Hi, I'm a 21-year-old girl and I've had a boyfriend for 1 year now, he's 22. I don't know why, and I'm just wondering why. I'm always predisposing him and showing him I want to, but he's not doing anything about it. His justification is that there is nowhere, I have walked twice in them and we did nothing because he was "tired", he lived with his parents, and he also did not introduce me to them yet. The only thing I do is fellatio, that's all that drives me without any other desires. I don't know what to think. We go out for two, three hours, most of the time with his friends. There are days when he behaves very well and then he starts telling me nice things, talking about sex as well, but everything only flows in words and hugs. We just go to coffee when we see you for two-and-a-three hours as I said. The thought that's going on for me is infidelity or I just don't attract him, but he says he loves me and wants to be with me, and about infidelity I can't imagine it because I know him and I know that for him it's something unacceptable and he's against it. I don't know much, and every day I wonder what the problem is and why he behaves like that. I'd be very grateful if you could give me some advice or opinion, really!
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lucisinclair answered · June 17, 2020
Ask him directly! Here we can guess and wonder, but only he will give you the right answer. Ask him if he's been intimate with a girl before. I know he's 22 years old and you think he can't be a virgin, but he's not exactly. There are certainly some concerns that stop him. I don't know. Maybe he wasn't intimate with anyone, maybe he's worried about his size and skills, maybe he's experiencing some fear, or he's got a different crush. A young man can't for no reason for any reason to refuse to have sex with his girlfriend, who he's been dating for a year. I don't think he'il be with you for so long if you don't attract him at all. Plus, a lot of people cheat, but they still have sex with their mate. Ask him directly. Start making assumptions in front of him. Ask him questions.
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jonnycockfill answered · June 17, 2020
If fellatio's empty for a minute, that's his problem, he's probably a long-range shooter, and that's what's holding him back from normal sex. And if I endure a long time, then you don't like it, he's selfish!
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nikhollhot00 answered · June 17, 2020
You're the man in this relationship! Congratulations ;)
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im_ur_peach answered · June 17, 2020
Well, give him an ultimatum- either having sex or splitting up. In general, it is not normal not to want sex, especially if it wants. I can't understand the motivation behind such a decision unless it's some fear set by some kind of childhood event.
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sara_luv3 answered · June 17, 2020
I'm in shock
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paulilafay answered · June 18, 2020
I guess it's wrong with the head! Young boy, don't do anything for a year. At least when there's nowhere to go, it's cold for the outdoors, but you can raise some money to rent a room. Yes, it was a week, a month, two, to say there's a personal problem or a family one, but one year ... Get him out of here.
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nix_666 answered · June 18, 2020
Women are mega mega masochists, I'm convinced.
I turn to all the women and men in a relationship, do you miss something, you're limping and you've tried to change it and it's not working, give up, leave, don't endure.
One life we live and let's live it the way we imagined it and wanted to.
M33
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hello_zoe answered · June 19, 2020
Didn't anyone get through his head that the boy could be gay and hide through it? They go out a lot with his friends, just fellatio, I don't know, maybe while you're enjoying him imagining a man? You should have talked about it a long time ago.