I am a 21-year-old girl and I have had a friend for half a year. He is great as a person, he treats me very well and I enjoy him.
There is only one problem that is starting to burden me more and more - my friend is too emotional. I am also emotional and at the beginning, I really liked that there was someone to listen to me and understand, and I was also glad that he shared a lot with me and we are so close. However, he turned out to be really too sensitive.
He cries every time we see each other. He constantly thinks nonsense, such as that I will hurt him, that I don't really love him, that he will not succeed in life, that everyone will be angry with him, and so on. In reality, he always finds something to breathe - as if he likes to be in a bad mood all the time. He is always very negative, but in reality, his life is ok - he is healthy, his relatives are healthy, he has good friends, a boyfriend, he is intelligent, he studies a good specialty at a good university. There are no problems.
That's why I can't understand why he is constantly sick of something. I myself always try to think positively and this whole thing starts to bother me a little.
Naturally, I keep listening to him every time and reassuring him, trying to convince him that life is not so terrible, but he seems to like to constantly cry and get depressed. It may be from the zodiac to some extent, because it is cancer, and according to my observations, many cancers are like that. I feel that if I continue like this with this roar every time, I will get emotionally tired too. In general, I need a relationship in which there are more positive emotions, I need to create good memories.
Otherwise, we don't fight with him at all, he is very decent as a person.
How do you think I can help him think more positively and realize that the world is not as awful a place as he thinks? I mentioned that I don't like that he's constantly sad, but I want to help him change his worldview, not just stop sharing with me and crying at home, and I don't even know.