Virginity-Cemberli69

   It is not true that the longer you wait the more it will hurt. At least with each person it is different :). You have not missed anything for everything there is a first time you will come across a person and things will happen when the time comes. you only do it because your peers did it

   It will not repel them. How can you think such nonsense? I would be repulsed by one who has been with many men.

   I didn't do it until I was 31. There was nothing special. And I wouldn't mind being with a nursery.

   If someone is turned away from you because of your virginity, it will be because they are afraid that you will want a serious relationship, and he just wants to fuck you. Virginity is not repulsive. It is your choice whether to give it to a person who cares about you or just to some mold.

   Let me tell you, it's not scary that you're 20 and you haven't had sex. It is frightening that from 6th grade they start drinking, smoking and having sex. (I myself have come across such situations and seen them.) This is frightening. You will find the right person just looking for him. It's good that you didn't have sex at 14. You have to feel ok and then fuck (sorry). But don't wait too long not to write at 30 and still a virgin.

   Listen to me well. Please wholeheartedly shake off this fear that you will repel someone because you are a virgin. I understand the fear, but I think it's super beautiful, actually. I have experience on the case. I met a wonderful girl I fell in love with and we started sharing more and more. At one point we started to conceive the sexual topic, there was a spark. And she told me with obvious shame even during the chat that she is a virgin and has almost zero experience with any intimacy. So she washed me and made me a little sad, telling me that she wanted to get rid of it, to finish it, so that she would no longer have the "shameful" virgin status. Quickly with anyone, just to feel "normal". at 19, if it matters. I didn't immediately tell her what I thought about the topic and asked her further if she wanted to be romantic and wonderful the first time. At first she pretended not to believe in these things, but she quickly admitted that she wanted to, but she gave up the idea because it was only "for a movie" and after I asked her she shared her dreams for the first time. I am so sorry that such a beautiful, tender, innocent man lives with a burning shame of something that is so normal and wonderful. I also said that only frivolous people would withdraw because she has no experience and is a virgin and that there are some men for whom we would be honored and very happy, a dream come true even for some to be with such a girl, to share this so deeply special moment which is never erased from consciousness, right with us. Not only do we not find it repulsive, it is wonderful. No dramas with exes, no stories that leave you images of your girl with other people and the pure happiness of teaching someone, to experience for the second time the indescribably special experience of rediscovering yourself and your sexuality, of learning with your body and how to give pleasure to yourself and your loved one. Every step, every first time with everything new experienced with you. Repulsive? A dream! Before her I was always with girls who had a past and you always want or do not learn stories from their experience and you should know that someone else will always remember when thinking about their first time, there are images and descriptions, comparisons ... I reassured her that serious boys / men would not confuse them (I was talking about myself, of course) and they would be happy to patiently, step by step go through these so special steps again, this time with her and for these people it would be an honor to stay as her first time. In time we got closer and left, she came to me and I did my best to recreate the setting and the details she described to her dream for the first time. I hope that I have regained the faith that it makes sense to believe in these things and that I have helped her experience her first times with most things in particular, as it should be and to discover her sexual side and satisfaction from it. I never want you to have to worry about that because you don't deserve it. There is NOTHING repulsive in you and your level of experience and the right person will see it. Do not rush and do not be ashamed - you will make someone very happy, and he will make you confident and step by step more and more experienced with wonderful memories from the first times in everything. I don't think that's true of the hymen, let alone that it doesn't have to break and doesn't always do it at all. As for the pain - it does not have to be there and it is often small enough to be ignored against the background of the wonderful, special moment with a loved one, if done normally, slowly and patiently, with care, of course, as I hope it happens to you! Success without shame and embarrassment! You are a completely normal, beautiful girl and being a virgin will make you and someone incredibly lucky very happy on the way to new experiences and shared moments!

   At 20 it is normal for them to deflower, at 25 it makes them think a little, at 30 it is a little scary, from there upwards it is more and more difficult to find worries. After 50, if there are still virgins left, they must pierce them with a kango.

   Bullshit ! We even enjoy when the girl is a virgin!

   Did you have a boyfriend?

   It depends on the boy and how much he likes you. So, if he's a scumbag, or a superficial type, he'll definitely be repulsed, yes. If he is someone who is not superficial, and also someone who likes you very much, he will have no problem. He may even be happy. And looking at it, what is it for you to do it with someone who doesn't like you enough, or is not serious? So don't worry. The fact that many children, with an apology, fuck at 13 like gypsies is their problem.

   I express exactly the same opinion as number 10!

   My last boyfriend dumped me with the words "Didn't you understand that it was just to open me. I just used you, understand. You're old and ugly, I even wonder who would go with you" (She was much younger than me) ... And I even thought of marrying her, because we slept in the same bed for 2 years and ate at the same table. We traveled half the world. What things have we not gone through together that ordinary couples do not experience. I thought: here ... I finally met her, a woman to take a nap for me. It turned out that she played theater for me for 2 years until she found someone else. Now, when I read the topic to you, I am also sad. One is the fact that someone has filled your head with nonsense, that having a hymen is not normal (most likely your classmates) and secondly, that you are also a potential user, because you just went with the attitude to catch anyone. .. . Eh, where is this world going ...

   It is not true that the later the more it hurts, on the contrary. The longer you wait, the less likely it is to hurt, because as a result of a sport, the skin may tear or expand. I did it late - at 25 and I was not in pain and there was no blood. And my boyfriend is happy that I'm a virgin and said that because I was just his he loves me even more, so you have nothing to worry about.

   I was a virgin until I was 24 years old. Then I had a decent boy and I decided it was time. But I was scared, like you. I took a friend's advice. Let's start at the back, and when I get aroused, he should change the condom and go in the front. That's what I did. It's just that we stayed behind because I was scared again. And only the third time was the combination of back and front. I was completely relaxed already and it hurt a little, but there was a lot of blood. Try it.

   No, it's not true that it will hurt you more. Now relax and read slowly. You are a normal 20-year-old woman - you are young, you have dreams and beautiful ideas, you are healthy and the only thing you have not been able to do is find a man who is responsible, dedicated, good and can trust him. Virginity is not a disease, it is not a cause for shame. You didn't manage to come across a literate man. Great job, it's happening. Would it be better to sleep with someone random, whose only desire would be to push you and scream? Not every woman can find a beautiful 17-year-old prince, and there are many who have lost their virginity with a not very careful man who has not held on to them in any way. You are not afraid to have sex and you do not live in a rosy image, it is enough for me to tell you that you will meet a normal man,

   Number 8, it restored my faith in men. I am really glad that there are people like you and I hope you have a woman next to you who deserves you. F, 22

   Only k. they look at others as virgins and laugh at them because they are not like them. Most girls have a lot of pieces. They used to get married and then they had a sex life. The woman was pure, in my opinion, people who see it as something shameful are mistaken without values. Many do it not to be left behind, as if they will miss something big. Sex is not done with everyone, but with people with serious intentions. Going to bed with anyone I liked is ugly and ....

   Until 16. That this is a dream situation was. You have anal sex until the wedding and then you are pure before God.

   First of all, darling, you should know that virginity is a social construct. Don't feel obligated just because your girlfriends are no longer virgins. Also, the virgin "zipper" is not a zipper, but rather resembles an elastic band that shrinks and stretches, rather than a "barrier". :)

   The first time it usually hurts, but it's not scary and you don't die from it. It is experienced, it is part of our biology after all. :) You have to overcome this fear, because it already brings with it other, psychological problems. Because of him, you did not dare to take the next step and now you are worried about your virginity. I understand you completely. The truth is that this can hinder the potential of some of your potential relationships. You will worry one of the pain, the other of telling the man about your virginity and how he will react, and you are very ashamed. You will begin to have great demands on who the Man is and you can spend so many more years. I don't know what temperament you are, but there are many similar cases among young people and I was one of them. My example: Because of these fears, I have rejected suitors over the years, I didn't get the experience of my peers, I got more complex from my virginity, I regretted not getting rid of it when I was a teenager, I avoided the sexual topics of talking to friends, etc. At one point I stopped wondering who the person would be and how much it would hurt, as long as I finished with it. (Another) opportunity opened up for me and this time I used it - the man was good, it was obvious that he liked me sincerely, and he was leaving in a week. I didn't even tell him he was my first. It was obvious that I had no experience (unlike him), but he never understood, we repeated several times in the following days. So I got rid of the burden of virginity after 20 years and I was no longer ashamed, I relaxed and intimacy stopped scaring me. This allowed me to have a few full-fledged relationships and learn more about my preferences - I'm not just talking about sex at all. I am with the Man at the moment. At one of our first meetings in the context of the conversation, he said something like, "We're big now, no one is a virgin" ... and many times I think that if I was still then, it would scare me to I revealed the truth to him, and in order not to reach such a moment, I would run away with 300. Because of this fear, I would miss the opportunity to have this relationship. So do not delay too long and when you meet a reliable person (in your words), do not be afraid of pain. It is not right to give too much importance to virginity. It was looked at in times when there were no contraceptives. Virginity was the proof that when they take the bride, she does not bear the fruit of another in her womb.

   Most men will have absolutely no problem with this, and may even take it as a bonus. A friend of mine had a complex of this, after a few years of wandering what to do - she went to a disco, caught the first one who paid attention to her and slept with him. That was about 2 years ago, she hasn't been with anyone since, and she hasn't heard a word from this one. She is very sorry for what she did and it didn't help her and she didn't like it at all, although she was lucky that the boy was very careful and caring. I can't make it clearer from this example, I draw my own conclusions. Good luck!

   More than half are virgins at 20, several chicks told me. You just did it with a literate man. Someone over 25.

   To number 9: You're talking nonsense!