Hello! I am an 18-year-old girl. When I was 16, I met a boy we liked very much. We were together for a long time, everything was very nice. Two years after we got together, he started doing drugs, that was the first reason we broke up .. After our separation, which was recently, a month ago .. I realized that he had cheated on me while we were together. Unfortunately, this information reached me, not thanks to him, but from a close friend of the girl in question, with whom he cheated on me. At first I did not believe what he said, but when I asked him, he did not deny it. My question is how to proceed Should I talk to him because he wants us to discuss what happened or not to deal with it after it's over? Thank you in advance for your time! :)
If you want, listen to him. If you don't want to - don't. But don't deal with it anyway. (woman)
You're already separated, why are you digging in the wound? It is best to forgive, and then your heart will tell you if you want to be together again.
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I have a habit of listening to people who want to talk about their actions and deeds towards me. I can't tell you why I'm listening to them. Rarely, if not at all, has it happened that someone admitted the whole truth and did not sweeten their mistakes. This is exactly what I want to check in a face-to-face conversation. I look at how honest this one is against me to judge how much it costs as a person. Besides, I have never accepted that such a conversation obliges me to forget my mistakes, to forgive or to bring someone back into my life. I listen whenever I know that the conversation will not hurt me again. Then I may forgive, but I do not have the same confidence and things end with "we are clean to each other" and greetings on the street.