Unexpected Separation

   Quite simple! He met another who is "the best thing in his life"! He put you in the column: "read newspaper", and her - in "top secret". What to do? Get used to it!

   Is he in the military? !! Run away !!! The fame of the military is not recent, they are great women, precisely because they are still somewhere far from their families. They diversify, with people like you. No wonder if he is married or with a child, and the "best" case is seriously tied.

   From the author: I know his closest people, as well as mine. People we've known since we were kids. We became something like a larger joint company. He is definitely not married with a child, but I don't think he has found another. I found out that he hasn't talked to almost any of his friends lately, he's busy and has some problems with the military institution he works for. I just don't know what to do.

   There is nothing you can do for now. If he told you he didn't want a relationship, then he didn't. Beauty cannot be forced.

   If he has problems at work, it is probably easier for him to cope in this way so that he is not burdened by the fact that you are not close to each other. Ask him what the problem is and how long it will take, consider if you can / want to wait for him and tell him that. If he still wants you to be together, he will be happy for your understanding and support.

   I think you have to accept separation, because otherwise you will continue to harass yourself with these issues. She doesn't have to have another to not want to be with you. Sometimes there is simply no chemistry to a certain person and his closeness begins to weigh, to feel like an unwanted and forced presence. He may feel that way about you. There is nothing personal in this regard. He probably understands that you are beautiful, appreciates all your virtues, maybe he is considered a fool to repel a person like you, but he has no choice - that's how he feels, and this is not controlled or subject to logical explanation. That is why you are not looking for a logical reason, but respect his choice. You need two for love. Keep going to your real partner and leave this boy.

   Many thanks to everyone for the answers. We made contact with him and it turned out that he had serious problems in which he did not want to interfere and to protect me, but to protect himself, it is better not to be together.

   Author: At the beginning you say that you rejected him because you soon broke up with your friend and at the same time you were dealing with another boy. How to understand it, I quote: "I had broken up with my former boyfriend and I was not ready yet. We did not maintain any contact for several months. During that time he had a girlfriend, whom I found out later, I also did something else. boy. But nothing serious. "Supposedly you weren't ready for a serious relationship, but for sex with someone you don't feel anything for - NO PROBLEMS. Come on, it doesn't matter. Let me ask you, how are things in sex. And don't see if you're happy with it, vice versa. Do you think he is happy too. I say this not because of anything else, but because many of the problems start there. It's one thing that you're at a distance, but even if sex is zero, what's left to connect you then. There may have been a thrill at first, but for example, your "refusals" about this or that have repelled him. For example, he asked for fellatio, but you withdrew and this happens regularly. I'm just wondering!

   №8, the author wrote a comment that they had established contact with the boy and he told her that he had some serious problems at work. And for what you asked her, about having sex with another boy. She did not tell us what their relationship was like. There may not have been sex there at all.

   Author: We talked, clarified some things and decided that it was better to separate. This is not the right time for him to be in a relationship. We will maintain some kind of relationship and maybe in time we will try again.