Was It A Curse To Describe It?

   I love smart people with a sense of humor and self-irony. On the subject- unfortunately, the heart can not be commanded, a fact.

   Call him, invite him for coffee, see each other, talk. Walking around in the hope of a chance meeting is a great torment. Grab the bull by the horns and act. From what you wrote, you look cool and funny to me. If he is Apollo, you are Artemis. ;)

   I love sensible people. Why don't you sleep in front of his door, you're more likely to meet him someday? You don't like him enough, I think. I would leave a gold ring in your mailbox in your place! :) Ж42

   And why haven't you done anything yet? By what and how do you tell him, does he seem to have sympathy for you? What are you waiting for? You can easily put him in a situation where he can't stand to "catch" you ... your wife, act.

   Qui hearts qui BGN 5 You have nothing in common but she was in love with him. In his blue eyes? Since when do they call him love? The latter was strongly associated with sex. And when I look at it, you have idealized it in your head. So whatever 'substitute' you find for him, he will never be so good. So either you do something about it, or you keep beating your head against the wall and you can't take it off the pedestal you put it on.

   I am a man of 39. I was in your situation at the time. Since I was very tormented by this situation, I decided to act "male" and confessed my feelings to the lady. A deplorable result ... it is not done that way :) The lesson was learned. If you really want to get rid of this "love pain" - do the same. Since you are a woman, the chances are better than those of a man in such a situation. But don't expect much more than physical intimacy ... Unfortunately, you're hardly looking for just that :) Another option - make it so that you consciously stop seeing it ... in a year or two life will take you in another direction and your feelings will fade. Third option - stay on the edge between pleasure and pain ... it's cool, like a drug;)

   Self-irony, they say, is a supreme form of intelligence. You told it in a very intriguing way. You don't say how old you are and how you saw each other, did he look for you, did you look for him. That matters. I was also in your situation, but there were other obstacles between us. For exactly three years I was tormented and we saw each other so by chance, at work, with nothing happening between us except glances, conversations and light touches. He, unlike Number 39, did not dare to act. I revealed myself, it became clear that the obstacles are many and nothing will come out and at least I realized that there is no point in putting time, thoughts and feelings on this person, not because he is not worth it, but because our circumstances are like that. I accepted everything and I fight a lot with myself, but I keep going. My advice is to act if you want to, if you really feel everything, as you described. Find a way, tell him, show him, invite him somewhere, fool him. And look. For the first time in my life, I dared to take the step myself. I was terribly ashamed, but I did it because I was tired of living like this, going to bed and getting up with the thought of this man, constantly passing by his street, hoping to see him. That's why I took a risk. In the end, nothing happened, but I'm not sorry. I would have been more sorry if I hadn't tried. So try, act. Otherwise, how to make things happen. At least you'll be relieved, rest assured. Good luck to walk constantly down his street, hoping to see him. That's why I took a risk. In the end, nothing happened, but I'm not sorry. I would have been more sorry if I hadn't tried. So try, act. Otherwise, how to make things happen. At least you'll be relieved, rest assured. Good luck to walk constantly down his street, hoping to see him. That's why I took a risk. In the end, nothing happened, but I'm not sorry. I would have been more sorry if I hadn't tried. So try, act. Otherwise, how to make things happen. At least you'll be relieved, rest assured. Good luck

   Hello from me! Thank you for your kind words and support! Let me now show myself the less emotional and ironic side. :-) We don't have many complicating factors - no one is married, we don't have children, we are not financially too different from each other, our age difference is average, we are both on the same page - we already want children and a family. Professional relationships connect us, but our careers will not suffer if we get together, our efficiency can even improve. To note that I distinguish sexual from love attraction. At first I thought that I was attracted to him purely physically, but then I realized that he is not exactly the type of man who excites me only with a vision. Apollo is for me, but if it all touched the blue eyes - I can quickly find another carrier. :-) Apart from the physical characteristics that I like, he has a sharp mind, naturally intelligent, quite curious, with very great knowledge in various directions; a little mysterious, a little introverted, but pleasantly talkative; responds to the attitude with an attitude like me. Our differences are not small, as I mentioned. He is a traditionalist and professes many old habits. There was a topic here about how a woman should call her husband's parents "mother and father" - well, if I'm with him, that would be something he would expect to happen. Family holidays - the whole family gathers, there are no tui-onui. Wedding - I do not think just how many people would invite, known and unknown! Household - women's work. A baby does not leave home for 40 days. He believes in superstitions. On the one hand, I like some of his views, but I'm not a traditionalist at all. After we both work equally I don't think that I have to take on all the housework; I don't think it's necessary for people I see for the first and last time to come to my wedding, nor do I consider it so obligatory to see all my cousins ​​on Easter and Christmas. When it comes to family holidays, my family and I haven't been together for a long time. It sounds good to me, but I have childhood memories that show me that the family holidays we got together with friendly families were better than those of relatives. There are things about his beliefs that I would get used to, but also others that I strongly disagree with. And he does not accept another's point of view! I have hardly caught anything that I do not have my own views based on a lot of read information, personal observations and other sources. He is really interested in all kinds of things, which is nice. But from then on, once he has decided that something is as he thinks, there is absolutely nothing in the world to dissuade him. It is good that he does not draw conclusions on a simple basis, but is really informed. But from then on he does not accept other people's points of view, he simply does not accept them. He knows the truth and everyone must abide by it. Being around him to express your own opinion, different from his, involves you in a meaningless debate, because he insists on convincing you of his truth, and yours does not hear it. In five years of acquaintance with him, I remember a few cases in which I managed to persuade him to listen to me, to look through my prism and to understand that through my eyes, something is more correct in relation to his opinion. Another problem for me is his total lack of tolerance for different types of people. He's a racist. Anyway, let's say I accept him, although I'm sorry when someone approaches another person with prejudice. But from then on, I don't consider it normal to play the role of a judge for overweight people; for older parents than usual; for couples with different sexual orientation; for couples with a large age difference; for people who believe in extraterrestrial forces or other religions. I am a broad-minded person, EVERYTHING is completely normal for my environment! I don't like women, but that doesn't mean I will condemn and no longer look at a person with the opposite sexual orientation. Same-sex relationships are not for me, but that doesn't mean they aren't for anyone - if it makes someone else happy, I'll be happy to contact them because they do what they feel and like. I still don't care who professes what religion, if he doesn't make me accept it as my own. I like to connect with people, who follow their views, do what they like and feel good about it. That's why I like the communication with him - he is happy because he follows himself and his understandings. When it comes to starting a family or just maintaining a harmonious relationship, compromises are needed. He is not very inclined to them, let alone at all. I am tolerant, but I am also not particularly inclined to compromise on my part. And we have quite different understandings on various topics, which would be strong obstacles if we cross the line of acquaintance, friendship and / or collegial relations. Given that she has feelings for the boy, I am convinced that I will exceed the level of compromises I have reached so far in order for a relationship to go well, but I am afraid that he will not. And as I wrote above, I respond to the attitude with attitude. If he does not comply with my wishes and understandings, I will have no incentive to continue walking his bagpipe. Apollo is an interesting interlocutor. Our sense of humor is identical, ironic and sarcastic. With him I can talk about politics, discuss another cultural event, ask for advice on an adventurous adventure, share memories and dance all night in a crowded bar. Honestly, if I had no feelings, it was more possible to rush into a relationship with him, because we know how to have fun together. But when there are feelings, there is a desire for something more than making a good living, and in the serious part there are many aggravating things that I am somehow convinced that we will not overcome. Otherwise we see each other every day, without weekends and holidays, at work. We have about half an hour a day to communicate on a free topic - sometimes for business matters, more often for side things. Rarely, but it happens that after work we stay to clarify a conversation that has stopped at no time, and not everyone has said what he thinks. There are no initiators for our meetings - they are necessary. On weekends and weekends, I called him a single time - he never picked me up, I did not insist and I did not ask him why. He called me dozens of times during the weekend, I almost always picked up. And when I couldn't answer the call right away, he carefully researched what caused the delay. He asked me to delete his personal phone number from his phone book, he had given it to me by my boss as the boy had forgotten the office worker, which leads to the idea that our relationship is only collegial in my opinion. It happened that I asked him for a personal favor - to take me somewhere, to buy me something, to do something for me. He always helped, but with a dose of dissatisfaction. Recently, there has been more responsiveness, but still the years in which we contact are increasing and friendships are strengthening. So it's entirely possible that it's not because I like it at all. Our touches are mainly his fault, when I feel that the butterflies have fluttered, I pull away more noticeably, but he prefers to sit next to each other, to pinch my arm as we pass each other and to come at arm's length, for to talk at work. And as for the finale - neither I am his type, nor he is mine on pure physical grounds. Judging by my exes and his girlfriends I've seen. But we are very similar in face and a woman does not stop teasing us, that we had to have a baby because it would be very beautiful no matter whose genes it took. Which we both laugh at and claim that there is no ugly baby. But no one told her that she was crazy and that there was no chance of it happening, so I know ... maybe he is deterred by some other factors, not because of lack of attraction and feelings. :-)