I don't understand why anyone should bother me. When someone doesn't call because of their stuff, I'm OK, I don't say anything, I don't want an explanation, but when it's the other way around, it starts. They call me 100 times, ask me to explain why I don't call, why... One of them is used to just coming when she's enjoying it. I wonder if I'm going crazy. It annoys me when someone calls one after the other times without being urgent. Why? I'il see someone's been looking for me, and I'il call you back. I usually return calls. The other one says, I'm looking for you, you don't call. I just opened my phone and showed her that I called her last and that she didn't even give me back the call, but I'm not saying anything. I think there are rules and boundaries in everything and I try to follow them. I'm sick of being into this guy, too. They're coming home for lunch, they're gone at 8:00. I love contact with people, guests, but these things come to me a lot. I've been talking to a friend of mine for about 30 minutes. I want to end the phone call. And she tells me, is what you're going to do now, why are you in a hurry? Well, I don't want to talk anymore, I have duties. I don't know, I'm probably wrong somewhere. I'm discreet, I don't ask personal questions, I comply, and I often get asked some super personal things that ultimately don't concern my friendship with someone. Sometimes they tell me things like that, that I feel a lot of pressure from some of their problems and dramas. I want to go out somewhere, have a laugh to talk about things in common, and everyone can go out there and walk away. No, it's not working. The last time one of the outings blew my head for her problem at the root of which is a way of life, weight, etc. Well, stop it, the doctor clearly explained it to you, you don't understand it, and you get out the negativity and sloppiness in your relationship with others.
I don't think you're friends. A friend is someone you have a good time with. A guy who strains you or keeps you in your care, deals with things you don't care about and annoys you, is not your friend. Very often there is malice and envy between friends. I'm feeling it right now in my friend's attitude to my new man. She's unhappy with hers, but they don't split up, I broke up with mine, I met someone I'm happy with, and she keeps looking for a reason to spit on him. He even tried to get me to abort his child, which he so desires. And I was worried about telling her I was pregnant because I know her reaction. She took the news about the baby quite badly, she said she was going to take me to the hospital to have an abortion, even though I told her that the child was quite desirable, she was adamant it was a mistake. If my husband finds out, he'il hate her.
The time has come, yes. I've had a lot of cases like this. From talking between girlfriends at the table like I'm not here, through a trash can, abandoning a moment of loss of a loved one, swindled spiteful remarks in order to kiss me in front of strangers. With different people. My mistake was that I didn't give meaning in time. I thought I should be neglecting these things, and i don't think that's in all friendships. I've erased these people from my life, and I'm glad. Now I'm in the process of ending up with three more friendships. I don't regret it. I want to have in my life people who won't be happy if I feel sick and won't be mean when I'm happy. With women, the situation is very complicated, she must be a good person at heart, so as not to infuse at a difficult time. I'm not surprised when I see another betrayal. I'm not into mean games, revenge, etc.
Yours is nothing. I absolutely do not believe in female friendship, after my best friendate and drank at my table, and behind my back secretly my husband. I thought this kind of thing only happens on tv shows. Alas. I don't need girlfriends.
Number one. You're right! Be just more direct- I've got assignments and bye.
But please, you're middle-aged, and you write "don't know," for God's sake, at least we were taught to write correctly at a time...
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You have a toxic relationship with your own mind! Your girlfriend is touched by your condition, you're taking her out of the way. You don't deserve any attention!
I think people who don't take into account our personal needs for space, time and position are not a very big waste.
I do not like to share problems at all, especially since usually the solution I know it and to hear it from someone else as obviously, it is not very helpful to me. I mean, if I feel I don't want advice, but sympathy and approval, I'm going to take the sharing. Why would I go back to the bad moment and retell it and relive it over and over again? Instead, I want to look ahead and think about how to make it better. And when I talk about what I'm glad I'm going to start a course on something, sport, something... I'm accused of suppressing something in myself, running away from the problem and being told how I need to share to make it any better for me.
Well, you're a mistake, you're a man, you don't know better than I do how it's going to make me feel better. Behold, I even tell you how it is, and you still deny my desires. I think it'il make you feel better if you hear my pain. The last one for me, or for you is this sharing? It's... Big Aussies full of gas in one word butts and no loss.
A good friend respects your desires and keeps your energy high, after the meeting you should feel better, not even lower than big ass, who doesn't have this problem, and so he thinks he's stepped on the pedestal from which to explain what, how you should do.
6, number one. I'il thank you for your remark.
Author, you are the one who has not drawn clear boundaries of her personal space, and such must be respected in the closest friendship. A while ago, a friend's family had a misfortune. Her husband crashed badly and was completely paralyzed. From the stress, she, who was pregnant with twins, lost her children still unborn. In the first days and weeks of tragedy, I was unmoved by her because I felt she needed it. She was practically struggling to cope with the situation: her husband needed constant care, medication, special food. All summer I ran to nearby villages to buy environmentally friendly products for him, they needed money - I offered to give myself, arranged consultations with doctors, transport, etc. Then I felt that she needed to get used to this lifestyle, and that took time to rearrange her own agenda and priorities. I stayed available, but I waited for her to call whenever she wanted. He called, but rarely. Then she emotionally anchored herself and we started seeing each other again - at a restaurant, at a theater, at a concert - always outside her home, she needed to break away for two or three hours of her care. During these meetings, I couldn't help but ask how her husband was doing, she replied reluctantly, and once clearly said to me, "Look, my subject is unpleasant. I appreciate your concern and thank you for your support, but I've been dealing with Vladko all day, my whole life revolves around him and now that I've allowed myself to have a glass of wine in peace, I don't want to talk about it again.' I didn't get offended or pouted, I understood her, and now we're only talking about her husband if she's willing to do it. The other day, for example, he called me to boast that he could now sit alone and i was invited to visit to celebrate this achievement.
You see, author, my friend has clearly outlined the boundaries in which my presence brings her joy and beyond which it causes her discomfort. That's what you have to do. Say in a straight text that the topic of your divorce is unpleasant and that at this stage of your life you prefer to be alone, even if you appreciate the concerns of your friends. But be adamant and interrupt any attempt to talk that touches on the unpleasant question for you. If your friend is really concerned about you, she will not only understand you, but she will realize that right now the most important thing for you is to analyze the situation, reorganize your resources and adapt to the situation that you're new to, and that's not going to happen if someone's dealing with your own persona.
My opinion is that your girlfriend is either not very smart and deprived of any sense of tact, or she just doesn't care about you, or maybe both.
A woman's friendship doesn't exist. I don't let anyone think she's gotten under my skin and can use me.
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My mother is your age and has a "friend" similar with exactly the same complaints to her. Constantly some unsolicited advice, remarks about her figure and her life, etc. basically mom hasn't picked up her phone for a few months, I don't think she's going to do it, I think you should do the same.
Oh, yes, and this behavior is called malice and envy.
Up to 5. It was the same for me. My best friend, from childhood, was my husband, and at the same time she was dating me and making me sleep for how kind she was to me. He even called me my sister.
Her husband found out about the infidelity, my husband took two broken teeth, and she'd kick her. After the divorce, one child stayed with him, the other with her. Now she's looking for a husband.
I erased them both of my lives. I don't want his ex-money just not to show up in my life. If he wants to be a good father to our children, he can do it without intruding on me.
Get this woman out of your life, author.
There's no friendship between women, like two cobras being friends. There are only interests, gossip and spitting at the address of other envy and hypocrisy.
I think our level and mentality is a problem. Friendship in Bulgaria means knowing all the secrets and sharing everything. And there has to be a limit. You see someone, respect, and there, but it doesn't seem to work.
I'm in a similar situation, I'm married and I have everything like any family and we have some disagreements, and my childhood friend is alone and with nothing that was her choice. We've shared personal things, and now he's trying to convince me to get a divorce and that this would be the best solution. I'm increasingly asking myself, is this a friend at all...
Maybe the time has come.
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