I'm going to write some of my vision on this. First, the justification that every woman has said it cannot be true - and women are different, can't all have the same opinion. Those who like self-esteem in a man the most like it as a consequence of another quality, not just because of self-esteem. When does a man have self-esteem? When there is a thick portofel :), or a large in cheek (or both). There's been a lot on the site about the importance and normal of a woman looking for a man to provide her with fine security and "alpha," so I'm going to stop there.
You ask a very complex question for women, since they themselves do not know what they mean by this phrase so suggested by them. :)
But seeing what's going on in society, I'il tell you what they put into those words. It's a way of saying that they want a rich man who has achieved all that they (women) are either unable to achieve or unwilling to put effort into doing it, and they prefer to put that between their legs, which puts them in the position of wanting to be equal to the man as rights, but not as obligations and contributions to the general budget.
Now there's going to be a bunch of women fooling you with some candied talk about how "man with self-esteem" is all sorts of things, but no one will openly admit that it's about the man's money that a woman wants to take possession of. Some will argue that a man with self-esteem is the one who gets better in life from the end; others will insist that this is a man who would not retaliate against a woman who messes with him and will move on; third will write that such a man is always smiling, energetic, has no worries, does not think about household problems, sick relatives, etc., but in the end it is all about money... It's an hour of things that women have told me when I ask exactly the same question to them, and it's always been fun to listen to their excuses. They're afraid to name things by their real names. I am also all "in the rumour" of what excuses will be written here, as I am curious to learn more about female logic or, more precisely, the absence of one. :) Women, you're on the move!
A problem these days is over self-esteem, not lack thereof.
This applies to every person because I do not divide men and women into men and women when it comes to personality traits.
Self-esteem means feeling good in your "skin," knowing what you are, accepting yourself with all your merits and disadvantages, working on your personal development (for some it is only in material terms, for others it is only in spiritual, others find some balance between the two), the question is to have a constant work on your own, it shows care and responsibility to yourself , and that's where it starts. It means being natural, sincere and open to others, because you accept yourself for who you are, there is nothing to be ashamed of, and you will not try to "show the best of yourself", which is a common practice, subconsciously or not, but people fool each other in this way. Also, it means that you can make your opinion clear, but not to impose it, that is, by accepting yourself, it is right to accept, and respect others, as long as they do not endanger you, of course. Also help a stranger or acquaintance, just like that, because you can without flaunting your abilities.
To synthesize.
To accept yourself for who you are;
To do things for yourself;
To develop;
To be natural, open and sincere;
To stand up for yourself, but not to have to;
To respect the person in the room;
To be ready, to help unconditionally and selflessly.
For me, this is the profile of a person who has self-esteem (loves) and wants to-want it, it shows him.
Complacency, self-centeredness, etc. similar - they differ from the "self-esteem" in that in them, the ego is imposed over Aza, accordingly tries to impose himself in interpersonal relations by - pointing out, pushing, violence even, subsequent - requirements, imputing responsibility to others that they owe to him, to give him, etc. (all bad qualities come from ego), and the idea of "Self-Feeling" is - to feel one himself, to get to know and love, and accordingly he will treat others in a good way, it is inevitable, and this is appreciated by conscious people.
I'm afraid the many commenters will mislead you and write a lot of superficial things, but decide for yourself what to master :)
I'm a man, but for women, self-esteem from a man usually means they want him to do anything while they're doing nothing. In general, this rule can be applied to any scenarios and situations. True self-esteem means being able to take hits in a direct and figurative sense.
What if you're acting like a turkey? That is, a lot of feathers and a little intellect, we can say it without coverage - does that attract women, or at least the muffins?
Maybe here I had read - a woman's admiration for her husband (turkey flutter), although she realized that he was completely uncoated, so she liked it, was her inflated.
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