have many acquaintances in similar situations.
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anabel_3 answered · June 04, 2020
I don't see anything wrong with being interested in cars, doing his own and wearing sneakers. I do these things, too, but it's a plus because that's the topic of conversation of almost every boy.
Did it cross the mind that he might not like men just? That's nothing wrong with that. Give her time, let her call you. You put pressure on her and she ran away, it's not nice for your parents to get you down with someone. It's like you can't handle this task alone. She's just mad.
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sl6777 answered · June 04, 2020
You're an annoying limited woman, and your daughter's a lesbian, open your eyes!
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xsweethousewifex answered · June 04, 2020
Your daughter could be a lesbian. For my best friend, I know she is. And she's a tomboy, and I'm her only girl friend. You've been catching a girl for a year and they've been living apart. I'm a tomboy, but not quite like her, and I've been with a boy. I'd be annoyed if my mother tried to reunite me with someone. If you don't interfere so much in her life, she might get a boy. Now he can do these things and stubbornly from you. I was wearing a dress at the prom, and was she even at the time? At least if she gets a boy, she'il be some nice guy, not a pussy who doesn't know how to live and how to make some money.
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markus8929 answered · June 04, 2020
It's not your daughter, it's with you.
Instead of trying to do it to something that isn't, you learn to accept it for who it is. Shame should be caught by your behavior and disrespect for her. If my mother treated me like that, we'd have broken off our relationship very quickly. She did a good job of cutting you off. I agree with what she says. Just because she's your child doesn't give you the right to try to change her and control her. ''She's a grown woman now, she's got to think about husband, kids time and is', 'When she's big, let her make her own life decisions. He'il think about whatever he wants. Maybe he just likes women? Or not, it's none of your business to interfere with her.
You're wrong, and if you really care about your child, you're going to think about it a little bit and try to make things right with her.
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anyela_palmer answered · June 05, 2020
Hi! I think you realize you've gone too far with the match-up attempt. Your daughter is a big man and can figure out how to arrange her life.
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rousse_rousseau answered · June 05, 2020
Your daughter is now an adult and independent, and it's stupid and annoying to interfere with her life. And getting a man in the 21st century is just...
So stop messing around, because all you're going to achieve is make your daughter stand back and alienate you. You don't want to break all the ties and not want to see you, do you?
So let her live the way she likes it! This is her life and you can only support her, but you can't tell her how to live it.
I know, it sounds unpleasant, but it is. One day the children grow up and you have to let them spread their wings, not to 40 to go after them and impose your opinion. Because all you're going to achieve is, yes, and she's sick of it, stop contacting you and eventually hate you.
I know a man who fled abroad because of such powerful parents! I don't think that's what you want.
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cuntunicorn answered · June 05, 2020
It's a gross mistake, have you not understood to this day that the parent is punished for accepting their child as it is when he reaches the age of majority, and before that. Moreover, as the child is punished until adulthood, and then accept his parent as he is. You think, quite limitedly, "I'm her mother, she should listen to me," is that in your barracks, what? But frankly at these years, by the way, mine, you're not going to change... Life has given you this daughter, accept her for who she is... It may be difficult, but it has to, otherwise life learns alone, but then it hurts a lot.
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mxtressrose answered · June 06, 2020
So she may have said "splash", but it says "cry"!
She's 23-18!
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x_lolaa answered · June 06, 2020
The story is written so that it suggests that the girl is who you are.
History is stumbling. There's no mother today who's going to go write that.
I read the subject and I'm like, now, by the answers, I'm going to guess if it's fiction or yes.
It's a hoax.
It's just that someone here is constantly pushing us into stories that are gay.
Which is idiotic!
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twinkquebec answered · June 06, 2020
When I read what the author wrote - let me get involved - I'm a man of almost 27. I don't have a boyfriend that my mom hasn't interfered with my life so far. Your daughter is, I think, a lesbian, I'm not insulting her, but I think she is, and you've been told it.
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seekandmiik answered · June 07, 2020
First of all, you're sticking your nose in too much, where it's none of your business! Your daughter is 23, absolutely self-sufficient, you have no right to interfere so much with her private life and tell her that she has to catch boyfriends, become a mother, etc. She's 23, damn it! And you're talking to her about children and family, leave her alone!
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rachelxdiva answered · June 07, 2020
The behavior of the daughter is quite normal, the behavior of the mother is abnormal. That's how the young have married in the last century, with match-up, I don't want to, there's no stuff!? And the openers immediately find out your daughter is a lesbian, the big specialists!? If they don't know the person, they're not entitled to qualifications. The girl is an adult and only she has her life!
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dave355 answered · June 07, 2020
I'm going to repeat some comments, but...
because I've seen female hey-couples, I bet on the fact that your daughter gets carried away in a way, and in the case of a established relationship, she's the "man." My mate is exactly what you're describing.
I've had a party like this before, in a place, my...
First, whether she's 23, 33, 43, 53, 103, she's a separate person. He will always be your child, but he is a very separate person who, on top of that, is also self-sufficient (it is commendable). And accordingly, when and if she will start a family is her decision, not yours. That the time has come for her and "what people are going to say" is so stupid that there is no where else.You have made a huge mistake.She should not apologize to you for the behavior, but you to her.
Twenty years ago, my mother did the same thing.
And you lost me irretrievably.
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krocx answered · June 08, 2020
She doesn't have to be a lesbian... but it's none of your business. The options are hundreds - unrequited and unlived love, may have been hurt and not wanting at this stage a new relationship, may not find her type of man, it may not be her time. How did you think it was time? Why are you pushing her? This is her life! People fall in love at 40. There is no strictly defined path to move, there is no such thing as "it is time"! You're either ready for something or you're not! He might even have someone and hide it from you, because then the questions come about grandchildren, about living together. Let her live the way she wants to live, because not for four days, but for months you won't hear her.
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heavens_doors answered · June 08, 2020
I can't believe there are still such crippled parents in our time! What century is it from which palanca you come from, author? Only that word for home sounds so old-fashioned and esnafsky! It's like your matchmaking, stupid and clumsy! Your daughter is an adult and free to live as she wants. You take it out like it's some kind of stuff, no one wants it, so you're going to find her a man, some scumbag, and he's like, if he let himself match it up like that. Look at your house there and stay out of her life. With men, is she going to go with women (most likely) she'll make up her mind. As for your apartment, if you push it, you'il make sure he goes out to a place or goes abroad or to another city and you'il cry afterwards.
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_ms_angie_ answered · June 08, 2020
The topic is written by a man who thinks that every woman must necessarily be a married woman and mother.
Otherwise, I support most of the opinions expressed here, but mostly numbers 14, 16 and 17.