Hello! I decided to write and ask if anyone had a problem like mine, because I no longer know if it's normal or not. I am a woman of 25 years. The problem is that when I have a relationship with someone, I find it hard to overcome it because I get attached. This does not mean that I call him or annoy him, as we said to myself, I don't look for them anymore, but then I suffer for long periods of time, even for people with whom we have not had anything more serious !!! I don't know what to do anymore, I just overcame someone, another appeared, the relationship ended and I was suffering again. A few years ago I had a relationship for 2 years, I was in love, we broke up because this man was not for me, and even now I know it's not for me. Nooo ... I suffered for 2 years for him. I still feel sick by the way and I remember even though a few years have passed since then. Then I had seen a man I liked a few times, but things did not work out. And I suffered for him for 1-2 years. The last case, which has already completely ruined me. A year ago I went out with a man, I liked it, but it wasn't for me. He is cool, funny with a sense of humor, but I felt that he did not want a serious relationship and I said to myself - I will not be with him so as not to suffer again with my attachment. Well, I told him there could be nothing between us. And what happened I still suffer for him, I still think and suffer even though there was nothing between us. It's been a year since then, and I haven't seen him or anything. Well, I don't know, I'm already afraid to start a relationship so I don't suffer. I started to overcome the latter, I hope finally. And what if I only suffer for someone, then I overcome it, another appears, we separate and I suffer again. How long is it going to be like this? What to do? I wanted to have a non-binding relationship with someone sometimes, but knowing that I would think about it again, I gave up. I don't know what to do, is this normal? This situation is already very difficult for me, I wish I didn't care so much but it's stronger than me. I envy people who are not so attached and when they break up with someone they quickly forget it. What can I do and is there anyone with the same problem?
1 Hot_Studentka answered
Sorry it will hurt to know I have been in pain for 5 months now and there is not a day that I don't get up and remember how and where we were, etc. You get used to it and isolate yourself and disappear and only something good would get you out of the situation when you they abandon but think of yourself you should never abandon. Good luck.