Hello, I have the following problem and no longer know what to do and how to approach. I met her three years ago, at first everything was great except for one thing - JEALOUSY of everything!!! T. k. I do not give her absolutely any reason to be jealous of my past (previous relationships), from stopping on a footpath with the car to cross a woman, for that, in her opinion, I have constantly looked at other women, even looking into the ground!!! I decided that there was a problem from the past, and for that, there is a fear of it, I tried to explain to her that there is no point in being jealous of past things is meaningless. The other problem is that she thinks anything that doesn't seem logical to her is a lie - and whatever I say and do, even if I put it with evidence again, is a lie. I tried different techniques and approaches to her to understand that she needed to relax and feel comfortable.... before long and I proposed marriage and we got married, I thought that in time she would settle down and start living normal and happy... yes, but no! ... Jealousy and trust in me continue to be in excess, changing the mood in seconds, uttering harsh words, killing and threatening to break up... we love each other... the rest of the time when it is not in such a phase, everything is fine and very pleasant but did you decide that you will mess with me even without expecting, it comes across like a storm on a summer's day and from there everything goes badly.. I love her very much, I want to build our future together, but she and her actions destroy what we build... The easiest thing to say is Over. So far we've been to escape the problem... To... but I don't want to run, I want to decide! I want her to feel good and to finally live happily ever without unnecessary quarrels and mistrust! I want to clarify something very important! I DIDN'T LIE TO HER, I DON'T DATE OTHER WOMEN, I DON'T GIVE HER JEALOUSY, I LOVE HER, AND I ALWAYS WORRY SHE'S OKAY! I just want advice because I'm starting mentally to endure and I want to save my relationship and my marriage! Thank you!
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shane_clay answered · June 02, 2020
Your girlfriend can do a psychoterrap or visit him together. I don't see any other way out. Jealousy is incurable. Success
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curvycyn answered · June 02, 2020
You're married, it's a great haha.
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ti_gi answered · June 02, 2020
We got married, Insult! Are you illiterate or what?!
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gqabc answered · June 02, 2020
I'm like that with my fiancé. I'm in your wife's position... it's not pleasant and it's certainly not easy for her and she doesn't want it, but it just prevails. I'm so horrible, I get to cry, and I don't want it. Be understanding and patience.
The difference is, he was lying to me a lot, and I caught him obviously. Like everything a woman moves, she wants to be*e... for him, they're all pussies, and I'm the greek.... that's why I explode and scandals become. It's not easy for me at all, believe me. Your wife must have had the same thing, and that's why she did.
Give her compliments, give her a flower, pay attention to her new panties or something new and tell her you like the way she looks and so on.
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lucycanbebought answered · June 02, 2020
As you describe it, things are pretty serious with these outbursts. The most disturbing thing for me is that she clearly likes to ignore the facts. From experience, I'm telling you, this is a turning point that should light a naked red light in your head, that you can't build anything with a woman like that anymore. Because you'il never have a dialogue with her. She's the kind of person who firmly and definitively builds her opinion on an issue and starts pushing endlessly until you agree with her, ignoring all the arguments no matter how logical and unshakeable they are.
In other words, it's like talking to the wall.
Think about what the future holds for you.
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alizeesweety answered · June 02, 2020
Unfortunately, the situation you describe is a chronic condition and you will not deal with the problem yourself. Your wife has a serious problem, and he's not just jealous, but with his personal self-esteem and nerves. It's clear from your story that she's long lost the boundaries. He's going to be relegated, but he's always going to repeat the episodes that will grow and escalate over time. No matter how hard you try, there will be no change, because the problem is not in you or in your attitude towards her, but in her herself or more precisely she has a problem with herself and especially her self-esteem. Her condition is for a specialist psychotherapist and it will take a lot of time, work and self-discipline. I'm pretty sure she'il object and won't want to go. Support her and talk to her frankly about wanting to work for your relationship, your future and, above all, taking care of her so she can be happy. Good luck to you!
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harinidolly123 answered · June 03, 2020
Send her to a psychiatrist now or save yourself.
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nazar_zona6969 answered · June 03, 2020
You wrote it yourself in capital letters.
I have a neighbor with a similar behavior towards his wife.
You'd better understand the problem now that if a baby comes along, the hysteria will become permanent.
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kahzinhachubby answered · June 03, 2020
Are you sure you're a Uzhenili? This part of the story sounds like a fictional addition to me.
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lickmypeach81 answered · June 04, 2020
#9 The whole story seems to me to be made up, even if the mistakes the troll makes on purpose, isn't it strange that he knows, for example, where double T (jealousy) is written, but wrong in simpler things? And in his other subjects he does so, he makes 1-2 mistakes "for authenticity".
But jealousy doesn't heal. And once lost, trust doesn't come back. Psychoterrapies in this regard are wasted time and money.
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eatmypurrr answered · June 04, 2020
Your wife may have a mental illness with such a sharp change of mood and the lack of a proper assessment of the facts. You can try treatment or psychotherapy.
I'm not optimistic about your marriage, though. I don't see how it's going to work in the future. What do you expect your wife to suddenly become normal, loving and understanding? What if you have a child? How do you see it living amid ongoing scandals? What are you trying to save? Is there even a normal life with you?
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cata_hill answered · June 04, 2020
Staggering illiteracy...
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lisa_charm answered · June 05, 2020
I'm the author! I apologize very much for the spelling mistakes!! I wrote from the phone in an outburst of emotion from another pointless scandal. The story is not a fiction, and I'm in a very difficult position with how to proceed. Thank you for your answers.
Today he re-enters another movie, frowning again, disgruntled.... I feel like he's wondering how to get stuck in something from my past. Mentally, I can't stand it anymore, and we have plans for a baby and a new home. I love her, but with that attitude, I don't know how we're going to get him in the future if I don't solve this problem.