I'm a woman, but just reading how he made big plans in the beginning, I came to a conclusion. He just told you what you wanted to hear, and he might have wanted to have something like that again. You say that he is divorced with a child, therefore he has lived for a long time as part of a family with all his everyday life and joys. He's used to it, it's been his daily life for years, for example. When this was over, it was difficult for him to get used to being alone again, to being single, to take care of everything himself, not to have a woman around him. Not to be part of something. That's why he may have wanted to return to such a comfort zone, because it's familiar. This is the one that came to my mind - he's just tired of being alone.
The other thing is that these quick plans for a bright future are very unrealistic and frivolous. Everyone can tell you how you will live well, how you will be united, how you will go on vacation, you will have children, etc. Absolutely everyone. You should not take faith in quick plans and promises. It doesn't make a good impression on me if a man starts drawing too rosy a future for years to come. It's like he's trying to convince himself more than me. And it sounds pretty sweet.
He may have told you all this to stay with him and sleep with you. Maybe his sympathy for you will cool down quickly. It may just be frivolous.
Believe in action, not in talk. Every man can paint your future as a princess and love for envy. But the really serious one will act, not talk. You will see his intentions every day.
Hello!
I am many years old now and I have always entered with serious feelings and intentions in each of my tragic relationships, but I have always been disappointed with what the women next to me were doing. They were not infidelities, they were not dramas, caprices, leagues, etc.
I am human and I want to be with another human being, not to be a slave.
Perhaps yours has come to its senses and decided to stop this parasitism that you used.
I am a woman, but from my experience and observations, I can say that serious relationships rarely happen once.
No one we've been dating for a week or two can talk to me about being a family and fall in love with me. It's just not serious. We haven't even met ...
Such behavior is characteristic of either a strong but momentary emotion or an attempt to turn my head.
Serious relationships are built in time after the first wave of falling in love passes.
Conversation with a friend who sees things soberly and wakes us up to some truths about the partner/relationship that we do not see ourselves. Or something big has happened to him personally, and you haven't been a person to share it with yet.
From the author.
I want to say that we met almost a year before we started a relationship, ie it is not about sex.
He allowed us to make plans boldly, because we would not be complete strangers. But I understand that it's quite different when you meet a person in a relationship.
He is a person who has certain understandings and specific expectations. I tend to think that I probably did not justify them. But there was no discussion on this topic, no discussion, and so on. So I can't figure out how a person with serious intentions can switch in a week.
This is what happens when you think you know someone and believe the sweet talk. People have been living together for years and are still not insured against such "surprises". He probably liked another more than you, and now he's spreading the same delicacies on her. The man has some "repertoire" and at almost every dump he talks the same thing after he finds out what the women are "pecking" at.
He got his, what are you more for? Did you not understand that a divorced (and not only) man will never trust a woman again? Women have become so mercantile that in order to bind a man, he must be either a fool or a masochist. That's why lately there are only connections for fucking, but not spiritual ones because there are no pure souls left, everything goes wrong in childhood, 12-13-year-olds are already fucking like bitches!
And did you ask him why he got divorced? And about his relationship with his wife after the separation? What I read leads me to think that he still has feelings for your wife. And he uses you in an attempt to cure himself of them. I hope I'm wrong, but this happens very often.
He lied to you most brazenly to get into your bed. It is clear to me the men who from the very beginning of the relationship make plans and take down stars. They are all pressurized balloons, thrown on purpose to impress you, and once they get theirs, they suddenly withdraw without much explanation. Painfully familiar picture, and I was lied to.
Does the dude happen to be an Arab, a Turk, a Muslim?
I'll tell you in my case what made him retire. He was talking for the first time about family, children, etc. without me even pushing for it, he took up the conversation himself. Only a month later he left me, saying that he loved another very much. Which other she had known for 2 months and less. Otherwise, everything can happen. There may be another, he may have regretted, he may have been afraid of too much happiness or vice versa. Let the men say, I'm already expecting everything.
He has not memorized your name and is already talking to you about children and compromises. It does not happen that those who marry and have children:
-first date-
M: Hello
G: Hello
M: you know I want 3 children and marriage, but compromises are needed
F: good
-lived a long and happy 60 years-
Not such things in principle are not discussed but happen or if they need to be discussed it is done when the time comes
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In my opinion, another one has appeared.
First, the incident you describe is not typical of all men, or even most. Once a person is emotional, he is probably very volatile in his emotions. The smallest detail can make a bad impression on him. On the other hand, he can also fall in love easily, and accordingly change the object of his interests in a relatively short time. You can only get an answer for the exact reason from him, but he is simply not aware of himself.
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