Trust And Privacy

   Hey, you didn't stop rummaging in each other's personal space. Won't you learn that there is no such thing as We in the way the pink novels dictate to you? As soon as he said "half" and it became clear to me about your way of thinking. The fact that he edited the answers to your questions was a result of those same questions. A man with self-confidence is not interested in his boyfriend's previous life, but accepts the challenge to make him forget this previous life. Digging into the phone is like reading someone else's letters, very unethical and, if we look at the law, criminal. He can write to anyone he wants, as long as he hasn't done anything to make it happen, you can't ask him for an account. If my babe comes with questions about what is written on my phone, I will change her first, and then the phone. And it will be for nothing, because there he will find nothing,

   Apparently the person is still young or wants more. I have no such problems.

   I'm just sharing - I'm asking about a friend! hahaha

   Imagine it that way - otherwise you wouldn't know how he was lying to you at all if she hadn't read it, right? Yours simply declares himself free, that is, he does not respect you.

   The very fact that she flirts with ex-boyfriends clearly shows that she can't be a "perfect relationship and a great partner." He may be like that for you, but you for him - obviously not. I have been on both sides and I can tell you - this is not your man.

   You don't say how long you've been together, but if it's just about writing, it's not that bad. Some people just need to scratch their ego, that various chicks have not forgotten them, that they still think about them and are curled up, and they play it inaccessible beauties. If your friend is only in this phase, ok. And as you correctly noticed, you can't say how you know without revealing that you read other people's chats, which is not quite ok, even though they are boyfriends. However, open your eyes to real signs of infidelity - frequent delays, calls at any time, a change in attitude, etc. Then you can start a serious conversation.

   It is not right to ask about past or present things. Man is what he is. And he acts as he sees fit. Point. If you don't like something - leave without explaining where and how, and what you know. Everyone is looking for the best for themselves. Success!

   Let's say you don't have a perfect relationship and a great partner ... so for starters ...;) Bro.

   Do not tell him in any case, rather draw conclusions about how seriously he looks at your relationship. Apparently the boy is too young yet and has not made a living.

   Eventually you will find out that she sleeps with others ... Find a new chick before you cross the border. He obviously doesn't really respect you, so .. Either learn to be "on the road" or the road ..

   This connection is over. I know that my opinion is final, but after a while we can talk again ... The person next to you is not worth five bucks and has no integrity. Your connection does not pass the "phone test". There is no connection that does not pass such a test and has not broken down over time. I'm sorry to tell you, but it's true.

   Here is nothing perfect and great, it will be painful to overwinter from this fact

   Hahaaa, who came up with this convenient name, I call it personal hypocrisy :)

   I am also tormented by this case. We have a neighbor with whom my husband has been friends since he met me. That's how I accepted her - Lily, my husband's friend. A sweet girl with a difficult fate, an orphan, raising her own child, it is normal for my husband to help her, I am also responsive to her, I like her. Yes, sometimes I don't like that my husband gets up from the dinner table and runs, that Lily has to change her fuse or we postpone a trip because Lily wants to buy a refrigerator and he has to go with her, but. .. then I also needed friends. He does all the repair work for them. Half of my furniture is with Lily's because she doesn't have a mixer, she needs a meat grinder and then she forgets to return them. Lily robs the fruits in the yard to make compotes and jam. And I say to myself, we are neighbors, we have to help each other. I was also disappointed when I was planning a romantic candlelight dinner and my husband arrived with Lily, but ... well, he met her, he knows I made something delicious, he invited her. He takes her home from work every day, and I I return by minibus, but it's still on its way ... I thought so. Until one day, while he was in a hurry to work, my husband had dropped his laptop and had an open chat with Lily. I was worried that the girl might have a problem again and I peeked. What I read made me cry. No, they don't have sex! They really don't have sex! But he never treated me like that, he never called me by that name - "darling", "darling", "beloved", "you know I'm always by your side". I also read "don't pay attention to my wife", "tonight mine will make steaks, come", " Which sharpens his ambitions even more and he runs like crazy to perform her tasks. The most insulting thing to me was that when I was lying sick with a temperature of 40 degrees, he went to look around the city for some special lotion, because Lily a pimple appeared on his forehead. And I was burning and I didn't have any medicine to help myself. What should I do now? Formally, there is no infidelity here. They really don't have sex. But tell me, people, what is the greater betrayal - for my husband to fuck someone for one night or for years to put the needs of another woman before mine? And more: how can I even raise the issue, given that I really entered his personal space? And is it worth doing? What to say? Stop helping Lily? Don't eat mish-mash at Lily's? Don't invite Lily over? All this would really make me annoying, which does not allow her husband to have friends. And do I feel guilty for reading their correspondence? Look, I'm a professional journalist. When I need information, I check all possible sources to find the truth and introduce it to the reader. The reader in question has never reproached me for digging through anything to extract the facts that are important to him and that largely determine his life. So to the author's question - we all have a right to information that concerns our future. Another question is how we will handle it. My decision is to keep quiet and pretend I don't notice anything. The moment my interests begin to be drastically neglected, I will simply divorce without giving any explanations. that I read their correspondence? Look, I'm a professional journalist. When I need information, I check all possible sources to find the truth and introduce it to the reader. The reader in question has never reproached me for digging through anything in order to extract the facts that are important to him and that largely determine his life. So to the author's question - we all have a right to information that concerns our future. Another question is how we will handle it. My decision is to keep quiet and pretend I don't notice anything. The moment my interests begin to be drastically neglected, I will simply divorce without giving any explanations. that I read their correspondence? Look, I'm a professional journalist. When I need information, I check all possible sources to find the truth and introduce it to the reader. The reader in question has never reproached me for digging through anything in order to extract the facts that are important to him and that largely determine his life. So to the author's question - we all have a right to information that concerns our future. Another question is how we will handle it. My decision is to keep quiet and pretend I don't notice anything. The moment my interests begin to be drastically neglected, I will simply divorce without giving any explanations. to find the truth and acquaint the reader with it. The reader in question has never reproached me for digging through anything to extract the facts that are important to him and that largely determine his life. So to the author's question - we all have a right to information that concerns our future. Another question is how we will handle it. My decision is to keep quiet and pretend I don't notice anything. The moment my interests begin to be drastically neglected, I will simply divorce without giving any explanations. to find the truth and acquaint the reader with it. The reader in question has never reproached me for digging through anything to extract the facts that are important to him and that largely determine his life. So to the author's question - we all have a right to information that concerns our future. Another question is how we will handle it. My decision is to keep quiet and pretend I don't notice anything. The moment my interests begin to be drastically neglected, I will simply divorce without giving any explanations. My decision is to keep quiet and pretend I don't notice anything. The moment my interests begin to be drastically neglected, I will simply divorce without giving any explanations. My decision is to keep quiet and pretend I don't notice anything. The moment my interests begin to be drastically neglected, I will simply divorce without giving any explanations.

   You don't have to dig into his phone, these things are felt. He doesn't stop them. And digging into the past is pointless. Answers to questions, why? The problem is not the past, but the present, and when you have problems and 2 children, your relationship is clear. Think very carefully where you are wrong and what is the limit of the relationship with the opposite sex.

   This behavior is highly misleading and false. There is no trust here, there is a way to pamper your self-confidence, but on the back of the author. Run away from such relationships while it's time !!!!

   For me, such a thing as "personal space" in a relationship does not exist. I have never hidden my phones, Facebook, mail, etc. Some time ago I had a relationship in which the other party did not even let you touch her phone. Of course, later it turned out that there was a reason. I know other people who proceed in a similar way. The reason is the same for all of them. If we're going to hide our phones, what's the point of wasting time with each other at all!

   15, you have allowed a third person to settle permanently in your life, even if it obsesses him. And yes, having sex is not the worst thing, as you rightly noticed. It's a help, a help, but yours goes to extremes. Don't you go on vacation because Lily's fridge is broken? I think that's more. There are repair companies, there are also online purchases, if she needs a new one, they will bring it to her feet, she only needs to plug in. I don't know what a drastic violation of interests is for you, but paying for electricity (not a loan), neglecting your health, giving up a vacation because of Lilito is like that for me. It's best to send him to Lily to play the patron saint of the weak, and you'll find a man without such girlfriends

   To number 15! Your husband just had to shut down the computer before he left! It's like me leaving the closet door open on the landing and leaving! And there we have valuable things - a barrel with a 3 kW nozzle from an old boiler, parts and other things! For nothing in the world would I allow a stranger to dig there, or take anything! Because we need these things! This is a personal space - only I unlock and lock it! It's the same with electronics - what's in it is none of your business except your husband's! It's just not right! And because you can be very disappointed with the truth there! That's why he didn't clarify them - don't worry! This is from me!

   To the author: How long have you been together? Do you live together? And what does "supposedly know about me" mean, if you've been together for a long time, don't you have a common photo on any of the social networks? Strange, if you don't have an obvious problem. Apparently he doesn't want to show up with you, so it's not so sure how long you've been together ... you don't share a boy or a girl, but talk to him / her if you don't have photos together, why is that .. advice ..

   Ask to move to an apartment away from Lily, so the daily contacts will stop and he will have to choose one of you. And who it will be, will be understood. In both cases, however, you win. Or union with a faithful, or separation from an unfaithful husband!

   Soon there was a similar story about a traveler - a servant of the neighbor and his wife with infinite patience. Whether it is true or not, what is written in the two topics overlaps, I do not know. But I found it funny, what personal spaces do you keep and hide from people you let enter / enter / into your genitals and / or anuses? Who do you live with and share your food and beds with? This means that you have something to hide from them, you move aside and deceive them.

   I follow the story with Lily with interest :)

   to 19 How come there is no personal space !? Let me give you a list of my properties, bank accounts and statements of my salary, court correspondence, because you are my boyfriend !? Today is you, tomorrow is another ... The phone is a personal space everywhere, it just brings it out to insecure women. You've stuck your nose where it doesn't work and now you're wondering how to blur the situation. If she had the audacity to violate ethics, to be strong enough to admit it and give it and bear the consequences, but I don't believe it will happen. Women are masters of double standards, but always to their advantage. What if she found out he was committing a crime, would you run to the police?

   Number 25, it doesn't have much to watch. This has been the case for years. You have sprained your legs - he is running. She quarreled with her brother - he went to reconcile them. Hey, I've been asking this guy all summer to buy me a watermelon, it's too hard to carry. They are sold in piles along the road, which you drive home every day. How come one time, while Lily was driving, she didn't think to stop and put one in the trunk? !! We will see how the winter will be. In the summer we live in a house very close to Sofia, but during the cold months we are in the apartment in the city. If he goes to the village in question every other day to change Lily's light bulbs, it will be an additional expense. He says: but she has no one. Well, if you're not there, find a boy and be happy. She is 28 years old, a young, beautiful woman. I don't know what kind of rural insolence it is to stick like a decals to someone's husband? Whether it's a lack of culture or just a trick - I have no answer to that question. And I sometimes ask for favors from my girlfriends' husbands, but I contact them - my girlfriends - and say: ask your husband if he can look at my computer, for example. But this is once a year. And here is everyday life. This chick has never approached me personally. If she needs anything from my house, she calls him, he calls me and says, "Lily's going to give her a pressure cooker in a little while." Isn't it more natural to ask the hostess if she has a pot? But this is once a year. And here is everyday life. This chick has never approached me personally. If she needs anything from my house, she calls him, he calls me and says, "Lily's going to give her a pressure cooker in a little while." Isn't it more natural to ask the hostess if she has a pot? But this is once a year. And here is everyday life. This chick has never approached me personally. If she needs anything from my house, she calls him, he calls me and says, "Lily's going to give her a pressure cooker in a little while." Isn't it more natural to ask the hostess if she has a pot?

   15, Why don't you invent a Lilcho? Enroll in some sport, dance, join a group for hiking in the mountains, a literary club, go to various facials, manicures, massages, or something similar. Don't be the annoying woman who provides comfort, pampers yourself, does things for yourself, don't be available forever. Tell him that you have befriended someone, that you have not met such an intelligent person for a long time, that your communication is a real pleasure, that you are something like a soulmate, that you cannot talk. You will both have fun and look good, you will rub his nose, you will make him think about how you feel in the situation with his friend, you will actually meet new people and raise your self-confidence. You are a cool wife, you deserve a lot, a lot of love!

   It turns out that nowadays you can put someone in your pants, but not in your phone.

   I knew one who claimed that there was no personal space in a relationship and I had to give my boyfriend a phone to watch at will. At the same time, his was locked with a fingerprint, and what he was doing behind his wife's back is not for talk. You need some balance. Even in a relationship, you remain an individual and are entitled to some space of your own. The point is, many people use this to cover up their wrongdoing. In the above case, this man wanted to make sure that they did not turn them behind his back as he did. Look now. If I decide to do something, there are thousands of ways to cover it up and make nothing appear on the phone. Chats are rubbed, hidden, contacts are muted, blocked. But those who are caught in the act and scream that someone has violated their privacy are the funniest to me. Of course, it is a brazen manipulation to shift the focus from their guilt. And if you got there to dig and read to check it ... So either the relationship is very lame or you.

   Because of the interest in Lily. Last night my husband and I were invited to a friendly meeting at my former classmate's. I promised to go earlier to help with the salads and the table setting in general. My husband has known this for weeks. It's raining outside. I'm waiting for him at home to pick me up by car. He's not in. It was almost 8 o'clock. People started calling to see if I would come at all. He showed up at 9. Why? Lily quarreled with her boyfriend and they had to talk. He took her to a cafe to cry on his shoulder. Then they looked for some hair brushes for Lily, and finally he left Lily at home and came to pick me up. Then he ate happily at my friends' party, drank steadily, and we went home. This morning he started again with how much he "loves" me.

   # 19, what I wrote became interesting to me because I recognized myself in it. I had such a situation a few years ago. We liked each other and almost from the first day he was very tired of looking at my phone. And I was in love, I shared with my friends about him and accordingly I was super uncomfortable watching my chats. That's why I didn't let him touch my phone, and he obviously didn't trust me at all, and instead of talking to me and asking me this and that, he seemed to think that reading chats with other people would give him more. accurate idea of ​​things. The funny thing is that for the few years we had some kind of "relationship" (which I can't call a relationship in any way) I still couldn't look at another man and it took me a while after it was all over to go to bed with another . Otherwise I agree that in a relationship there is nothing so much to hide your phones and accounts. But there is another extreme, when you enter the other's space too early, when you obsess over him, when you are too busy to follow his conversations with others instead of getting to know him. And this is a sign of severe intimacy problems. In order for a relationship to have a chance, you still have to approach it with some confidence, otherwise you will just get a distorted idea, refracted through your prism polluted by previous disappointments, and you will never realize that you have missed something different.

   Next to his wife and Lilito - what are you doing, show her the door at the end. He wonders behind your back how to get into her pants, you tolerate him. Kick her in the ass and go to Lily, to see how he will get bored in the 3rd month!

   You don't realize that having a relationship with someone doesn't mean you have one. I never cared what was in my partner's phone, it's a pity to dig into personal things. Keep in mind that even if you follow him, if he wants to do something, your banging or disapproval will not stop him. And if you have a satisfactory relationship, he will do nothing, even if he gets the chance. With this jealousy, you ruin your relationship. To me, if my wife starts looking for an account of why I wrote to myself, I'm leaving directly with an ex-girlfriend. Then if he wants to plow the neighborhood.

   № 35 it is obvious that you do not care about your wife. Get her straight out of you, because she hardly knows what she wrote here. T. is putting your relationships with some outsiders as a priority.

   @ 36 Your ideas of what it's like to hold on to someone are so distorted that the moment you don't like something, you start holding on to that person. Holding on to someone is a two-way attitude, and depriving yourself of personal space so that someone / some insecure / insecure complexion feels calmer is disrespectful to yourself. It's one thing to watch the person next to you if he has given you cause for suspicion, it's another to rummage through his phone just because you're together.

   To the wife with Lilito - is there any news on the subject?