I broke up 4 months ago with someone I still love, and I thought we might be right. He is 33 and I am 27. He is not married, he has no children. He was living in an apartment with other people at the time, and he wanted to move so that he could be alone, and when I came, it would be more convenient for us, and not to consider others. He took me to look at rooms together, consulted my opinion, we discussed advantages and disadvantages. In the end, he settled on the one I approved, because it is close to my home. And he insisted on being the one so I could be closer and come whenever I wanted. Straight 5-10 minutes away, even the same number of rooms and layout of the premises. We became kind of neighbors. I can practically see his block from my balcony. He even gave me a key and made me feel at home. He would throw it at me if I wanted to bring something of mine. But at the same time, he didn't introduce me to anyone, except for the people I live with - some colleagues from work. I didn't know his mother or a friend. There was always time, and somehow he wasn't in a hurry to let me in. I, for my part, met him, but he did not. Otherwise, he had our photos on his profile, and many people had liked them. And we started arguing because it started to weigh on me.
He kept postponing this, and almost 7 months passed, and I was still not introduced as a friend, or anything. We met, but somehow he did not want to officially acknowledge our relationship. Our last quarrel was quite big. He called me shallow, and other ugly things. He unleashed all his anger and malice on me, as if I were not the man he had been kissing until yesterday. I just couldn't believe that this was the same person who couldn't spend a day without me and called me at least 3 times a day. We wrote to each other late at night, early in the morning we heard about good morning and wished each other a good day. We also had glasses with our photos. He promised me holidays with his relatives, going to huts, some beautiful promises that still did not come true. I didn't want any big guests, at least to know his family and a friend. He was not from the city and went every week, and he did not invite me. He lived only with his mother and was his home there. His mother stayed in his care and tried to help her.
He made a division between his world and me. It was as if he was barely pushing the workweek to get home to his mother. He once mentioned to me that his mother was afraid that a woman might forbid him to see her, and so wrap him up so that he would forget her. Because his other brother was married a long way off, and he rarely came home. Before he met me, he worked until Friday and came home on Saturday and Sunday. It's like he's a student, not a 30-year-old man. I never stopped walking, but he never invited me. He never told his mother that he couldn't come this week, for example, because we were going somewhere, for example. And I had so many ideas .... After we quarreled so fiercely, he didn't look for me at all for weeks. Even if I wrote him a hello, he would cut me off because he was busy.
He didn't pick up the phone at all when I called. In the end, I insisted on at least returning the key to him, and he agreed. He didn't dare look me in the eye. Bill vowed not to offend me, but it has already happened and he is sorry. I was terribly hurt by the words and told him he had to change his attitude. He stumbled that he did not accept ultimatums and left. It would not change for anyone. Remembering now, after a while, I wonder what went wrong and did I misjudge the person in front of me? I will be glad to hear your opinions as well.
1 simona_simona answered
He put up with you for too long, and you don't write if it was his insistence that you introduce him to your parents. It is right for a person not to rush to introduce you to anyone before he is sure that you are the MAN. Apparently he judged you well, because you are capricious, you like to impose yourself and you are obsessed. No man can tolerate someone like you, every man seeks peace in a relationship, not tension. It's good that he doubted you and didn't hurry to advertise you, even these photos on Facebook are much more than you deserve. Do the same with the next one and I won't be surprised if I read here ... why no man wants me. By the way, I've been a man this way, but I haven't kept the miracle to myself for too long. Each person decides for himself when, whom and to whom to present, each insistence has understood where it leads. Good luck with the next one.