Hello! I am a 22 year old girl. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half, a few months ago we had an argument over another girl they were just friends with. I was silent and told him that there was no problem, although I was not burning with desire to keep in touch with her. After a while, he told me the news that he wanted to break up for a while. With tears and despair I left and left him as he put it "to miss him", after 15 days - inclusion "I miss you! I want to be together, I made a mistake." During these 15 days, however, because I found a mistake in myself and I blamed myself for absolutely everything, I decided to radically change my life and started working - for 4 months I worked in a place that he could not stand in any way, but made a compromise with himself. The problem was that I worked over 12 hours and was constantly busy, I didn't have time and I didn't pay attention to him, after many conversations and scandals - I left. Now I work in a place I can't stand, but he's ok, constantly explaining to me how I'm going to find my place, which I think I've already missed. About a month ago, quite by accident, trying to dial my own number because I couldn't find my phone, I saw that he was talking to her again. I asked him if they had heard from him recently, and he told me he didn't know what was happening to her. Naturally, my female curiosity did not leave me alone and the next day I checked his contacts - it turned out that for more than a week and a half they were constantly talking on the phone, there were no calls to me. I told him I wanted to meet her, we drank coffee, everything seemed very calm. I also checked his messenger yesterday (I admit it's mean to do that), everything written inside was hellishly friendly looking, he even wrote about me waiting for me to go into them and stuff. I don't know what to think or whether to take a break. Let me know what you would do in my place. Thanks to everyone in advance!
1 _konika_ answered
If I were you, I wouldn't be so humiliated to pretend to be a detective or think that a third person might be the reason for the end of my relationship with someone. If the man next to me wants to part "for a while", I will tell him that it is forever, culturally, but definitely. You no longer have a relationship with this man. If you are a workaholic and you enjoy spending 12 hours - ok, then you don't need a relationship at all, just a man for sex. Do the things you like, not for someone else. Give yourself a big break, be happy with yourself to be happy with another eventual success!