I have been with my boyfriend for more than half a year. He used to be wonderful, kind, even when we were arguing, he found a way to get along. However, since he started studying, his attitude has completely changed, it has become the exact opposite of what he was. At the very least, he erupts and starts insulting me, sometimes even for no reason. He claims that he loves me and so on, but I don't seem to believe him anymore ... He hurts me terribly and I told him, and he just sat and looked at me with a terrible malice in his eyes. When he comes home, I want him to call me so I know he's OK and he's home, but sometimes he doesn't do it anymore and he makes a crazy scandal out of me if I call him. I can't figure out what's going on. I'm not one of those women who cheats, I didn't do it, I never lied to him about anything, I wouldn't do it. I just want things to be good between us and I do my best to make it so. I swallow the insults, I hide the tears, when he shouts I am silent, I am even forbidden to show my jealousy. He claims that I am to blame for his attitude, I did it myself, but I do not know how I deserved it. Yes, I have raised my voice, but say it doesn't happen to everyone. And now, when I'm nervous about something and if God forbid I say something, I get "Are shut up there!", When I call to ask how it is, I get "Were you normal" and there are constant similar insults. I don't know what's going on, what to do and what else to do to keep him from insulting me and behaving well, yes, he loves me and shows it sometimes, but I just don't know how to get this horrible behavior out of him, what to do about it to treat me like a man .... when he shouts I am silent, I am even forbidden to show my jealousy. He claims that I am to blame for his attitude, I did it myself, but I do not know how I deserved it. Yes, I have raised my voice, but say it doesn't happen to everyone. And now, when I'm nervous about something and if God forbid I say something, I get "Are shut up there!", When I call to ask how it is, I get "Were you normal?" and there are constant similar insults. I don't know what's going on, what to do and what else to do so that he doesn't offend me and behave well, yes, he loves me and shows it sometimes, but I just don't know how to kill this horrible behavior from him, what to do about to treat me like a man .... when he shouts I am silent, I am even forbidden to show my jealousy. He claims that I am to blame for his attitude, I did it myself, but I do not know how I deserved it. Yes, I have raised my voice, but say it doesn't happen to everyone. And now, when I'm nervous about something and if God forbid I say something, I get "Are shut up there!", When I call to ask how it is, I get "Were you normal?" and there are constant similar insults. I don't know what's going on, what to do and what else to do to keep him from insulting me and behaving well, yes, he loves me and shows it sometimes, but I just don't know how to get this horrible behavior out of him, what to do about it to treat me like a man .... I made it myself, but I don't know how I earned it. Yes, I have raised my voice, but say it doesn't happen to everyone. And now, when I'm nervous about something and if God forbid I say something, I get "Are shut up there!", When I call to ask how it is, I get "Were you normal?" and there are constant similar insults. I don't know what's going on, what to do and what else to do to keep him from insulting me and behaving well, yes, he loves me and shows it sometimes, but I just don't know how to get this horrible behavior out of him, what to do about it to treat me like a man .... I made it myself, but I don't know how I earned it. Yes, I have raised my voice, but say it doesn't happen to everyone. And now, when I'm nervous about something and if God forbid I say something, I get "Are shut up there!", When I call to ask how it is, I get "Were you normal?" and there are constant similar insults. I don't know what's going on, what to do and what else to do to keep him from insulting me and behaving well, yes, he loves me and shows it sometimes, but I just don't know how to get this horrible behavior out of him, what to do about it to treat me like a man .... when I called to ask how she was getting "were you normal?" and there are constant similar insults. I don't know what's going on, what to do and what else to do to keep him from insulting me and behaving well, yes, he loves me and shows it sometimes, but I just don't know how to get this horrible behavior out of him, what to do about it to treat me like a man .... when I called to ask how she was getting "were you normal?" and there are constant similar insults. I don't know what's going on, what to do and what else to do so that he doesn't offend me and behave well, yes, he loves me and shows it sometimes, but I just don't know how to kill this horrible behavior from him, what to do about to treat me like a man ....
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So I can't tell you what to do, only you can decide. I will tell you about me: if someone tells me one of the things you quoted here, it will disappear from my eyes and from my life forever. Even if I have 3 children, even if I work for little money. There is no chance for me to stay with one, even if I last and swallow my tears. I don't know how you talk about "love," love, and at the same time you say things like that. I don't know how you even associate such a hateful attitude with any love. It is very difficult for me to read such things. The outcome - I say again, for me - is not to tolerate such inferior types and not to have a relationship with them.