What Is Your Opinion About Marriage?

   I agree with you, but most women dream of having a wedding.

   I am neither "for" nor "against". I'll tell you what I like and what I don't. The wedding is a complete circus for me, white roses and bouquets, I don't want a wedding or to see myself in a white dress. But marriage and marriage are not the same thing. I don't really like marriage, when a man takes a woman for a maid or something, the woman takes him for a piggy bank. But you have to choose your partner carefully. To be a team, not one to endure and the other to beat. But marriage is a plus, because somehow I want to have one family with the children, if something happens to me or my husband, the other has some security. Somehow I'm 50 to 50. And I'm a WOMAN. However, just because I got married, I will not stop supporting myself or working. For example, I earn more than my friend and it's no secret. I have nothing so material to take from him. Jen

   Honestly. You explained it perfectly. Marriage is the most pointless thing that unfortunately some young people still do, of course mainly because of their relatives they have never seen.

   No matter how you think about it, they have already tied you up, what if you don't have a signature? Now she will suddenly start chasing you, she will decide that she is the most important in the world, because she gave birth to a child, all his needs will be presented as common, you will pass not in the background, but in the background and you will be needed only as supplier of raw materials and services. sex will become a rarity and an annoying obligation on her part. For every simplicity that comes to mind, there will be an excuse that the Americans invented a few years ago - they call it postpartum depression. / They, in order to justify someone for their simplicity, invent diseases where they do not exist /. So, you're already cooked. Personal depersonalization is especially characteristic - everything becomes "we" - "we ate", etc.

   Answer the question if you love her, that when I look you seem to be wondering how to escape. A child is made by 2 if you don't know. As for marriage, I will say that you can only get married with a signature. I'm a woman and if I get married I want it to be just a signature, I don't want to become "2 crazy and 200 hungry" with an expensive dress at all. I had fun after 12th grade, I don't need it again. And I don't think marriage gives security, because you can always get a divorce. I read somewhere that there are 10,000 divorces in Bulgaria a year. Find this on the internet or in a newspaper and show it to her so she doesn't enjoy it so much. If I have to choose between True and only love with a person I love very much and just sign, and Some rich man who I don't love so much but can offer me the biggest wedding in the world and the most expensive dress I will choose True Love .

   I'm a man, but I was disgusted when I read your post. And no, because my opinion is different - everyone has an opinion and there is nothing wrong. But what you have written is ugly to say the least, and you frankly exude complex, malice and bitterness. It can be a provocation. "Whim of a league" If you think of your wife as a whimsical league, it is understandable that you do not want a wedding. I even wonder why you're with her at all. I will not touch on the other quotes, because I was disgusted. I would never take my wife for a whimsical muffin. If I accepted her as such, I would not be with her at all.

   Well done, 7! I fully support you. Very cynical and ugly on the part of the author. This man has no reason to ruin the lives of a woman and a child. Unlike the writer, I am for marriage because I love the woman next to me and I want her to bear my last name and feel chosen, not a daydreamer.

   Why do such men have women?

   So the woman works before she gets married, and the man after he gets married (your words). Does that mean you're not going to work now? And since for you the child is a bond, why not pay more attention? In my opinion, if you put less effort into thinking about who works when, who associates whom with what and what kind of ostentation and seir it is, and instead you invest them in building your future family, you will be much happier and calmer. I think you're sick right now of losing your freedom and feeling trapped. But family can be the greatest happiness, as long as you do it right.

   It's time for you to improve yourself ....

   Is she pregnant on her own? Did she tie you up or put it on herself and end up there with your organ. So disgusting words that I have no words. You don't respect this woman at all, why are you with her at all, don't marry by force, let the woman say so and so, what do you think and so on. Better alone, obviously, than to marry by force, to "support" her by force, and everything else. You do not say that all women are like that, but that you doubt yours - horror. Terrible words that are not for a woman in general, but say your idea of ​​marriage and, accordingly, with this woman. Angry aunts, a woman to sit on, and you poor thing to work, because you are already a "tied" horror ... Why am I reading this at all. So to the question of the wedding outside of all the ugly talk, well, big weddings are a whim, for ostentation, modest but love people gather relatives, etc. a lot of people live for the moment, others have enough signatures, but there is not much love, etc. Number 8 - Evala said what and why, the same is for a modest wedding, not ostentatious, BUT hide the money where you do not have the author release and the woman should not weigh you and do not tie you and live your life if it can be called life. ;) For people like you, I don't have an adequate opinion, I'm too horrified by what I've read to be able to think about your question. Given all the other words about you and everything around you, exactly your understandings and views .. There is no point in getting married and cheating on her, this is my opinion. There is no love there, there is nothing to demonstrate, because of the child, but I don't see that you care about anyone at all. and not ostentatious, BUT hide your coins where you don't have them, release the author and let the woman not weigh you down and bind you, and live your life if this can be called life. ;) For people like you, I don't have an adequate opinion, I'm too horrified by what I've read to be able to think about your question. Given all the other words about you and everything around you, exactly your understandings and views .. There is no point in getting married and cheating on her, this is my opinion. There is no love there, there is nothing to demonstrate, because of the child, but I don't see that you care about anyone at all. and not ostentatious, BUT hide your coins where you don't have them, release the author and let the woman not weigh you down and bind you, live your life if this can be called life. ;) For people like you, I don't have an adequate opinion, I'm too horrified by what I've read to be able to think about your question. Given all the other words about you and everything around you, exactly your understandings and views .. There is no point in getting married and cheating on her, this is my opinion. There is no love there, there is nothing to demonstrate, because of the child, but I don't see that you care about anyone at all. Given all the other words about you and everything around you, exactly your understandings and views .. There is no point in getting married and cheating on her, this is my opinion. There is no love there, there is nothing to demonstrate, because of the child, but I don't see that you care about anyone at all. Given all the other words about you and everything around you, exactly your understandings and views .. There is no point in getting married and cheating on her, this is my opinion. There is no love there, there is nothing to demonstrate, because of the child, but I don't see that you care about anyone at all.

   I am a woman, and I will tell my point of view about marriage. I am too against marriage because the woman becomes a "given" and the man stops respecting her, and begins to feel and see her as a "given". Everything should be washed, cleaned, cooked upbringing of a child. And what motivation does she have to maintain as before and is there time at all? Finally, "hers" attacked her for not respecting her "marital obligations" and began to accuse her of not trying as hard as she had done before. I'm sure if the men took care of the home, they would think differently. In short, the "thrill" is lost when they live together every day. They see their dirty shirts, everything. He reaches out and receives his dose of marital responsibilities. He doesn't care about her at all. So that, as the woman changes after marriage, so does the man. In order to have the thrill and desire, you have to fight for each other regularly, he has to travel for it to get it, not just by reaching out to get it. And she should try to stay the one he fell in love with. In a word, marriage kills love. Helga

   I am old-fashioned and marriage is important to me. I am 27 years old and married. I have never had any doubts about this. Personally, I do not approve of a relationship without marriage. For me, this is normal. I was a beautiful bride like in a magazine with a great dress. It was a great experience we shared with my husband and loved ones. An unforgettable memory. I wish everyone! But a nice, big wedding with at least 100 guests, in an elegant restaurant and a beautiful ball gown like a princess with a stylish man next to her. This event was very nice for us.

   Marriage does not bind anyone, to add. You can always leave. Look on the other side - what if people think that people like you who don't want marriage are greedy, selfish and don't share anything with anyone? What, in the end, will we only gather with relatives and close friends at funerals? People have invented it for this as well - to have good occasions, otherwise it will really be a life where the meetings will be only in the cemetery ... but even there money is given, you know !!!

   And I'm old-fashioned. My wife was happy, we organized it well, the restaurant was elegant, the guests cultural and satisfied. As for the money, which stops everyone so much - we spent 5 vouchers. But we received 20 vouchers as gifts plus item gifts. But that doesn't matter. I just want to say it's from one pocket to the other. We used the amount as a down payment for housing. We are left with an incredible memory, to this day we fondly look at the photos and show them to our daughter. This is something that some 5 vouchers saved will never be able to buy and only people who have eyes for such things can see it. Such small bills, who will pay how much, who will tie and fuck whom, I do not understand them. If the two really love each other, they won't even think about such pub bills, and they will look in one direction and do everything for each other, without remembering who gave how much and what they should receive in return. This is no longer love, but trade. This was the moment when she became my chosen boyfriend (from the age of 6) and our relatives shared the moment with us. I don't understand being with someone 20 years old, having children and being married to boyfriends or there on a family basis or "the woman next to someone," as it is often written in the media. But I will never blame anyone, because everyone understands it differently. as is often written in the media. But I will never blame anyone, because everyone understands it differently. as is often written in the media. But I will never blame anyone, because everyone understands it differently.

   "We are happily married in our family. My wife is happy, I am married :))

   If you sign, it will be the biggest mistake of your life.

   Is it? Didn't I make a mistake when I signed? I have lived with this signature for 30 years! I do not regret anything. 19, you live life according to your rules. Your job.

   And I don't understand people who live as roommates, because it didn't matter. They are squeezing for a wedding, very revealing. Well, what will be left of this life, it was - a big squeeze, come on ... And what, they became 40-50 years old, and they say my boyfriend, my girlfriend ... Exposure.

   I got married soon. We had a little wedding, just with friends. You can spend a lot on a wedding, you can spend a little, you can just sign. I would sign again because I know how I feel now. Not like another woman, but like the love of his life, a real wife, a future mother of his children. God forbid, if something happens, they will ask me how to proceed - me, not relatives, etc., because without a signature you are exactly none of this person. The signature shows the great trust we place in each other and our desire to stay together forever. We contribute equally to the family budget. I don't think anyone owes me anything, and I don't think I'm incapable of working and making money. He helps me with housework and cooking. If one works, the other works, if one rests, the other rests. To tell you whether you will sign or not does not determine what kind of woman you will live with and how he will treat you. If he truly loves and respects you before marriage, he will love and respect you after it. If he is selfish, manipulator and user, he will do it with and without a signature. I don't rule out that she pretends to be very kind and good, and after marriage she expects you to put up with her no matter what kind of pig she becomes. But such people forget that marriage is just a contract and like any contract it breaks. Just because you signed today doesn't mean you'll tolerate it tomorrow. Good luck with the assessment. As I watch the women around me think and act, you will also need luck. and after marriage to expect you to put up with her no matter what the pig becomes. But such people forget that marriage is just a contract and like any contract it breaks. Just because you signed today doesn't mean you'll tolerate it tomorrow. Good luck with the assessment. As I watch the women around me think and act, you will also need luck. and after marriage to expect you to put up with her no matter what the pig becomes. But such people forget that marriage is just a contract and like any contract it breaks. Just because you signed today doesn't mean you'll tolerate it tomorrow. Good luck with the assessment. As I watch the women around me think and act, you will also need luck.

   She is not your wife, but your roommate. She will be your wife if you are married. It's always been weird to me, my wife, my husband, when you're not really married. Many cynical statements, share them with the girl, do not write them here. Let her know what kind of person her child's father is. A tight-lipped cynic. When the child grows up, he will wonder why mom and dad are not married, why they have different surnames, why there are no photos of his mother as a bride, why there is no wedding photo? Why are there no memories that remain for many years? As a child, it was always interesting to watch the tape from our wedding. I was glad. Why would you deprive a child of this experience?

   21, is not up to compression. Some people don't want to get married for a number of reasons. And if we touch on finances: yes, I prefer this money to be for something else, for example for a child. And I don't care who comments on my relationship, to be honest. I prefer not to have loans because it is very difficult for people with loans to live as a whole. And getting a wedding loan is absurd. I accept credit to take a person only for health reasons. It is one thing to squeeze, it is another not to.

   24, and do you ask this girl's parents if they agree for their daughter to live with someone without marriage? It's so simple, without any commitment permanently. Because that's the whole problem - the fear of commitment. I knew one. He turned 34, but he didn't want a woman to command him, he didn't want marriage. And he ran only to his mother. Just a fear of attachment. If you get married, families will help, there's no way, even if you don't ask for help. They are unlikely to remain indifferent. Just the real reason is that you have a fear of attachment, and you rant about your freedom.

   25, I'm a woman. I am expecting a child and the child's finances are in the foreground. But I wasn't for marriage before.

   A wedding or ball loan is nonsense, I totally agree. It is better to invest the money in something reasonable for the future - housing, furniture, child ... However, why do you all imagine the wedding as 200 guests, orchestras, drums and masrafi ??? Couldn't it just be a gathering with relatives and friends who are really close to you at a restaurant and a party?

   I am a woman and I will express my opinion. In fact, if we're going to have a wedding, I'll just want a signature. I don't like everything else, guests, dress and so on. But I do not agree with you, author. Marrying someone shows that you have your full trust and love for them. You are already one. I don't think most women are spoiled muffins. There are many decent girls, but unfortunately they are not so sought after by men.

   What kind of a man are you when you don't have the money to get married? What loans, what five levs, every man and woman should have some savings, income and afford a wedding of 50-70 people. It's not about the money, but it's just about talking about it. Scrub. Do not catch a cold and do not pass. I don't envy your "wife", poor thing, she will stay with the quotes for everything in life ...

   In short, you slept with the wrong woman and you don't want to be with her for the rest of your life now. Well, break up, look for your luck elsewhere. Recognize your child, support him, take him on vacation, make him a nursery with you when he grows up and so on. You don't need to be with his mother.

   Communist obsolescence.

   The idea of ​​the wedding is to announce to the public (friends, colleagues, family and whomever you invite) that you connect your life with the person next to you and, accordingly, to treat and have fun. The guests usually make presents for the young family and so the wedding can really come out without money, if you have a rich family and good friends and colleagues, you can also get married. :) Here it is, do what you want.

   The only thing you miss is that the wedding is killed by the gifts. So this with finances is just an excuse.

   Author (and everyone who considers marriage obsolete), marriage is a wonderful thing, as are the children of it, if you are with the right person. I have always been interested in the logic of some men who do not want marriage but push for children. For me, these are frivolous men who have no idea what it really means to have a child. Such men imagine, in my opinion, the child as a doll that they can put where they want and "throw" it when they want. They are afraid of signing a marriage certificate because it "binds" them. A real marriage, especially without children, is easily dissolved. It's hard with the child. When you decide to separate, you can't tell him, "Come on, go into your mother's womb now and you're gone." And specifically in your case, I don't think you love your girlfriend enough and you're not sure she's the woman of your life. That's why the baby was a shock, that's why you pull out of marriage. Why didn't you offer her an abortion when you found out and everyone on their way?

   I'm a woman, with a divorce behind me and honestly, I don't think I'm causing myself such headaches a second time. I have a great person next to me, we love each other, we live together, but I don't think it's so important for us to get married. Even if we have a child, it is still not necessary, because according to the new family code, a child born to unmarried parents has the same rights as a child born in wedlock, as long as his father has recognized him as his own. And when this child is wanted and looked after by both parents, I think every man will recognize his child. So I don't think marriage is that important in the 21st century. Before, yes, because a woman was completely, or almost completely dependent on her husband and without marriage had absolutely no rights, but now that each of us works and has a property, what is it for us?

   Marriage №37 makes you one with your husband. It gives you the security to fight for your common good. Why is he a man at all if you will think and take care only of your property? When two people join forces, they achieve much more. And marriage gives them the certainty that half is their property. The child you will give birth to without marriage and IF recognized will have the rights, but you will not have the right to inherit anything from your husband. And to give the whole inheritance from your husband to the child is not very smart. If he is too young and still flying, or if he is married and influenced by his wife, you may find yourself on the street.

   These men who are against marriage are really afraid of their freedom. Someone should not tie them with shackles and not move. Yes, the child may recognize it without, but he may not recognize it. Isn't he married to this woman, what obliges him? Many think so, but have unprotected sex. And when the cripple happened, they wondered how to escape, like the author. He justifies himself with the costs, ankles, but he's really furry because he won't be free anymore. The wedding depends on the young people how they will organize it. The restaurant, the music, everything. And families help because once their child gets married. They will be happier than you. You will make them a gift. One day your child will look at photos, recordings, and he will have a memory. That the father loved the mother enough to make her his wife, and it is the fruit of that love. Yes, marriage is uncertain,

   It is not even necessary and a wedding, in the sense of the whole city and the orchestra in front of the block, if they do not have money. Maybe just a signature in the Municipality, a simple white suit for the bride, and lunch for them, the godparents and the parents. Other guests are not needed. I don't know if and if you can't afford it. But, it's easier when you don't want to get married (to officially document the relationship), to justify yourself with money. "Pampering" of leagues were, ostentation, I do not know what you are. Nonsense. It would be a pampering if you wanted a wedding on an exotic island with 1000 guests and a dress by a famous designer. But lunch for about 10 people and a signature in the Municipality is almost without money. Let the author think about the real reasons for running away from responsibility. Otherwise, everyone wants "X * ya to the end and the soul in heaven", but this has a price that you do not always want to pay!

   I'm just wondering why you think that every apartment belongs to the man and everything is actually inherited by the woman, and not the other way around? That is, the man is always richer, more successful, etc. And the woman always lives with the man? Bullshit. Yes, I'm more for marriage, but such answers irritated me. Jen

   Marriage is just that - "marriage". You lose your individuality and give in / merge with another. I will not talk about the deeper consequences of this ritual, because the audience of this site will not be able to understand them. Women want marriage because they want to feel "chosen" by someone and have security for their future children, no matter how illusory it is. The very fact that you want to be elected shows low self-esteem and insecurity in your own significance. So let women think about whether they want to be lianas who are just waiting to wrap themselves around some fool or independent people. Men agree to marry only if they want to please their wife or under pressure from family / society. As for being old-fashioned, it only shows sheepishness and blindly following traditions, which you have no idea how they were born and for what purpose. They are genetically inherited from ancestors through DNA. However, the causal relationships behind them are not inherited and one has to think a bit before understanding them. But it is clear that it is easier to just do what your grandmother and great-grandmother did, instead of moving your gray matter.

   44, grandparents did what they had to do when they decided they wanted to start a family and have children. And yes, marriage provides security and legal security (mostly). For those who do not want marriage, no one forces them to marry. To live as bachelors / girls all their lives and not think about anything else. It becomes a problem (for me) when you both don't want marriage and you want a child. You see, the signature meant nothing. That doesn't mean, why don't you sign then? So what? But they are furry, they do not want to take responsibility, but otherwise they want the most responsible (creating a child). That I have a guarantee that tomorrow he will not turn around, go to another and have children on a kimogram? You still do not have such a guarantee in marriage, but you are legally more protected if something like this happens.

   "Someone shouldn't tie them with shackles and not move them." You say that as if it were something small and insignificant.

   Up to 35 Not when the woman wants fireworks for 35,000 levs, to accommodate 75 guests in expensive hotels and to pay for the transport of 4 relatives from the USA and Australia ...

   I am 19. When I think about marriage, I come to the conclusion that if a person I like and love offers me marriage, I cannot refuse. I would refuse someone I don't particularly like. If a man wants to live with me without marriage, it is clear what he thinks of me. I would not agree to watch a child bastard. A frivolous and irresponsible man cannot provide a good life for a woman and a child. Marriage is not about playing lovers, it is something else entirely.

   46, it's funny. Nobody kidnaps him, they just marry him. But men see this as the end of their bachelorhood, and the end of the opportunity to sleep with other women. Not that this stops them. But that's basically it. It's funny if you have a small child with someone for many years, but the man stumbles on marriage, as if cohabitation and the child are not binding enough. Some fear that the woman will take away what little they have, so they act as chained victims.

   46. ​​"Someone should not tie them with shackles and not move." You say that as if it were something small and insignificant. ====================================== One of the main female desires and ambitions is for a woman to have power over the man. So such comments should not surprise you number 46.

   My wife and I live without marriage. It's just that at the time, both births put a lot of pressure on us to get married and disgusted us with the idea. When we bought a house together, we had a big party with friends and it was our "wedding". This does not prevent us in any way from living as a family for 20 years (in fact, no one knows or remembers that we have not signed ...) and looking after our children. Our children are "bastards" (although immediately recognized by me), but they also do not know this and therefore do not feel like that. The big one turns 18 in a few months, so even if he ever learns, he will still have it. No one has ever asked us for a marriage certificate for anything. Relationship, marriage, love, friendship, mutual respect and esteem are in the heart, not on some paper or in front of "God" ... My sister's family is the same - healthy, together, with wonderful children and without marriage. Among our friends and acquaintances, divisions and divorces are very rare - we are obviously lucky to hang out with highly intelligent and responsible people, but when I look at the children's classmates, at least 1/3 of them are children of divorced (or living separately) parents: , stepmothers, "my other father", "my current mother" ... So, young men and women - your family will be what you yourself (with your partner) do. Neither will marriage help you if you are cursed and knocked in the head, nor will its absence hinder you in case you are not! :) at least 1/3 of them are children of divorced (or living separately) parents: stepchildren, stepmothers, "my other father", "my current mother" are mentioned ... So, young men and women - your family will be like that, whatever you (with your partner) do. Neither will marriage help you if you are cursed and knocked in the head, nor will its absence hinder you in case you are not! :) at least 1/3 of them are children of divorced (or living separately) parents: stepchildren, stepmothers, "my other father", "my current mother" are mentioned ... So, young men and women - your family will be like that, whatever you (with your partner) do. Neither will marriage help you if you are cursed and knocked in the head, nor will its absence hinder you in case you are not! :)

   The man's ability to accept himself as a victim has no end ...

   First, you don't say how old you are. If you're under 30, it's normal not to be ready, although at any age you have to think about what to do. Second - the main thing here is not whether you want to get married, but whether you want a child, because it is the most important thing. If the woman is in an advanced pregnancy - there is nothing to think about, it's not up to you. And yes, marriage is important, you got it right. So that we women can arrange our lives AND THIS TO THE CHILD. But a smart woman knows who to marry and whom to have a child with. She wouldn't choose a rag. Or someone like you. And what does it mean "once we get married, my wife will lose motivation." Your wife will lose motivation, because of people like you who run away from responsibility, because she will see what her goods are. And then he'll kick you out and find someone else right. You could have fun, right? Then you decide to lift your pants and darling, he was shocked. And for all those women who suffer 9 months of pain, childbirth and then look after their own children and pay for everything themselves, do you remember? It's because of people like you, mostly. He didn't want anyone to tie him to a child ... he did a vasectomy for me or he spent his whole life on condoms and that's it. I'll give you one piece of advice, to you and to all the eternal bachelors who pretend to be interesting. Because I work in such a place and I see every day how old men come to ask for sex for money. They are ready to give the last money from their pension to the first person they meet. Who because he was a widow, who because, like you, pretended to be interesting when he was young. Then as you get older, no normal person will look at you. Unless it's for money. And if you have them, pay them, of course. Understand that we women can do without you, but you cannot do without us. Because I haven't seen a woman ask for sex.

   In my opinion, marriage is obligatory when two people want to have a child. If they only live without a child, they don't have to be tied up, like that. Marriage is a settlement of accounts. And it is right to have it. It is right for the child to have the father's surname, to be recognized and not to be ... the word with K ending in E. I can't imagine hanging in the queues for benefits for single mothers. It is right for the child to be the legal heir of both parents, not one day to be naked and barefoot and to start from scratch. I understand men who don't want marriage because they feel like dogs on a leash. But a woman does not want marriage ... for me not an indicator of good mental qualities. We are women, for that we must be calculating. Didn't your mothers teach you anything?

   To all those who do not want marriage and stretch out delicacies like number 44: Admit it, you just don't do well with relationships with people / halves. Some do not want to get married after a divorce because their marriage did not work out for the first time. Well, there are people who get married 5 times and get divorced 5 times. There are people who will never have a good family life! There are people who die alone! But it's their fault. There are people who get married once and stay together for life. Thanks to the men who comment here and are FOR marriage. You are real men, I hope there are more like you. I wish you long and happy years with your families. :))

   Up to 45 - there are dozens not to mention hundreds of women who want a child without a man, sperm banks prosper, so do not tell me about men who were bad because they did not want marriage but wanted a child. I personally know several women who have done it. Not to mention that there were several posts here on "how to tie him to a child." If a man has heard enough of such things from the women around him, it is normal that he does not want to be the bastard he wears. I understand it. Just because you don't like it doesn't mean there's no reason for it.