Hello, I have had a problem for some time, which worries me a lot and interferes with my normal lifestyle. The story is this I have a friend for almost 4 years in the beginning everything was great, but gradually things changed on my part .. I have very strong feelings for a person with whom our relationship was only sexual for several years. Ever since I stopped feeling the thrill of my current boyfriend, I've been constantly thinking about the other, every song, every love movie, everything reminds me of him, when I go out with friends to drink, I want to look for him. At one point I cheated on my friend with him and told him he was very angry but forgave me, since then I think even more about him. He's not who knows what, he's not good in bed, but I just can't get it out of my head, from time to time he remembers me, he writes to me, when he's drunk he wants to see me, but everything stops there, we see each other in 4 5 months we do it and we seem to forget but it doesn't work, someone is always looking for the other. I have the feeling that I will never forget it and I want to ask how to act. Every time I am with him I am very happy and the next day I die of grief due to a guilty conscience. I don't want advice like tell him you love him and get together because I told him and he obviously doesn't want a serious relationship. Tell me why I can't forget him, why I cheat when I love my friend, why I connect everything with him ? How can I stay alone and wait for him to ask for a serious relationship or not take a risk? I don't know what to do and I am constantly tormented. Every time I am with him I am very happy and the next day I die of grief due to a guilty conscience. I don't want advice like tell him you love him and get together because I told him and he obviously doesn't want a serious relationship. Tell me why I can't forget him, why I cheat when I love my friend, why I connect everything with him ?? How can I stay alone and wait for him to ask for a serious relationship or not take a risk? I don't know what to do and I am constantly tormented. Every time I am with him I am very happy and the next day I die of grief due to a guilty conscience. I don't want advice like tell him you love him and get together because I told him and he obviously doesn't want a serious relationship. Tell me why I can't forget him, why I cheat when I love my friend, why I connect everything with him ?? How can I stay alone and wait for him to ask for a serious relationship or not take a risk? I don't know what to do and I am constantly tormented. why do i associate everything with it ?? How can I stay alone and wait for him to ask for a serious relationship or not take a risk? I don't know what to do and I am constantly tormented. why do i associate everything with it ?? How can I stay alone and wait for him to ask for a serious relationship or not take a risk? I don't know what to do and I am constantly tormented.
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You don't have the meaning of the word Love at all !!! You still have no idea what you want, he was supposed to be in bed, but he was just thinking !!!
"He's not who knows what, he's not good in bed, but I just can't get him out of my head, ..." I guess he's good at drinking, it's probably an important part of your life. You only had sex, but how do you have sex, a woman without feelings? Now that you're constantly thinking about him, why are you having sex to get attention? I can't offer you anything, maybe a psychologist can explain your behavior. And to the right boy, I wish to get rid of you!
You don't mention how old you are. Drop your current friend and let him find another one, because in this case he is aware that he stayed with you, despite the infidelity. It's stupid for a person to trust you, and for you to think only about how to fuck with the other. You say yourself that he doesn't want anything serious, but you still risk losing what you have! )) He has forgiven you and instead of being by his side and trying to restore his trust, you are thinking how to cheat again. Victor 420
The other one you don't stop thinking about - you don't love him, you deceive yourself. This is not love. Call it whatever you want .... passion, thrill ... just not love. Rather, it is a kind of stubbornness, hurt pride, selfishness on your part, a desire to want you the way you do ... a desire to think about you, to want only you .. to prove that you are .. more from someone else ... And the fact that he doesn't show such interest in you ... makes you think about him .. makes you want to be able to change things .. about that and when he calls you, you go .. thinking that he finally missed you too ... this is a vicious circle from which, if you really want to get out, you have to learn to say - no, when he thinks of you and calls you.
Infidelity is a big stone of the heart. Your boyfriend should NOT have forgiven you, in time these stones will weigh down and when they start tossing they will hurt even more. When he doesn't end the relationship, you do.
If you want, continue with both, but be discreet. I've been in the same situation twice, don't give up sex, but don't get involved in two serious relationships, it's getting complicated!
"with whom our relationship has only been sexual for a few years" ... "He is not who knows what, he is not good in bed" ..., can you explain that to me? You will maintain only sexual / you write that then you did not have feelings / relationships for years, with a person who is not good at sex :-) A person is either with someone with whom he has feelings or if it is because of sex, then you are usually looking for a partner who will satisfy you - as long as it is only for sex. He hadn't gotten up, and you'd been with him for years. The other option is, you just didn't have any candidates and this one, no matter how shoddy, is still something!
Oh-oh-oh, how I wish I had one like you - to fuck it when I want and then to throw it away for as much as I like. And all this behind my wife's back ... And all at her expense. I just snap my fingers and melt the pepper. Won't you leave something on the phone? Well, I'm doing pretty well in bed, unlike the one where you got drunk.
Your lover has taken your mind, you don't love him because he won't let you. You compare it to the current one because that's what people do when they have two toys in their hands. You love neither. And you are with the second one because of the thrill, the attention and the main thing - he wants you, but the downside is that he plays with you, knows about your relationship and has fun with you, but without committing. The man is having fun, but you can't seem to have sex without feelings.