Hi, I'm a 19 year old girl. I went out with a lot of guys, I had 2 serious relationships, but such a thing has not happened to me so far. About 3 months ago, by chance, next to my friends I met a boy from their company. He is 22, even before we met he followed me on instagram and when we met by chance outside with the cars he greeted me. I did not expect anything from this acquaintance, it was not my goal to get closer to this boy. Several times we were in a common company outside, after a few days we went out in private, he started writing to me constantly and behaving very nicely. He is extremely shy, I would even say too much. He has many friends, several of whom I know - they all tell me that he is strange, that he doesn't even share or talk to them much. Gradually he began to show interest in me, began to behave more than friendly - it's just a chat. We saw each other 2-3 times a week, mostly late at night, because he was constantly with his company. There are a few guys who are extremely nasty gossips. They had seen us together several times, and he wanted to hide from them. From my friend, who is in a relationship with his friend, I learned that when he goes out with me, he tells his company that he is coming home. It's been 3 months since we wrote and see each other, I've started to like him a lot and that worries me. He also shows that I am not indifferent to him - he writes to me whenever he can, behaves nicely, makes hints to me (not sexual), he is interested in how my day went. The problem is that when we are together, we seem to be afraid of intimacy. He hasn't kissed me yet, the last few times he's been afraid to hug me and grab my hand. This confuses me, at times I have the feeling that he does not want anything from me and I try to withdraw, but then he shows sympathy again. We spend a lot of time together when we go out - more than 4-5 hours. I also hinted to him, I even told him directly (again in chat) that I wanted him to kiss me. I show him that I like him, he shows me too, but at the same time he keeps telling me "there is time" ... I really can't understand him, if he doesn't want anything from me, why should he look for me all the time? Why be interested in everything that is happening around me? Why stay with me all night until 6 in the morning, when he hasn't done it before? Why should he hint at me, be jealous of me, be interested in my opinion? And on the other hand - If he likes me, why not do something about it, given that I have revealed my feelings to him? I understand he 's shy, but that's all? What would you advise me to do - how to behave, should I try to talk to him on this topic? Shouldn't I kiss him? I know the story is quite confusing, but so have my thoughts lately. I have never met such a person before, maybe that's why he grabbed my attention like that. If it was someone else, I think I would be bored by now ...
1 hairyuncut answered
That's it - yes. He is shy, there are such people, oh miracle. I will tell you something else - he is sensitive, and such people often choose the wrong ones. I think you are unsuitable for him.