Hello! My boyfriend and I have been together for half a year. Everything is fine and we rarely fight and it is always nonsense, but lately scandals have become more frequent. Although we see each other every other day for the last week we have probably quarreled more than 5 times. I told him 1 word, he got angry, then he quarreled with me and I, and from 2, 3 sentences the quarrels became and no one gave up. The last big quarrel was 6 days ago. My mother had left 2 blouses on the table and he asked me if these blouses were for me (because I often give him presents because we have clothing stores). I jokingly told him hey, I was very used to you and I laughed at him. I went upstairs and when I came back angry, sullen, he started picking on me with the smallest things, one of which was in this pot, did you put this sauce, and we bought the food together. Finally he got so carried away and said to me: You don't remember what you said 5 minutes ago and you yell at me, then it's my fault I go get some sedatives. After saying this, he felt that he had thrown too much, but said a word. So the evening passed in two hours of silence and with slight quarrels from time to time. Gone are the days, but our quarrels didn't stop there after we saw each other 2 days ago, we quarreled again because I only stepped on his shoes and I had soiled his jeans and I don't know what else. Not only did I have to get used to him being too hygienic and wash my hands 50 times a day and make me do it too, as long as he didn't let me touch his face with supposedly dirty hands and bite him. nose or grabbed his cheek and licked a little and I am sometimes so bored in his company that I would prefer to stand and talk to a dog. To some extent he is used to drooling and we have a lot of good moments, but lately he is starting to overdo it. I shared everything with my mother and she told me: You have to find a way to stop these nonsense quarrels, because that way you will separate, but I think it would be better to be separated if he continues like this, because it just mentally burdens you and you go crazy like you're hot-tempered. We will see each other again today and I am already prepared for another quarrel for stupidity. Please tell me what to do and how to stop the quarrels. I wrote to him today and explained to him that we should stop and he is of this opinion, but if sparks start to fly, everything ignites and neither I nor he can give up. You have to find a way to stop this bullshit, because that's how you're going to break up, but I think it's better to be separated if it goes on like this, because it's just mentally stressful and you're going crazy like you're hot-tempered. We will see each other again today and I am already prepared for another quarrel for stupidity. Please tell me what to do and how to stop the quarrels. I wrote to him today and explained to him that we should stop and he is of this opinion, but if sparks start to fly, everything ignites and neither I nor he can give up. You have to find a way to stop this bullshit, because that's how you're going to break up, but I think it's better to be separated if it goes on like this, because it's just mentally stressful and you're going crazy like you're hot-tempered. We will see each other again today and I am already prepared for another quarrel for stupidity. Please tell me what to do and how to stop the quarrels. I wrote to him today and explained to him that we should stop and he is of this opinion, but if sparks start to fly, everything ignites and neither I nor he can give up.
1 granvergapr answered
Maybe it's good to take a break, not to see each other for a month or two, to see if you're still attracted and if you miss each other, if you want to be together at all. You have taken it for granted and are testing the limits of your relationship - how many quarrels it can withstand. It may break like that, though.